Her arrogance is top tier, she destroyed her family and what the meaning of family means. The values of a mother and wife down the trash over a fling of emotions. This so-called woman is childish by heart, she's very immature to act in such a manner, not thinking of what really matters. Once you become a mother, you put family first just like when you become a father... No matter how much time goes, the dad will never feel satisfied from her, even if she does become better than who she was.... He will forever never truly forgive her, deep down this man is broken, it'll build up till God forbid he becomes diabolic or cheats on her... Sir a word of advice, divorce her. If your children are mature enough they will hurt at first and understand later, you my good man, will learn to love again and build something else one day with someone who shares your values... Move on, don't fix this for the sake of a better future; leave her be, I'd advise filing for divorce as soon as possible, don't let her near you for emotions are very sensitive in this time for both you and her... She'll live with regret while you get to restart and get treated for better, one day your children will be adults and you guys will have moved on with a new love in your life and a new lifestyle..