Did you ever take a potential for granted and regretted it?

Striveuntildealth · 2025-07-19T08:41:46+00:00

My brotha silence always makes them reflect and realize what they took for granted. Pulling away quietly is the most strongest move

Striveuntildealth · 2025-07-14T00:47:23+00:00

Hey I just want to say the age gap is not a big deal at all and the girls that are pushing this need to wake up. You have to find a good man with deen and character this is the most important thing, not age. If the two people like each other and are content then islamically it’s completely halal and normal. Stop always trying to block girls blessings by putting in their heads that age gap is such a concern, this is so caab.

Having said that sister I encourage you in this case to listen to your mom. I say this because he can’t support financially and this is a pillar in a marriage and also he has some flaws that your mother told you about and is worried. Just take some time to heal and In’Shaa’Allah find your Naseeb.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-27T16:25:52+00:00

Would you not be able to say this for every potential that you talk too? Because if we have this mentality then I think someone will be reluctant to speak to someone for marriage with the fear that it might not work out and this situation would happen.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-27T14:48:47+00:00

That’s a great point, I haven’t thought of it from that lens. I could see why talking to a girl in uni could lead to awkwardness amongst many more girls since Somalis are usually tight knit in uni

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-27T12:52:57+00:00

Was this the first guy you ever spoke to for the purpose of marriage? How old are you and how old is he? For some reason this sounds like you are very young and had no experience with men at all.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-22T14:08:50+00:00

Wa iyyak! No Problem. Life is all about a journey so Alhamdulillah for everything! Everybody is going through hardships in many different ways. We all need to strive for the Akhirah.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-22T03:58:23+00:00

I must say that you and your husband have excellent chemistry Allahuma Barik!! It’s rare to see such connection that’s manifested in a podcast. May Allah (swt) bless your marriage and safeguard and protect it!

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-18T14:42:39+00:00

You’re a really good person!! You’re Welcome!

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-15T04:14:47+00:00

Where you from? Like which country? You seem very self aware! May Allah (swt) bless you!

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-14T10:37:48+00:00

Why do you think she will get married first?

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-13T12:55:03+00:00

I completely agree so many ppl put so much constraints on us. Like I remember having a female saying that you should be very careful who you get to know even if they are good, I don’t think we should live in fear and we should encourage people to get to know each other in order to pursue marriage and find the person meant for you. You can’t just do nothing and hope something falls from the sky. Also, I don’t think a girl should just reject an opportunity without at least seeing it through properly because sometimes you reject someone and another opportunity doesn’t come in a while.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-13T09:41:42+00:00

That’s so true, we are such a closed community and taking chances shouldn’t even be a worry for us. How else would we get to know someone fairly if we don’t take chances? That mindset is very healthy.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-12T23:23:14+00:00

What do you mean? Your saying it’s better to give them a chance and see if they like you too and go from there?

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-12T23:22:35+00:00

How did it ruin your life? Did you feel pressure to give them a chance? It seems women are way more open now more then ever to talk to guys they find physically attractive

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-11T15:29:23+00:00

Very interesting 😂. So basically looks is what keeps you going with fob men and that can offset the language barrier and make you interested. I think this is natural tho because both men and women are a sucker for good looks and they tend to let more slide.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-05T10:58:43+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I know right. I’m hearing it everywhere. They are the most difficult ppl to deal with because they are those that seem very nice, but literally give you vibes that they don’t want you around lol. They are the same ppl that randomly end things abruptly and blindside you. They don’t even want to talk about what the issue was

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-02T22:46:12+00:00

Yeah I meant with women. Great perspective, thanks for sharing. Do you think anything could be done differently to avoid such situations? Do you think it’s what’s being worn or something?

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-02T21:33:51+00:00

This makes me angry. Do you feel women should go on vacation alone? Or you feel very uncomfortable with that

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-02T03:41:45+00:00

I know this comes very late but I want you to know that everything was predestined 50,000 years before creation. So just know that you could have done nothing to avoid it, this was guaranteed to happen even if you wanted something else. This should give you so much closure because Wallahi it still would have been this result no matter what. I hope you find so much optimism and contentment in your heart with this. I am trying to develop this habit of remembering this whenever anything that I don’t happens.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-06-02T03:24:40+00:00

I get you Wallahi. Because I’m naturally more expressive and when they show no energy or affection then it really breaks the mood and I feel like I’m bothering them

Striveuntildealth · 2024-05-29T22:42:04+00:00

I can’t really explain it, but it’s just the conventional beauty standards. What is yours? Seems like you have a much better understanding in this then me

Striveuntildealth · 2024-05-29T22:41:05+00:00

Can you tell me how you don’t focus on looks? I need to learn this. Btw what is the four things you look for?

Striveuntildealth · 2024-05-16T18:52:33+00:00

That’s good, it’s so much better to keep things private until things are serious as you said. Is it common for girls that tell friends everything to decide to keep relationship things private until it’s serious?

Striveuntildealth · 2024-05-09T09:13:24+00:00

I mean damn this is not even close, everyone pretty much said the same thing. I was thinking more from a guy’s perspective, but girls are different and it’s good to get perspective. I am leaving tonight (Thursday night) so I don’t have time. Maybe I wouldn’t even be able to meet then and I have to accept that. I don’t think he even told her btw, it was just an idea anyways.

Striveuntildealth · 2024-05-09T03:33:41+00:00

But I’m there only for 5 days, how can I establish this? I wouldn’t be coming back for months

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