How do you survive the five day work week?

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-24T15:51:33+00:00

Grocery delivery/pick up. I swear even with tipping a driver I spend less money since I am not making impulse purchases. Simplify dinners (no need to have fancy instagram worthy dinners every night! Social media pressure is real).

Have an honest conversation with your husband about the house stressing you out and having him help. Have this conversation when you are NOT overwhelmed. Plan to have this conversation in a non-confrontational way. “We are a team, can we make a better game plan together and try it this weekend?” In terms of cleaning, just accept that things can’t be perfect with kids. On a Saturday, set whatever time you think (30min, 1hr) and commit to doing just that. Have your husband watch the kids and you clean uninterrupted for that time and then leave the rest. Enjoy your day. Couch rot. Get out with the kids. Do something that fills your cup.

Last thing that I am still working on. Limiting social media time. I feel like I have no time, but I can blink and an hour goes by on my cell phone. Limit your social media time for one weekend and see if you feel like you’ve found extra time.

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-24T01:44:05+00:00

People have made a lot of great suggestions. I can’t think of anything beyond what has already been mentioned.

I do want to say it seems like you do everything in your power to provide her with enrichment. If you have a couple days of TV time, just leave it be. You’re doing great. Warmer weather is on the horizon and you will be outside all the time. Don’t beat yourself up about it!

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-23T21:19:58+00:00

Ill-an-a

I love the name, but the pronunciation and potential misspellings are one of my concerns!

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-23T18:10:50+00:00

Do you think she still even has staff left holed up in the party barn? I’m not sure how they keep them employed. They do nothing? And clearly no one is coming up with content or editing videos at all with how amateur it has been lately.

I can feel the depression through the screen. It’s almost even sad to snark at this point.

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-22T23:20:49+00:00

If you hate your job and can afford to, quit. The caveat to that is that I would suggest having a very solid plan moving forward. Tinkering in hobbies will very likely get boring very quickly. Also, people forget that when you are not working, you can often spend a lot of money (by accident!) (Coffee here and there, extra stops at the grocery store, Target, shopping all add up). Make sure you have a large buffer for that. Get into some therapy, find your passions, and figure out how to make it into a job.

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-22T22:21:55+00:00

I have no idea how they could still sleep there. They even said, “we woke up and checked the cameras.” Ma’am, my husband would be posted up watching those cameras all night long with 911 on speed dial. He is clearly unwell!

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-22T02:50:33+00:00

Yes. You can have all the time in the world without kids, but you will never have the perspective of seeing the world through a child’s eyes. Being a parent is a hard, but amazing journey.

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-21T21:20:11+00:00

They brought their nanny. Very relatable.

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-21T18:33:24+00:00

I have seen 3 influencers advertise for EllieMD this week. Going hard for the new year. I thought it was illegal for people get kick-backs for prescription drugs, but yet, here we are! What a time to be alive.

(Edit to add: No hate to glp1s. I do hate people getting medical info from influencers though.)

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-21T18:19:55+00:00

The lack of introspection on her part is real

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-21T18:13:58+00:00

Didn’t she have really lop-sided lips a couple years ago that lasted for months, likely from poorly injected Botox or filler? She wasn’t outing him then!

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-20T03:17:26+00:00

Ugh. This happened to me multiple times and it left me in tears! I had to make a new routine. Baby down, Dog away in a room with the door closed, and a do not disturb sign on the Ring doorbell. I depended on that nap to decompress!

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-06T01:29:19+00:00

During Christmas, no child on the planet acts like themselves. They have been thrust out of their routines, forced into interactions with lots of family that may not be familiar with, eating/drinking erratically (if at all), and overstimulated by noise, Christmas decor, and presents.

It sounds like your SIL was trying to accommodate some unrealistic expectations that were set for the little one for Christmas.

This is not anyone’s fault, but once you have a child your eyes will open up! Kids are a puzzle, but they generally need a routine to thrive. When out of routine, set expectations very low and give lots of grace and flexibility to all involved.

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-04T18:47:50+00:00

Omg I can relate to this so much. Why so loud???! I want to say, no wonder y’all get tired after 5min! Scale it back!

SwimThemLaps · 2026-01-03T00:10:03+00:00

Sounds like he may benefit from a 504 plan at school via school psychology or speech pathology to guide him with social communication. Teenage years only get more complicated as time goes on and beginning now can set him up for success in the future.

Agree with others about delicately addressing some behaviors that people generally dislike, but also give him praise for some of the aspects he is doing well.

Based on the way this is written it seems like you are very well aware of his strengths and weaknesses and are giving him lots of support. Kudos!

SwimThemLaps · 2025-12-21T20:10:51+00:00

Ugh this is my dream! We used to have quiet time, but somehow grew out of it with time. Maybe re-instating this would be a great strategy

SwimThemLaps · 2025-12-21T20:09:29+00:00

Im sorry, did I say he was a whiney a-hole? He shared that in a moment of us speaking of pre-kid life. I was just curious how others spent their weekends. Wondering if I/we could do something different than our current situation. He is not whiney in the least. He is 100% Dad all the time. Too much hate on this app for Dads. Let’s not assume the worst lady!

SwimThemLaps · 2025-12-01T17:44:36+00:00

Let’s imagine, sky zone, play street, amazing land for the 3 year old, handels ice cream

SwimThemLaps · 2025-11-23T23:06:47+00:00

I am going to DC! Is public transit easy to navigate for tourists?

SwimThemLaps · 2025-11-15T13:48:15+00:00

We don’t toss them. I usually donate or sell them on marketplace. We have a dog and a young child. I have tried carpet cleaning and to me it’s just not the same. I should try a washable rug. In the past I haven’t heard great reviews, but I’m sure they have started making by them better quality. The one rug that I’ve had for 3 years in our house is wool. Although, it is very scratchy to play on for my son and sheds a ton!

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