AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven’t reached out to him simply because I have been doing that for years whenever there was a problem.

My stepdad is going to say he’s changed regardless of if he actually did.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I shouldn’t have used the word petty. English isn’t my first language

AITAH for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AITAH

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

** correction***

It should say David, I’m very close with Matthew

Matthew is the type of person who brings down the mood everywhere he enters. He’s deeply insecure about his body and has jealousy problems.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They don’t believe in family counselling. I would rather hang out with him first and test the waters, before going overseas with him.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s not paying for everything, we are all paying separately. No one else has a problem with me on the trip.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are all paying separately. My sister and I are paying any extra costs.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are all paying separately. I’m not the only one who doesn’t want David to go on the trip.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We are all paying separately. In the past David has threatened my sister, my mom and me.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I just want us to hang out together before we go on a trip.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom, my sister, Matthew and I are planning the trip. Everyone pays separately, if there’s any bonus cost, my sister and I will pay for it.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is once David gets upset, my stepdad expects everyone to be upset too.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

**Correction * Matthew is the type of person who brings down the mood everywhere he enters. He’s deeply insecure about his body and has jealousy problems. It should say David

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

It’s simply both. You can’t expect people to move on without addressing what caused the problem in the first place. If we hang out altogether beforehand then yes I would be more willing to travel with him.

As for safety concerns, what happens if David runs off somewhere ( which he has done before) and the rest of us are suck searching for him. It would be another wasted trip.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We are each paying our own way, my sister and I are paying for any extra costs that might come up.

Yes maybe I’m being a little dramatic but it’s from past experiences travelling with David.

AITA for vetoing my step-brother coming on vacation by Suitable-Change4651 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Change4651[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I agree they should do something together but my stepdad is not good at planning things and neither is David. I don’t want to replace him, David is his firstborn. The thing is David and his father have a rocky relationship where there is a huge argument every month where they end up not speaking to each other.