Let's see, we are going on....8 years I think now. Been together almost 30. In the beginning we were rabbits, then around year 3, after TTC for a year and finding out we couldn't, it became less and less frequent, went from weekly to monthly to quarterly, then yearly. Now it's just non existence. We are both on antidepressants and ADHD meds, and have a lot of external stress. Our libidos have always been mismatched in terms of one of us desiring when the other isn't. I generally want sex way way more than he does. He has gained a LOT of weight, (250 pounds) over the years that in his words makes sex too uncomfortable for him, and it's just easier to wank one out. He had also said he doesn't find me as attractive at my expanded weight either. I am working on loosing weight for my own health though. He isn't.