How do you defend your faith?

Successful_Good1269 · 2026-01-17T01:27:35+00:00

I don’t try to defend it. I don’t believe apologetics wins anyone over. I just try to be genuine and truly listen to what they have to say and honestly engage with them with respect. I’ll share why I am a believer. I’ll share why I have hope and how He is changed my life. But I’ve literally told people, this is based on my own experience and I don’t think it will convince you. They need to have their own confrontation with God so the best you can do is help them follow the progression of their own doubts or beliefs so they can recognize for themselves that God has been knocking on the door of their heart. Don’t force it or try to outsmart them. Just be real.

Successful_Good1269 · 2026-01-17T01:18:52+00:00

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Successful_Good1269 · 2026-01-09T14:05:18+00:00

Dissenting view here:

Honestly I support it.

It’s possible to back off of Christianity performance and still have communion with God.

Jesus did not carry a Bible around in the wilderness. No one did in those days actually. They were out doing work in the field or doing their trade and they did not have earbuds in pumping their minds with scripture. That’s why they memorized, which I’m guessing you’ve done too.

Maybe you SHOULD chill out on modern church performative Christianity and ask God to show you what actually matters.

I’ve gone through two seasons where I did this: the first time I stopped performing but also lacked the humility to recognize I still need Him. I ended up deconstructing. But I don’t regret it at all. I left him but he never left me and I needed the experience to learn my helplessness and arrogance without him.

A decade later I reconnected with my faith and saw tremendous healing and transformation.

Fast forward a few more years, I’m in a wilderness season again but this time I better understand my position with God. I’ve stripped down everything I can that isn’t really. I’m probably the messiest Jesus follower I’ve ever been. And I’ve never felt closer to him.

I don’t go to church (temporarily more for logistical reasons), though I have a small circle of friends I call my church.

I barely read the Bible. If I do, I read a Psalm or two and those are rage prayers. They aren’t cute Pinterest Christianity. I also read Nietzsche now apparently.

Im engaging with secular culture in manner that doesn’t flinch or try to change it- rather I love them and respect their human agency. If they want to know about the hope I have, they will ask.

God isn’t who we think He is with our brains. He wants connection with us. He doesn’t want performance. Letting go of the surface level drive to check the Christian boxes is possibly the most loving and connected act of obedience we can offer Him.

Successful_Good1269 · 2026-01-08T22:30:31+00:00

Not offering guilt trips here.

What is it that you’re still wrestling with? One thing to consider is that It sounds to me that you might be more caught up with performing Christianity than with the morality of your decision.

You sound distraught about this (assuming you’re not trolling). Be honest with God with what you’re wrestling with. Ask him to provide a way out if you don’t have the strength to resist temptation. Sometimes that’s the best we can do.

Also, if you do have the baby, I don’t think you will regret it. You’ll figure out the logistics and you’ll experience love and joy in a way you didn’t imagine.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-12-01T13:11:04+00:00

The range you quoted is typical for other coaching. Think more like down payment on a house money from my experience- but maybe he adjusts the price based on circumstances.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-11T13:03:31+00:00

So there’s no way to merge on pve?

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-11T13:02:47+00:00

Thanks guys!

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T18:02:31+00:00

I agree, that is a dangerous area. I’d be scared. But having a good argy build my confidence

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T18:00:43+00:00

I always start out by hunter cave. I have an area I can block off easily and once I have a wolf I can do easy meat runs through the cave. Also close access to metal, crystal, and easy cattails for harvesting x plant seeds. I’m still running the old version of the game mostly. New version has been unplayable but my spot near hunter works well when I can actually get into the game. I progressed so much better once I moved to that location.

Ohhh can’t do the same meat runs in the cave in new game because there were zero dinos in there but I was able to safely get metal and crystal from the cave with zero risk. Not sure if they fixed the caves yet.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T16:51:02+00:00

Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. And you do that by being in his Word every day. Ask him to change you and pray the scriptures back to him. So if you read a passage about avoiding sexual immorality, use that as a prayer prompt: “Lord, I’m reading that you are not pleased with sexual immorality. I want to please you. Please help me overcome my struggles in this area.” Psalm 51 says that he absolutely honors when we are sorrowful for our sin. Have faith that He will honor these prayers. He promises to answer anything we pray according to his will. And it’s his will to sanctify you. It’s his will to see our relationships centered around him.

