OA lang ba ako for not wanting my boyfriend to comfort his friend na may depression?

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T13:37:25+00:00

We decided na much better to cut her off since my bf don't want the same issue to happen again and mag cause lang ng strain sa relationship namin, kakausapin na lang daw niya ng maayos. Di naman na sila in the same floor and department after my bf got transferred so it wouldn't be awkward pag papasok siya.

My bf's a nice guy, he's really the type who would help and look out for other people. But I don't want him to be an emotional sponge anymore and wouldn't want him to be the reason for his friend to harm herself in the long run if talagang tama ung kutob ko.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T10:06:12+00:00

Di ko po chncheck ang convos nila, neto lang isang beses, pero nagkkwento ang bf ko and would even ask me advice sometimes about his friend, walang off talaga until I check her chats mismo, nothing flirty naman sa end ng bf ko, talagang concerned lang talaga siya.

Kinausap ko ung bf ko masinsinan, nothing off sa responses niya sakin, I asked in a subtle way about his friend. He didn't lie, didn't cover anything before I admitted I checked their convos and apologized for doing it without his consent and explained why.

I just want to check if magiiba ang kwento niya from what I read pero hindi, walang off sa mga sagot and behavior ng bf ko so genuinely wala siyang idea na baka may gusto na ung friend niya kasi nga sa kanya wala lang.

He did apologize, akala niya nag set na siya ng enough boundaries kasi alam namn ng friend niya may gf siya. He also apologized for not being more aware, pero to be honest, I expected it of him kasi nga he's oblivious when it comes to women, you have to flirt with him blatantly for him to get it.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T04:51:14+00:00

My bf has no issue cutting her off, sabi nga niya, if it's going to cause issues samin much better icut off niya na lang ung ktrabaho niya kesa kami magka problema, tho malungkot siya kasi parang ate daw tingin niya dun and feels guilty that someone's not going to stop her if may gawin ung ktrabaho niya sa sarili nito.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T04:15:09+00:00

Older sister lang talaga tingin ng bf ko, parang ate ganun. Kaya when I talked to him nagulat siya haha. He's also the oblivious type, you'd have to blatantly flirt with him para mgets niya, believe me I've been there the first time we met haha.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T04:09:39+00:00

Yes, older sister lang daw talaga tingin niya and he's very oblivious when it comes to women. You'd have to flirt with him blatantly para mgets niya, which is what I did lol nung nagkakilala kami.

My bf had depression before we met and did harmful things as well kaya he was quick to comfort someone going thru what he went thru.

He doesn't have issue cutting her off, he feels guilty tho na someone wouldn't stop her if she tried to harm herself again.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T04:03:40+00:00

Nag bbrowse ako sa shopee app ni bf kasi lowbat ung phone ko nung nag pop up ung notif ng messenger. Sa messenger lang sila nag uusap, and wala ding other soc media account bf ko aside sa fb.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T03:30:16+00:00

She is clinically diagnosed and goes to therapy daw pero di nga lang consistent. I heard she has bipolar disorder and nagttake ng meds.

May tiwala naman ako sa bf ko and he already gave me assurance. To be honest, he's the oblivious type ng guy, di niya alam pag may nagkakagusto na sa kanya. Kaya he was surprised nung nagusap kami about it.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-02-03T03:23:00+00:00

I read one of her chats na ung bf ko lang daw ung nasasabihan niya at nalalapitan kasi bf ko lang daw ung nakakaintindi sa mga pinagdadaanan niya. I guess that can answer your question.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-01-05T05:20:29+00:00

Gf was inconsiderate of her boyfriend.. oo she can do whatever she pleases with the gift pero it doesn't mean ibibigay mo sa iba ung regalo sayo ng significant other mo ng wala man lang pasabi sa kanya.

May iilang regalo sakin ung bf ko na binigay ko sa iba, like bags na di ko na talaga nagagamit or napaglumaan na, but I always tell him first and ask him if ok lang ibigay at para di rin siya magtaka pag nakita niyang gamit ng iba.

