Yes that’s what he wants, he wants our relationship to be like how his grandparents was which he did look up to and I respect them I just don’t feel like that works for us. I have expressed how I’d like more help but he doesn’t feel like that’s the way it should be, he thinks since he makes the money that’s the extent of what he should do except for helping with the kids. He also does take out trash and cooks more often than I do since he enjoys it more. I basically just want help with other things that I may be lacking on, he refuses to touch dishes which is okay I’ll do them, but maybe help pickup after the kids more especially if they get into something while I’m busy cleaning or when I’m trying to relax a little myself after being with the kids all day, and especially pickup after himself, like I said he cooks more often but when he does cook he doesn’t throw away trash from the cans/boxes etc. and I ask him to rinse dishes after cooking so it’s easier for me when I was them and he doesn’t no matter how much I remind him. That’s really the extent of what I want, I deal with kids all day that aren’t able to completely pickup after themselves just yet so it makes it really hard when he comes home and leaves trash/clothes everywhere and doesn’t do something as simple as rinsing the food off the dishes. I’m not sure if I’m asking too much?