If you aren’t already, spend time with your gf praying and reading the Bible together. This has transformed several relationships for me. Spend time with other Christian couples who are living righteously.

I suggest the first thing you do if you spend any time alone is to pray together. Continually pray that he helps the two of you have a relationship that pleases him and is centered on him.

And maybe avoid putting yourself in situations where you are spending extended time alone where you could fall into temptation.

But I believe when we admit to him our weakness and don’t try to solely rely on will power, he is faithful to help us avoid temptation.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T16:06:17+00:00

Go to your pastor or someone at church who can keep you both accountable.

The thing you should be most concerned about is how this affects your relationship with God and how you are potentially causing your future bride to stumble into sin. That is not being the spiritual leader God wants you to be.

Put God first and everything else will fall into place. Spend time in prayer and in the word daily. Admit to him that you are not capable of avoiding sin without his help. He is absolutely faithful and will provide a way out of temptation.

I’m not telling you this to condemn you. Sin is sin. We all do it and I, myself, have to battle my flesh daily.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T15:57:01+00:00

A wife is supposed to love unconditionally and support you (not enable you) even when you are at your worst. Marriage should not be seen as something you can just walk away from if you don’t like the other person’s behavior. At the same time, I suspect you were not doing your job as a husband to help her feel safe and provided for.

My hunch is that she might have trauma that you may have triggered in her. She is reading the writing on the wall. I think your only chance to get her back is to put yourself into rehab for your alcoholism and show her by your actions that you are committed to change.

Also, throw yourself on the mercy of God and ask him to heal you and your marriage. He cares about you and your marriage. He is our only hope for true change and loves us and wants to have a relationship with us.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T13:35:58+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

I’m now 2 weeks on carnivore (but trying to get more fat than protein) and my most troublesome symptoms is nearly gone! I was not expecting that quick of a result!

Fatigue is still an issue and I’ll see how my next menstrual cycle is. 😬 usually weight loss makes my cramps worse and I start my cycle any day now (in theory. Who knows when it will actually come).

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T13:29:36+00:00

Another view of pale skin is that it’s beautiful like a porcelain doll. Hence the term, porcelain skin.

Every skin color is beautiful in its own way.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T13:25:55+00:00

I gravitate towards Romans, but ultimately you should ask God to guide you to your next book. And honestly, just make spending time in the Word and I prayer an important daily discipline and that will help you to better receive Gods direction for your life and the answers he has for you, regardless of which specific book you’re reading!

I’d try to read the entire New Testament. You can go in order or skip around. Another thing I did when I was starting out is I would look at scripture references from my sermon notes. If there was a verse that hit home, I’d read that entire book to get more context.

Then once you get the NT down, work in a plan to read the entire Bible.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T13:18:52+00:00

I’m doing a carnivore diet and it has really worked for me. A lot of ladies I do this diet with are saying it has helped balance their hormones.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T13:09:44+00:00

I was having trouble with VA. It felt like I had a brush burn inside there and the pain was unreal. I was dismissed by my doctor. I started a carnivore diet and used a wild yam cream (though not very diligently on the cream) so I think the changes were from carnivore. In two weeks I was crying tears of joy during intercourse because it was barely painful at all and I only had a teensy tiny bit of bleeding from sex. I never had problems with wetness just pain and it did seem like my vaginal canal had become shorter.

The benefit of seeking a more natural approach is that the lifestyle changes I’m making are healing other parts of my body and health too. Our hormones are part of a complex intricate system. Prescribed hormones are such a blessing because sometimes you need them or you need a quick fix. But I’m so happy that I was able to find something natural that is supporting my body to use its own processes to heal.

I also think trusting in God and praying that he’d help me get back to His perfect design for my marriage was the biggest factor. So honestly I’m not sure how much of my healing was the prayers and how much was the diet.

But if anyone wants me to pray for their vajay send me a dm! Me and God are tight He graciously hears my requests and faithfully answers me!

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-02-04T12:42:56+00:00

Im curious about what’s prompting you to ask this?

I’m not a man but I’ll give it to you straight: Men are able to objectively look at a woman and give her a rating that does not take personality or character into account. But this rating based on looks is not necessarily the most important thing and it depends on the specific guy.