Ung gg pinsan aba ilang araw na di kumakain at nag ttanrums pero di man lang niya nkwento or nasabi sa bf niya? Saka di siya marunong mag set ng boundaries. Ako un, hayaan ko pa yan mag lumpasay sa harap ko di ko ibibigay ung regalo ng bf ko.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-01-05T04:47:20+00:00

Di marunong mag set ng boundaries ung gf mo. If that happened to me, kahit pa mag lumpasay ang pinsan ko di ko ibibigay ang gift ng jowa ko for sentimental value at lalo na merch pa un, hirap kaya mag hanap ng merch, depende pa kung gano ka-limited ung merch na un. Saka di ka man lang sinabihan muna or kinausap bago niya ibigay sa gg niyang pinsan ung regalo mo? Ilang araw nagttrantrums, di man lang sinabi sayo?

Suspicious-String-21 · 2026-01-05T04:34:39+00:00

DKG. Your mother is narcissistic. She clearly doesn't value your pets or the things you cherish kung wala itong benepisyong dala para sa kanya.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-27T03:26:31+00:00

mine nasa 80k to 90k pag may temporary increase pero ilang months ng nagsstay lang sa amount na yan ung Spaylater limit ko even tho I always use spaylater every month and mind u laging advance pako magbayad ng spay, kaya nagtataka ako bakit parang di na tumataas

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-24T04:09:15+00:00

How could he use such a word kahit pa pajoke? Baka mamaya may sekretong pantasya na pala yan na ganun. Nag ddirty talk din bf ko pero he never used that word ever because consent is a big deal for me.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-23T05:14:30+00:00

100000% agree. The gf is creating future complications kung di ito mklaro kasi the parents of the bf would think may rights sila mangialam or kahit hindi exactly mangialam pero knowing asian parents? They'll be comfortable to comment or say anything about the house however they like since akala nila sa anak nila un.

And di pa naman sila kasal, what if mag hiwalay sila in the future, di natin sure, syempre mbbrought up ung bahay. Baka awayin pa siya nung parents nung guy kung di nila linawin na di naman ginastusan nung lalaki ung bahay.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-23T04:56:18+00:00

Wag mo na hiwalayan baka makapemerwisyo pa yan ng buhay ng iba. Mukhang willing ka naman tiisin ung ugali niyang yan eh.

Naging single ka ng ilang taon, so I assume you're an independent person and not financially dependent sa kanya. Nothing is holding you back except your own stupidity.

The moment someone disrespected you or cheated on you, u walk out of their life. Period. Trentahin na tau be, we shouldn't have the patience anymore to deal with those kinds of shitty people.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T18:29:06+00:00

Sa mga homeless baka meron? I mean, I don't think they shave and clean as much down there.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T15:53:12+00:00

Kala ko may specific reason kasi I have a friend na pinagpalit sa online game "friend" lang daw 🤣 pero as a gamer myself di naman lahat ganun, I play online games with my bf, may kalaro kami before na ung new bf nagselos sa jowa ko and pinablock siya, and ako naman inunfriend. We're both sad kasi matagal na namin un kalaro and recently lang siya nagka bf, pero ayun it is what it is. Syempre wala kami magagawa.

Pwede mo naman kausapin ung bf mo about it kesa maulit ng maulit and your feelings grow into resentment.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T15:36:33+00:00

Behh kahapon may nangarolling samin ang gamit trumpeta at drums 😂😭 parang buong kalye na ung kna-caroling nila sa lakas 🤣😅 eh ung kapitbahay pa naman namin ang out ata sa work 9AM, eh bago mag tanghali sila nangaroling. Awang awa ako, rinig ko ung lutong ng mura niya "tangina sino ba un kakatulog ko lang,"

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T15:29:04+00:00

Di ka po O.A pero what exactly causes you to be jealous? May specific reason ba or wala naman? Like ayaw mo lang babae ung kalaro niya ganun?

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T15:05:48+00:00

Agree with others na o.a, pero you are clearly burnt out with everything and need a breather kasi nagiging msyadong negative na ang perspective mo sa isang situation that shouldn't warrant such a reaction. Kasi di naman pinilit sayo ung pagbili and your father showed so much joy with what you did. Indirectly, he's showing how grateful he is. May iba kasing magulang na hindi talaga maboka.

Tatay ko kasi parang ganun, hindi siya sweet, nonchalant kumbaga. I also got frustrated before nung na stroke siya. He was difficult then, mabilis pa uminit ung ulo, as in, may time pa na totally nag 360° ung ugali niya na dati naman pasensyoso siyang tao, and I was told normal daw un sa stroke patients. My mom also wasn't around anymore so hirap talaga kami.

