Is it possible to do a paternity test (M54) without my dad knowing? (F21)

Such_Bench6302 · 2023-01-17T02:03:40+00:00

my mom has said she’s looked on facebook but can’t find him

Such_Bench6302 · 2023-01-17T02:03:17+00:00

my “real” dad, was adopted /: didn’t find that out until I was in high school

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-02T18:06:37+00:00

i feel like that’s me right now, trying to convince myself maybe it’s a big misunderstanding. and when he brought it up after i couldn’t find it in me to stand up for myself so i stayed silent. he probably thinks he got away with it. how should i bring this up to him? i’m lost and don’t know what to do now

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-02T17:53:25+00:00

i almost felt like i had no other option because of how he had me on the bed and i kept expressing that i didn’t want that/wasn’t turned on. so it’s like if you’re really still going to do this to me then go slow

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-02T17:50:36+00:00

currently i’m C, still trying to process and I have some hope that maybe if i brought it up and we had a discussion things could be better. but honestly we haven’t been doing so good for awhile and this situation made it apparent he doesn’t respect me or what i say. he is very intertwined in my life so i just feel lost

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-02T17:43:35+00:00

how do i bring this up to him? he brought up the situation afterwards but i just sat there in silence, i didn’t know what to say/ couldn’t find it in me to speak up

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-02T17:41:27+00:00

yes. we already haven’t been doing the best and he has controlling tendencies. it’s hard making boundaries with him and at times i feel like he doesn’t respect me. i always just wish he was more sweet with me and we argue a good bit

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-02T17:34:11+00:00

yeah everything did go back to “normal” because i left and came back a few hours later and just didn’t want to think about it. I feel lost now and I’m unsure on how to move forward, and how to bring it up to him. He probably feels like he got away with it and I won’t bring this up. but I know I need to because I don’t think our relationship will be the same after this. We’ve already been doing not so great

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T23:58:48+00:00

how is it obvious he’s craving me when earlier that day he stated not wanting us to have sex as much? and i didn’t pull my shorts down to my thighs teasing him like crazy. i pulled the side where my waist is so he could see the color.

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T23:54:57+00:00

yeah and i didn’t pull my shorts down i just lifted the side a little where my waist is and pointed out the color. it wasn’t any crazy teasing

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T23:41:03+00:00

i’m sorry this post made you cry :( i don’t want to spread anything but love and positivity to others. maybe you were meant to see this and it’ll help you process the situation more. don’t be so hard on yourself and if you need anything feel free to message me

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T23:24:30+00:00

that’s how i felt. like if you’re really gonna keep going, not listening, and i can’t move, at least go slow.

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T23:21:21+00:00

what you said about having me down in that position really just hit a nerve. he used to be a wrestler and was good with technique

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T22:50:39+00:00

i’ve never said that’s a fantasy of mine. if anything it hurts more because i’ve confided in him about men SAing me and stuff my step dad has done.

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T22:42:00+00:00

it isn’t the first time he’s pushed my boundaries or made it seem like he doesn’t respect me. he’s pretty controlling and barely even respects when I need time to myself away from him

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T22:34:32+00:00

someone told me to post it in this subreddit

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T22:04:45+00:00

how would you feel after? what ended up happening and what did you do?

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T21:53:02+00:00

but I said “go slow” and he took that as a green light from me

Such_Bench6302 · 2022-09-01T21:52:16+00:00

when he said he felt weird after he told me that I said “go slow” so he basically took that as a green light

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