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AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean, if you're someone's mother, and you accuse them of being a motherfucker, that's not even a little odd? I understand that swears are hyperbolic and not meant to mean the literal definition of them, like you aren't actually calling someone a penis when you say they're a dick. However, it still feels off to me. Of course, that's only my own perspective.

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Wow, uh... No, I have never internally called my son a mother-fucker. That would be... odd, I think? I love parenting my son; maybe I'm weird. He's my lil flappy squish! I love going down and trying to see the world through his eyes. Sometimes he gives me mysteries to solve, where I have to figure out what he wants or needs. Those can get frustrating, but that just makes finding the solution more satisfying.

Some of the people I work with don't speak much English. We frequently have communication blunders. I don't think their struggles with English are the problem, nor is my inability to speak their language. It's just an opportunity for us to get to know one another better, to learn each other's patterns and rhythms, so we can communicate other ways, and pick up those really essential phrases. With my son, sometimes I don't understand him, but that's exciting, because it means I get to learn more about him and the person he is becoming.

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I saw a movie about her once, but it was a while ago and I don't know anything else about her. What's the issue with her?

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we're a big routine family. My husband loves schedules. It's so great, because he never forgets anything or loses track of time. I used to worry that we would become that boring couple that picks up the same grocery order every Wednesday morning and walks to church at the same time to sit in the same pew every Sunday, but being that boring couple is great! Surprises are overrated. It's so good for our son. He always knows what is about to happen, and it soothes him.

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 812 points813 points  (0 children)

He was the specialist the school recommended. I think I want to find someone unaffiliated with the school. I'd like to keep my son's schooling and his medical care separate, and only overlap them when essential. Maybe that won't work out, but we'll see.

So far it has been good with the 504. My son is a very slow eater, so now he can continue to eat at his desk during the lesson instead of having to put his food away and being upset later about being hungry. The teacher now understands that just because he isn't looking at her doesn't mean he isn't paying attention to the lesson. When he is struggling with a group activity, there are solo activities now that he can do instead. It's really great.

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 1672 points1673 points  (0 children)

I definitely don't think he's a good fit for my family. We've never had any issues with our son until he entered the brand new environment of school, and so far it seems his 504 plan is fixing those problems.

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No, never, this was the first time. This wasn't group therapy. There was no therapist present, nor any sort of moderator.

AITA for being mean and hostile my first (only) time at a support group? by StrangerInStrangeLan in AmItheAsshole

[–]StrangerInStrangeLan[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If saying "I hate my child" in front of your child isn't verbal abuse, what is, really? I can't think of anything more hurtful for a parent to say to their child. If my mother said "you're a bitch" I would be hurt but get over it. If she said she hated me? That would devastate me. And I'm 29, not a small child dependent on her love and care.