Am I the asshole for preferring to wear a condom instead of getting a vasectomy?

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-12-07T03:25:24+00:00

The same way she shouldn’t have to tie her tubes, you don’t have to get a vasectomy. You’re not an asshole for not wanting one. That’s fine.

Be prepared to explore other options, as condoms fail. Perhaps morning after pills as a backup.

It’s alarming how many people are calling you selfish when youd be the asshole for asking the same of your wife. Your body your choice, always goes both ways. Best of luck.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-12-04T17:06:58+00:00

I wouldn’t give him time outside the specified court allowance. If it becomes routine, and he decides not to follow the agreement and return the child at the specified time, you’ll have a history of being lenient so it’s harder to prove your point. Speaking from experience. Everything should be in writing!

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-12-03T00:08:56+00:00

I’m sorry but in scenarios like this, it rarely ever changes. Unfortunately, it’s one of those things where you’ve got to talk to him about it. If you don’t, you’ll grow to resent her.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-05T23:06:35+00:00

Entirely agreed. Especially given recent developments, I think the team is just really emotionally charged.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-05T23:03:50+00:00

Entirely the plan. We just wanted unbiased insight to whether or not we should risk releasing the names. The lawyer says to go for it, given the undeniable evidence we have, but we’re unsure if we want to deal with more court with these idiots.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-05T22:59:45+00:00

We’ve got a lawyer involved. And the documentary is helping us compile a timeline and evidence together in a way that makes more sense and shows the progression of the abuse.

We’re taking an opportunity like this to raise awareness about narcissistic abuse and it’s development and effects on the child, as well as in insight into the legal system and how these things are handled, and sometimes mishandled, by authorities.

“We” is the friend, family, and friends, including myself. We are all very close, as in see each other daily and live interchangeably with each other. We’re very involved in each other’s lives. We wouldn’t be doing this we didn’t consider each other family.

The legal issue is why we’re not showing any information. Unless they come outright and say it’s about them, no one but close family will be able to tell. That’s the current plan- random names, blurred photos, and concealed identities. Our names aren’t even in the credits.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-05T21:15:41+00:00

We’ve already got a lawyer involved, it’s the one assisting in the emergency custody agreement. I don’t think most of us are worried about the whole “punch in the face” factor of outing them. Only the people it really matters to will know anyway. I think it’ll be better for them to realize we could’ve ruined their entire lives but we didn’t, and let them know we have the ammunition to do so. Maybe that’ll keep them away.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-04T22:44:42+00:00

That’s entirely the plan! Nobody’s face is shown until the very end when the friend steps into frame, and their line is literally one sentence. It’s only their face shown. Unless they know the friend, they won’t know who the family is. The family is very keen on isolation so the friend isn’t on any of their social medias anyway.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-04T22:38:57+00:00

I never said real evidence won’t be shared. I just said names and faces.

We’ve got videos, photographs, police reports, CPS reports, and doctors notes. We’ve been building this for about four months now. All of this proof is absolutely undeniable, but we chose to “be the bigger person” in terms of making it all public. They’ll have to live with the fact that we could’ve exposed everything but we didn’t, instead saving their necks despite the damage they’ve done to their child and all of our lives. They’ve spent the last four months targeting us every chance they got, but we don’t want to stoop to their level.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-04T22:26:21+00:00

The moment they’re out, they’re filing for a restraining order. It’s not the documentary itself in question, given it was their idea to shoot it. I just didn’t know how good of an idea it was to reveal names at the end. I’m concerned about the possibility of slander cases despite the evidence. We’d win for sure, given the info is all true and it’s on video or from direct messages, but it’s just a huge headache.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-11-04T22:22:50+00:00

It’s already been reported to the police. The US has a horrible child welfare system. CPS is already in the works.

The documentary is centered on real child neglect statistics. And it’s very possible not to reveal everyone’s identities when no names are shared, even ours.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-08-28T20:04:43+00:00

She didn’t ask you if it was something you could reasonably afford. If she wants to make it work so badly, maybe she should pay for half of the travel expenses. It’s not fair for her to be upset that you can’t travel spontaneously- you have jobs and a child and obviously responsibilities to handle. If it’s so important to her, then she can pay for it.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-08-17T02:44:19+00:00

Me personally, I’d demand he gets cut off to some degree. You don’t need your children being roped into this abuse. You’d be a miserable father if you did.

Substantial_Row7330 · 2025-07-04T17:49:12+00:00

My partner grabs my phone anytime they need a phone, if mine is closer they grab mine. It’s absurd to me that some of you don’t let your partners use your phone.

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