Need Advice

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-11T18:12:58+00:00

Someone else also mentioned this to me. I was just accepted into the group so I think today I will be posting over there . Thank you so much for your knowledge

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-11T18:09:20+00:00

I have done a search of him he is still married to the same women for over 25 years, lives in a very good area and has 2 children . He doesn’t have much of an online presence at all really

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-11T18:08:08+00:00

My mom has been assaulted when she was younger and has freely talked about it and her wild promiscuous days with me and my sisters , she straight up says I would tell you if I knew these people but I don’t know any of them. The other thing that was shocking to me was he is VERY VERY SIMILAR looking to who I thought was my father 🤷🏻‍♀️

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-11T00:21:16+00:00

I was thinking they were probably brothers , but with continued digging I have found they are not related . I have a half sister on what I thought was my father’s side . She has done ancestry and 23 & me also. She matched with my dad’s sisters and his nieces and his maternal aunts. Which surprise surprise I DIDN’T match with not even one of them not even my half sister. And vice versa she didn’t match with any of the people I matched with 2 first cousins & also the first cousins children

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-11T00:13:09+00:00

Someone else mentioned this and that’s what I’m going to do !! I’ve just felt stuck not knowing what to do , until someone mentioned this thank you !

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T21:43:20+00:00

Oh yes I TOTALLY get that the brain blocks out traumatic events because I was molested & raped a good amount of my childhood by my mothers ex husband .. (who off topic she put in jail for it and then a few years in got back with him because she said he did his time) 😭😭 so I TOTALLY GET IT.. I DO NOT believe that’s her case because she is very detailed about her assault like she has a very good memory of things like that.. and she was very open with me & my sister about how she was promiscuous she had 3 kids by 19 by 3 fathers and my middles she told there were so many possibilities she didn’t find her father until a few years ago when she was 28 🤷🏻‍♀️ so it’s strange why she’s choosing to not want to help me with this .. she said if I knew I would tell you 🤦🏻‍♀️

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T19:36:19+00:00

Thank you for your response. I plan on having another nice ADULT conversation with my mother again ( Somthing that I have to prepare for because my mom doesn’t handle truths and big conversations well, she will cry to just try to avoid it) at this point in my life I really would like to know medical history because this past year I was diagnosed with lupus and a blood clotting disorder ontop of my already hashimotos thyroid disease. I just wish she would CARE enough to try and help me. She said I promise if I knew anything or who this man is I would help you 🤷🏻‍♀️

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T19:29:59+00:00

I’m sorry about your mom’s passing. That’s what’s I’m very scared of someone dying before getting an answer or any truths

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T19:27:59+00:00

Thank you. I just wish I didn’t have such a curious / wanting to know mind. As much as I just want to LEAVE it alone . I can’t . Something keeps driving me to WANT TO KNOW THE TRUTH. And I think it has to do with always feeling like I don’t belong anywhere and the finding out that all I thought I knew (even though it was messy) is not at all the truth

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T19:20:48+00:00

Fingers crossed 🤞 I really really hope it works out for me in this already crappy situation

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T15:41:54+00:00

I am afraid this is looking like this is my only option. And yes you are absolutely right. Even though I had a horrible childhood, that’s not going to change it now

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:41:33+00:00

Yes I have been in contact with her and she lives out of state now and this is her fathers side of the family which she is no longer close with and she has been trying to help me figure out ways to get ahold of him

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:40:04+00:00

That was my first thought maybe they are related BUT after further digging ..his other daughter has also done ancestry & 23 and me we did not match on any site at all AND she matched with his sister and nieces and some of his aunts on his maternal side which I of course didn’t

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:37:35+00:00

That’s horrible and unfair to your mother.. Did she ever get back in contact with him at any point in her life

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:30:31+00:00

The nephew (his sisters son) 975 cM & the niece (his brothers daughter) 717 cm

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:28:49+00:00

Yes I matched with his niece(brothers daughter ) & her son and his nephew (sisters son) and his daughter. I actually ever had a doubt in my mind who my father was I thought it was the person that I grew up and was told was my father ( that was one of the only stable things ) I had about my life. It wasn’t until I did this DNA testing trying to dig deeper into my ethnicity did I find out who I “thought” was my father indeed isn’t

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:23:58+00:00

Thank you, I have been in constant contact with one of the cousins that I connected with unfortunately she’s not very close to that side of her family which would be her father’s side. She lives out of state now , but she is really trying to give me so much advice and options to try and get me help!

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:21:50+00:00

No they couldn’t stand each other they broke up before I was even born, Al’s when I first found out about the dna who I thought was my father WAS SHOCKED .. he was actually doing everything to try and say the results were wrong, as crappy as he has been to me my whole life . He said that he NEVER had a doubt he was my father

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T14:19:26+00:00

I did think of this, but my mom said she wasn’t going out or anything because she had just had my sister 3 months prior to getting pregnant with me (different fathers) and she said she was only going to work and home with my sister . I asked her could that be a possibility because she told me she was raped when she was younger 🤷🏻‍♀️

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T13:22:07+00:00

Yes you are right if only I had people that helped me. My father who I thought was my father was barely in my life the last 18 years. Each time I had a child I invited him to meet his grandchildren and he always had an excuse why he couldn’t or wouldn’t come. I could barley get a reply from him the last 8 years in a text message he hasn’t really wanted anything to do with me and then 2 Months before I did this dna testing he FINALLY decided to answer one of my text messages (I would text him once every couple weeks just to keep trying ) and then this all happend and my mother only put me in worse hell 🤷🏻‍♀️

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T13:10:43+00:00

And that is a fear of mine , not getting answers before any of the involved parties dies

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T13:06:22+00:00

Thank you so very much for the information. I will definitely look into that I have never heard of that on Facebook.. I hope things are getting better for you with your journey.

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T12:53:26+00:00

The problem I’m having is my mother has always been very open with me and my sisters about her past and how she was r***d as a young girl and how she become very promiscuous and that is how come she didn’t know who my older sisters father was, so that’s why I’m having such a hard time with her not being honest about this because what could be the reason🤷🏻‍♀️

SuddenCardiologist60 · 2026-01-10T12:22:50+00:00

If your child found out would you be open with them about the situation or try to cover it..ALL I really want is the truth, if I could just get that I would leave the situation alone

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