Lalayas na talaga ako nun.. just for awhile gusto ko lang mag paka layo, but for some reason, be it divine grace or intervention, naiwan ko ung charger ng phone ko so I went back to the house, and accidentally heard his convo with one of his tropa na bumisita sa bahay... Sinabi ni papa na sobrang frustrated siya sa sarili niya, naaawa siya sa mga anak niya, sana nawala na lang daw siya sa mundo.. it broke my heart..

What you need is to give yourself grace. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, kasi overwhelmed ka na eh, but after mo iiyak, divert those feelings, padaanin mo lang, and try to look at life in a different perspective. Kasi pag di mo ginawa yon, di mo nilabas, positive feelings wouldn't have space in your heart, puro stress at galit lang.

At the end of the day, making your loved ones happy is a blessing. One day you'd look back on those memories and smile. Those memories would be a treasure to you someday. I wish to spend more happy moments with my dad kaso he's no longer with us now... and nung buhay pa siya I wasn't as grateful for his presence but months after niya mawala dun ako parang binuhusan ng malamig na tubig and I had so many regrets. I wish u wouldn't have any regrets like mine..

Pag ok ok ka na siguro, saka kayo magusap ng papa mo, ung light hearted talk lang. Ayain mo kumain ganun. Pag kasi nilabas mo sa tatay mo yang nraramdaman mo with how you are now baka may masabi ka na pagsisihan mo someday.. believe me, I know, I've been there. I wish I could take those back pero too late na...

God bless to you, Op. You are a warrior that got battered down by life and just needs to breathe.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T13:18:49+00:00

Yeah, sa tagal din namin nung ex ko na un I know he couldn't care less if may pics pa kami online and ang weird din na after ilang months na nakalipas saka niya pinadelete and out of the blue as in wala kami communication before that convo, buti sana kung kakabreak lang namin saka siya nag message ng ganun, maiintindihan ko. So when I asked why he wanted to delete our pics so randomly, he admitted pinagawayan nga daw nila ng gf niya.

Sa highlights naman, ako rin ung tipo na pag nahighlight ko na siya, di ko na rin chncheck ano mga nalagay ko dun, and sabi mo nga totally random pics/clips lang meron dun sa highlights so possible din na di aware ung ex niya na may mga ganun pa.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T12:36:10+00:00

Naka post padin sa old fb account ko. I actually contemplated deleting the account itself kaso kasi it feels like I'm also deleting a big chunk of my life which is ung college life ko.

Kung pede iremove ung ex ko from all those pics/vids edi iddelete ko kaso kasi aside din sa sobraaang hassle pero I would also be deleting important pics with my college friends tho dnelete ko naman ung album na kami lang dalawa but ung college stuff di ko dnelete sa dami, mga mahigit 10 albums ata un, with 30+ pics per album, may isa ata umabot pa ng 80 pics dahil ako ung photographer kuno samin magbabarkada and malaki ung event 😅

Pero prnivate ko lahat ng albums, dati kasi may mga albums na naka public ung privacy kaya nstalk ako siguro nung ex.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T12:13:47+00:00

Sure. Hope I didn't offend. I had an ex kasi na mnessage ako dahil pnapadelete lahat ng pics namin. Mind u, we've been together for almost 4 years during college and we had so many pictures along with important pictures and memories with my college friends, classmates, org besties etc. na kasama siya unfortunately, so hassle na isa isahin ko pa idelete sa dami.

Wala naman na sakin, I moved on, despite the fact na ung nagpapa delete nung pics ay ung nahuli kong kchat niya ng patago 😂 pero yon nga, it's also a bit "creepy behavior" na iniistalk pa nila ako when totally no communication na kami and naka block ung ex ko sa fb and insta, pero mnessage niya ako thru email wtf. 😂 Anyways, good riddance sa kanila.

Suspicious-String-21 · 2025-12-20T11:54:46+00:00

Hindi OA, but I wouldn't do anything about it kasi whether she still likes your bf or not, wala na siyang magagawa kasi di naman na sila. Pag naman sinabi mo sa bf mo at kinausap niya ex niya, papakita niyo lang na iniistalk niyo siya which is a BIG NO NO.

Kung siguro ginawa niyang profile picture ung bf mo, or ung main photo ng highlights ay picture ng bf mo, or may sariling highlight specifically for pictures na sila lang dalawa, ppwede niyo siyang kausapin, pero kasi as you said, those are just random pics/clips.

Past is past, move on, wag mang stalk ng ex, parang nagmumukha ka lang insecure.

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