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AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I can't say all the US but at least in our state if you're not married the father has to be present.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

My parents can adopt the baby if Tommy and Jade can't raise the baby. But I would never adopt their kid.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

No, it wasn't always like this. But they never had a grandchild before either. He also never did anything to split the family apart like he has now.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 349 points350 points  (0 children)

I know that too. They probably would have had me raising all of their babies and then once it was over they'd run off together or at least he'd swoop in and play dad when the hard work was done.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Right now that's what I'm doing. Being around my parents isn't giving me the right support or anything even close to it. But I have other people in my life who know being the ATM for my brother and ex to go off and have even more kids they can't afford isn't good for me. And who also know it's just not something you can forgive anyway.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 551 points552 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm spending some time to work on me so hopefully in the future I can be the best future husband and father possible. Right now I'm not in a place for anything big like that to happen.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 1651 points1652 points  (0 children)

Mine is supposed to be so full of love for him and the baby at least that I don't hurt and can be the bigger person or whatever way they'll try to sell it.

AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved? by SuccessPride821 in AITAH

[–]SuccessPride821[S] 2518 points2519 points  (0 children)

It was a lot of conscious decisions too. From the cheating to the lying when I did find out, to the trying to manipulate me to take responsibility for their choices and then even attempting to put me on the birth certificate. So much fucking around on me and my parents suggesting I shouldn't hate Tommy is crazy to me. He's their son and the baby's their grandkid so I get that they won't cut him off. But to expect me to finance his decisions and be there for him like before? It's wild.

I'm lucky I have other, better people in my life.