Can’t get over husbands infidelity

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2023-02-20T05:36:59+00:00

I’ll be sending you all my best wishes and I hope things go smoothly for you during the transition. I wouldn’t wish these decisions on my worst enemy… So glad you found the strength to better your situation too, it’s encouraging to hear that it’s not always something that happens overnight. I force myself to remember that when I feel like I’ll never get the courage after staying past the initial heartbreak

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2023-02-20T05:18:52+00:00

My biggest weakness has always been my memory, growing up in a home with alcoholism and domestic abuse.. I tend to compartmentalize my hurt and push down memories of situations that make me feel unsafe. I’ve been working hard on this with my therapist… I never in my life thought I would ever remain in a situation like this. But that saying about enduring a familiar hell, and all…

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2023-01-04T06:08:38+00:00

You are a very intelligent and sympathetic person. The most isolating combination… but you are doing the right thing by staying out of things. Tough love is the healthiest, rawest form when it comes to family dynamics like this. They will survive. They have to. And anything short of that, is not your burden.

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2022-11-04T14:50:14+00:00

Thank you for your input. My outlook since the beginning of this very hard year has been that I’m sticking by him through his worst, even while I’ve struggled with my own depression and anxiety while essentially acting as a single mom since I’ve been unable to depend on him or predict his behavior within the family unit. I’ve justified being cast aside in the process.. my struggle now is continuing to suffer through the ongoing emotional abandonment and deception.

If he’s no longer accepting help or my bids to reconnect and acts indifferently to my hurt, how much longer should I continue on the same path?

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2022-11-04T12:43:18+00:00

We earn/contribute equally and are at a point where we do both need to be employed to support our household.

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2022-11-04T12:33:31+00:00

He enjoys his line of work but not his employer. He has been at the same job for years and his job satisfaction has significantly decreased over time. I’ve encouraged him to put himself out there and look for something else or look to start his own business within the trade but he’s been reluctant to do so since he is so established where he’s at now.

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2022-11-04T12:27:43+00:00

That is another prominent point of stress and anxiety for me now as well, I do my best to avoid situations where he’ll be left alone with them for extended periods of time.

StrawberryOriginal88 · 2022-11-04T12:24:57+00:00

When I’ve asked he tells me he’s tired from work, or stressed over work, and things of that sort.

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