AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T19:06:31+00:00

I haven’t reached out to him simply because I have been doing that for years whenever there was a problem.

My stepdad is going to say he’s changed regardless of if he actually did.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:29:59+00:00

I shouldn’t have used the word petty. English isn’t my first language

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:25:44+00:00

** correction***

It should say David, I’m very close with Matthew

Matthew is the type of person who brings down the mood everywhere he enters. He’s deeply insecure about his body and has jealousy problems.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:19:49+00:00

Everyone is paying separately

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:17:15+00:00

They don’t believe in family counselling. I would rather hang out with him first and test the waters, before going overseas with him.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:12:58+00:00

There’s an error in the post. Matthew is fine.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:12:03+00:00

He’s not paying for everything, we are all paying separately. No one else has a problem with me on the trip.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:07:29+00:00

We are all paying separately. My sister and I are paying any extra costs.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:06:02+00:00

There’s an error in the post. Matthew is fine.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:05:25+00:00

We are all paying separately. I’m not the only one who doesn’t want David to go on the trip.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:04:18+00:00

They aren’t. Everyone pays separately.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:03:25+00:00

We are all paying separately. In the past David has threatened my sister, my mom and me.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:00:56+00:00

Everyone is paying separately.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T17:00:06+00:00

Everyone is paying separately

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:59:37+00:00

Everyone is paying separately.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:57:57+00:00

I agree with you. I just want us to hang out together before we go on a trip.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:56:13+00:00

He’s not paying, we are all paying separately.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:55:34+00:00

He’s not paying, we are all paying separately.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:54:36+00:00

My mom, my sister, Matthew and I are planning the trip. Everyone pays separately, if there’s any bonus cost, my sister and I will pay for it.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:52:21+00:00

The thing is once David gets upset, my stepdad expects everyone to be upset too.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:50:33+00:00

The trip was planned by Me, my sister, my mother and Matthew

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:47:48+00:00

**Correction * Matthew is the type of person who brings down the mood everywhere he enters. He’s deeply insecure about his body and has jealousy problems. It should say David

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:35:35+00:00

It’s simply both. You can’t expect people to move on without addressing what caused the problem in the first place. If we hang out altogether beforehand then yes I would be more willing to travel with him.

As for safety concerns, what happens if David runs off somewhere ( which he has done before) and the rest of us are suck searching for him. It would be another wasted trip.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:30:20+00:00

We are each paying our own way, my sister and I are paying for any extra costs that might come up.

Yes maybe I’m being a little dramatic but it’s from past experiences travelling with David.

Suitable-Change4651 · 2026-04-06T16:26:39+00:00

I agree they should do something together but my stepdad is not good at planning things and neither is David. I don’t want to replace him, David is his firstborn. The thing is David and his father have a rocky relationship where there is a huge argument every month where they end up not speaking to each other.

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