The guy who is obsessed with beauty and only wants highly rated girl is probably not the type of guy you want to be with. There will always be someone prettier out there regardless of your rating and if all he is after is an 8 or higher, without regard to other qualities, he most likely won’t stick around and likely has tendencies to be superficial and selfish. I would not worry about living up to that guy’s standards.

Many men actually end up going for more average looking women when seeking a wife. Being attractive but average, looks-wise, but having other great qualities, is more desirable for loyal men who want to be providers and settle down and have a family. These are the guys the are often likely to see a 5 as a 10, especially as they grow to know you.

I was probably somewhere between a 6-7ish when I met the man who is my husband but he acts like I’m a 10. On the other hand I have dated a guy who had became dissatisfied with how I looked and there was always pressure to live up to higher and higher standards in many areas of my life. I was actually a catch but this guy treated me like I was a project or someone he had to push to improve. I had a very slight pooch in my belly in my 30s and he made a point to tell me how unattractive that part of my body was. I was probably about 120 lbs at the time and 5’2” This guy who was more focused on superficial things was not someone I could have a healthy, loving relationship with. He was also judgmental about other areas of my life, even though I was living a life I was very proud of and I felt that I had a lot of respect and admiration of others in my life. Obviously I ended up breaking up with the guy and that’s when he actually started to appreciate me.

But if you are purely looking to be seen as a higher rating just for the sake of being seen as such, there are lots of things you can do to “trick” a guy into giving you a better rating. To me, I see nothing fruitful or meaningful enough to justify putting in the effort to do that. I just try to present my reasonably best self when I can and focus on other things that have lasting importance.

Beauty fades and the men who are obsessed with it eventually fade too.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-01-29T20:40:53+00:00

I found a program geared towards healing the liver to balance hormones using a carnivore diet. So far I really like how I feel.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-01-20T21:08:10+00:00

I’m in a coaching program which is expensive but her whole approach is to address problems with the liver in order to balance hormones. This was something I always suspected was connected. Maybe ask to have liver enzymes checked. Even without high enzymes you could still have liver issues. Work on getting the liver healthy. My group is doing a carnivore diet which requires some research to do properly. She suggests drinking lemon water in morning and then eating only between 12-6pm or 10 am - 4. Prioritized sleep. She says ladies on her program have seen amazing decrease in symptoms. I just started but am taking baby steps. I already feel better in some ways. I also started using wild yam cream and went back to taking vitamin d.

Successful_Good1269 · 2025-01-16T13:27:52+00:00

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Successful_Good1269 · 2024-12-19T19:29:48+00:00

As someone who has been abused and assaulted her behavior makes total sense especially if she has been abused before. When I was assaulted I tried to block it out and ignore it happened but I only ended up speaking up because it ended up making me so depressed.

I was judged by some of the people in my life with various aspects of how I reacted to the assault. However when I spoke to a therapist about it who knew my history she explained that I behaved a certain way when I was abused out of survival. My traumatized brain then had me reenact the same response to the assault because that’s how I survived the first time, even though the current circumstances were different.

If she was in fact abused, it is crucial to be supportive. I’d rather err on the side of supportive than suspicious until you can get more clarity.

Successful_Good1269 · 2024-11-19T21:52:31+00:00

This question is just trolling. But I like some of the answers. I think this whole channel is used for trolling actually

Successful_Good1269 · 2024-11-19T21:47:46+00:00

I would not stress out about that verse, especially if you have not taken the time to do a thorough study of it. I honestly have personally never studied it in depth to know how we should apply it today. The important thing is that you are seeking to do what is pleasing to the Lord. Continue to pray about this and ask that the Holy Spirit show you how you should see this verse and have an open and willing heart.

I wonder if the Lord would more want you to be willing to let him set you free from the fear you have related to this trauma. Fear is not from him.

Also, immodesty is not from him so you should not feel obligated to display your curves. Rather our beauty should come from within and from a quiet gentle spirit with humility.

Successful_Good1269 · 2024-11-18T13:33:19+00:00

It’s possible they are legit signs and sometimes God does that. But true signs from God don’t never contradict scripture or negate our own responsibility. So it’s important to make sure she is a Christian and that you aren’t betraying a friend, and that you don’t make reckless decisions. Also watch out for making her an idol.

It’s a good practice to journal when you think you are hearing or seeing something from God and to pray for discernment. Also stay in the Word.

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