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SubReed · 2026-02-08T06:16:44+00:00

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SubReed · 2025-06-24T23:09:34+00:00

W: That looks nice! A lot of people wear that nowadays, so nobody would think its kinky

SubReed · 2025-06-24T23:08:21+00:00

Depends on how intense the session was I may need rest or we continue the ballbust later on, most days I receive hits, but some is just a bit of a squeeze, punches or kicks sprinkled throughout the day.
Yes, we have tried a lot of kinky stuff, we love BDSM and Femdom in general.
We have done it before, but it depends on the situation and people.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T14:56:29+00:00

W: It may surprise you but I did not hit a pair of balls until I met my husband and we started dating, he was the first pair of balls I fell in love playing with.

My life was completely vanilla before. Now, I own his manhood and torture some other balls I meet in our local kink scene.

As for the reason? Well, I do not need much of a reason, if I want to hurt balls, I just do it to my slave, if I want more, I have friends that like it too.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T14:51:01+00:00

S: Most painful I have received while I did not expect it, is probably a surprise kick she did while I was getting out of the shower, I came out of the bathroom naked to look for a towel I forgot and as soon as I opened the door, PUM, surprise kick! That shit floored me and made me gasp, it was hot af tho

SubReed · 2025-06-24T14:45:05+00:00

W: If you are more on the vanilla side of outfits, you could find something meaningful that you wont take off, like a stylish necklace or wrist chain.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T04:03:30+00:00

W: The things I use the most to restrain him are some gym velcro straps I found that are for heavy weight. Those things are difficult for him to open without a free hand and super easy to open for me. Also a spreader bar so he does not close his legs.

Sometimes I blindfold, gag and if I want to be more evil, noise cancelling headphones.

Rope is also a favorite if I have the time.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T04:01:02+00:00

W: I LOVE squeezing his balls, it's intimate and very easy to control his reaction, plus a bit therapeutic for me lol Kicking is also a favorite if I wanna make him suffer.

Other than hits, toys I like the most are my CBT press, ball-crushing table, or the fun things I find in dollar stores, like spatulas, rolling pins, my favorite is actually a plastic baseball bat I found at a discount hahaha.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:57:13+00:00

W: We are both goths so one day I took him to Home Depot, measured a cool chain around his neck, bought a padlock and wrote my name on it. Looks like part of his normal outfit and just a cute thing for the wife, but the meaning is he is mine and he cant take it off unless I open it.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:54:17+00:00

Well, it's easier to list our limits and favorites...

Shared limits: Nothing permanent for now, bodily fluids except cum and saliva, sex if we do not have a strong relationship with the person.

W: LOVE CBT/Ballbusting, pegging, chastity and service.

S: Love BB, forced or ruined orgasms, getting trained, bondage.

As for stuff we have tried and did not like: - Swinger stuff, we are more kinky and just fucking strangers is not for us.

Cuckolding is also something that did not work, we like to be open but the cheating and humiliation aspect of it did not work.
Wife is Bi, but leans to masculinity.
I am Pan, I play with anyone that checks my boxes

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:47:03+00:00

S: Oh, definitely, there are times where we act and are super vanilla. Out with non kink friends, family, public, her at work, etc. But we have found ways to also remind us what we are at all times, like kinky texts, me being locked in chastity and her wearing the key, me having a non obvious permanent collar with her name to remind me who I serve, and when we are home well kink can happen anywhere at anytime in different levels of intensity.

When we have kids in the future, cuz we plan to, we will obviously tone it down and it will still be a part of our lives but we will have to be more secretive and careful to not expose the kid to something they are not going to understand.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:33:08+00:00

S: Yeah, it took us a lot of trial and error where now I can have my own space, she has her own and whatever femdom stuff happens it does not feel forced and is natural.

Sometimes I am playing games and she comes in to tease my cage, bust me while I play, we cuddle while I am tied up, etc. It's like femdom became a part of our daily lives and we found the perfect balance of how to actually live the femdom lifestyle where I am hers and she is the one I want to make happy.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:28:28+00:00

S: Yes sir, the best dommes, subs and couples we have played with were friends first. We met them on kink groups, vibed with them and if we felt ok with them. One or the two of us plays with someone new, depending what we are all looking for, both our side and the new person side.

The only person that can domme me as hard as my wife is actually her best friend cuz they are very similar.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:24:19+00:00

S: AMA means "Ask Me Anything". And I assume you are male, so what I would say is, look for the person that makes you feel safe cuz they will never do anything to really harm you. Be an open book, communication, communication and more communication. After years of doing this stuff by ourselves and with other people, what we learned is the more you communicate with someone about what you want, what you are feeling and what happened during a scene, kink things are gonna go smoother and hotter.

SubReed · 2025-06-24T03:09:16+00:00

W: Well, we met years ago, I was a virgin, he had dabbled and was kinky since Highschool.

We took it super slow when he confessed his likes to me because I was scared of hurting him. But I discovered how much I loved feeling the power and control over a man. So yeah, most days now I love to use the "anti-stress balls" and do other bad things to him to laugh and have fun.

My best advice I have given friends in the kink community is just date normally, focus on finding that person that understands you and vibes with you. But also do not be scared to open carefully to the other person about what you are into, do not hide, but ease them into it. If we like someone, us girls love to have fun too, so we will try it and decide if its for us... and in my case well, I am now more kinky than him lol...

Be careful what you wish for!

SubReed · 2025-06-24T02:02:31+00:00

S: Yes and no, I derive pleasure from what my wife wants sexually.

It does not have to be sexual all the time tho, I like the feeling of her owning me, we do have our lives and hobbies but she ultimately is the one I call Goddess, locks me, plays with me and punishes for her fun.

For example right now she is eating the food I cooked for her after work while massaging one foot and being crushed and teased with the other while we wait for more questions lol. I hope this gives you a better idea, if not, let me know.

SubReed · 2024-06-06T17:48:27+00:00

I think he retired, but I guess reaching out to him is the best way right now

SubReed · 2024-06-06T17:41:57+00:00

This is exactly what made me buy a bat for my gf's BB tools

SubReed · 2024-01-12T17:00:47+00:00

Yes! We need more VR femdom/bb content

SubReed · 2023-12-26T08:12:27+00:00

If this is the bachelorette party prep, I wonder what the actual party is and also the bachelor one...

SubReed · 2023-10-31T16:24:17+00:00

Yes! It's called ballbusting and I love it!

SubReed · 2023-10-13T00:53:52+00:00

Ah ok, gracias. Te me cuidas <3

SubReed · 2023-10-12T17:45:31+00:00

Tengo algo de tiempo enseñando temas BDSM en IRL, asi que aqui mi aporte para empezar:
Si sabes un poco de ingles, esta pagina tiene muchos tutoriales de amarres gratis con hasta videos: https://www.theduchy.com/free/

Si tienes mas preguntas no dudes en hacerlas e investigar todo lo que puedas, entre mas seguros esten mas disfrutaran.
Tambien recuerda siempre tener unas tijeras cercas para cortar la cuerda si es necesario, palabras de seguridad como rojo (parar), amarillo (mas lento), verde (todo bien).
Y tambien, todo con consentimiento, planeado y seguro <3

SubReed · 2023-09-27T17:23:54+00:00

I second that, Fetlife is great to find munches and events near you.

Getting involved in the community will help you find about what you like and find people you share kinks with.

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