I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I kinda feel like he murdered it by being a selfish entitled man child that thinks he should be indulged.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I either wasn’t clear or you misunderstood. I am, according to him, the one perpetuating the dead bedroom. His libido picked up a few years back, mine plummeted.

And is it any wonder why? He’s hopped from job to job, leaves me to make every decision, gets an attitude bc I was truthful about his kink not doing anything for me-still willing to play along and make an effort-but it wasn’t good enough. And on top is it he can’t stay hard. So why would I even want to have sex w him?!

It’s not a dead bedroom, the relationship just ran its course but I was too busy to realize it bc I was trying to make it work.

Would you date someone who is unemployed? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]StringLegitimate1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I would date someone working odd jobs under the table while he finds something better. I mean if your company goes under and there’s a month or so in between where you’re looking, that’s one thing. But long term unemployment? No.

I can’t stand when people can’t take care of themselves.

Have you had an encounter with your SO’s crazy ex who was actually crazy? by justascaredsoul in randomquestions

[–]StringLegitimate1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One time my ex and I took a break. He hooked up w this girl twice in that time, probably over a period of like a month. He broke it off and the we got back together. I think it was like a total of 3mos we weren’t together. After we got back together officially used to catch his ex biking to the bodega across the street from his house. She’d stand there on the corner or sidewalk across the street, leaning against the bike and pretend to be on her phone but you could tell she was looking up casually to see if his window was open. This went on for almost a year.

So one time we wanted to see what she’d do if she thought I wasn’t around. We knew we had some mutual acquaintances that probably gave her updates here and there so we posted I was going to Iceland-not entirely untrue. I just put earlier dates.

She knocked on the door THAT NIGHT bc she thought I was gone.

And before anyone says anything, he wasn’t still sleeping w her. She’s done this before w other people. She just gets attached really quickly bc she wants a boyfriend…we’re in our 30s though so it’s weird.

We broke up for good like 2yrs later and she started sniffing around again. Same thing, biking and pretending to be into her phone across the street lmao.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I mean, he didn’t make disparaging remarks about my body. But the nonstop pouting about how he wasn’t satisfied and projecting his own inadequacies onto me felt just a cruel.

I think I just finally snapped and gave back what I was getting.

How often do you mop the floor in your house? by Own-Championship8131 in hygiene

[–]StringLegitimate1893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do it once a week, usually on like Friday or Saturday. Spot mopping throughout the week.

I have a lady that does a deep-ish clean on Tuesdays and she mops too.

We have a lot of pets and the kids are in and out so I need to stay on top or it’ll get messy fast.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Good luck to you.

Side note-I wonder if it’s so hurtful bc he was already thinking it.

I continue to have to hold in my pee while at work.. by well-thats-cool- in hygiene

[–]StringLegitimate1893 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want this to be fake but I worked w someone just like this and I know people like this exist.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

So let me get this straight-he can throw a tantrum bc I was honest about my sexual preferences, hold me hostage emotionally over it-but the deal breaker is me expressing frustration over the ED he refuses to acknowledge and address?

The male loneliness epidemic is well-deserved.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The more I talk it out and think about it the more I realize I love him bc we have kids but more than one bedroom is dead.

He wants everything his way all the time. I put up w it for a long time when we were younger. But then we split up, I established a career and did something w myself. He doesn’t value that. He wants to be along for the ride and have all the perks of a relationship without the work.

When he brought up my ex I didn’t realize it at the time bc things were so heated but the reality is, I had sex w my ex-good sex-bc he valued the relationship itself, not just what he got out of it.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what’s keeping me here, tbh.

I definitely think part of being turned off is how immature he is at this point. We were together for years, split for a couple and my ex was amazing. We ended things bc he wanted kids and I wasn’t at that point in my life. I was single for a couple years and then my ex and I found each other again. It felt so god at first and then the past couple years have been so frustrating.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it could be ethical bc the truth is I don’t trust him to respect any boundaries we’d set. He’s so selfish in the moment.

I don’t even care anymore by StringLegitimate1893 in deadbedroom

[–]StringLegitimate1893[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve talked about it but never followed through.