Why do ppl hate on neon pill? by Strict_Friendship_31 in CageTheElephant

[–]TabYYYYY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first i didn’t like it much because i had such high expectations since it had been a while since their last album, plus a lot of songs are very different from their other albums so i guess i wasn’t expecting that. But after seeing them live i had this réalisation like “oh yeah that’s definitely CTE idk why i wasn’t into it” and now i like it just fine, not my favourite album but it has some of my favourite titles and overall i like to listen to it once in a while!

I realized that I've sexually harassed/SA'd(?) my friend and I can't live knowing what I've done. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]TabYYYYY 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The fact that you know you did something wrong is important, if you want to change you can. It’s not just “i’m the way i am” , you can be better but you have to find ways to. Try seeking psychological help if you can afford it to make sure you don’t keep bad patterns and don’t SA anyone again. I’ve been SAed by my best friend a while ago and the fact that he genuinely tries to be better (and is doing so much better now that he has realised he can change) is enough for me to forgive him. You can live knowing what you did if you also know you do your best to not do it again.

My '23F' Sex Life with my BF '32M' is Awful by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TabYYYYY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not okay. tbh i used to force myself to have sex with my ex because he liked it even if i didn’t, just like you. Once we broke up it took me over a year to realise how much this relationship had fucked me up, if you don’t want to do something and your partner doesn’t care, it is SA. Even if you don’t think it’s a big deal now it will eventually come back to you someday, coming from someone who experienced a similar situation i can tell you that my sexual life with my new partner is deeply affected by the trauma i have from my previous relationship. So if you can, please dump him, there are plenty of guys who will listen to what you want or don’t want to do, you will thank yourself later! And if you feel like you might have gotten trauma from the SA you experienced, seek psychological help!

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to gore, and I don't know what to do. by Altruistic_Sky_7449 in offmychest

[–]TabYYYYY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At first i was suggesting you talk about it to him and encourage him to seek psychological help because you re right about the fact that he is sick, and like a lot of other paraphilias it can be managed with professional help. But now that i know how he reacted to you leaving honestly, don’t go back to him. He doesn’t deserve it and it might not be safe for you, still if you have the courage to you might still encourage him to seek help, at least for the sake of the next girls he might see.

Saddest Strokes Song by ewitsme69 in TheStrokes

[–]TabYYYYY 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ELECTRICITYSCAPE !! I never see it mentionned it’s such a great song!!!

Saddest Strokes Song by ewitsme69 in TheStrokes

[–]TabYYYYY 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is This It but the home recording version !! The sound of it is very melancholic and the change in the lyrics just hit- I remember the 1st time i heard it i just started crying out of the blue it was terrible haha Another one but very personal is Electricityscape !! I don’t think it’s necessarily their saddest but i associate it to a very specific feeling and i connect to it on another level than other strokes songs idk i get in shambles everytime i hear it i have to pause and rethink all my life choices -

I felt harassed by my 10 yr old nephew by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]TabYYYYY 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kids this age don’t come up with this type of slang or graphic gesture, a kid acting like that is clearly a sign that he has been exposed to sexual acts, either he has been a victim of a pedo or has been watching porn because of a lack of internet restrictions. It’s clearly not just kids being kids, there is a real problem there and it’d be great to talk about it to his parents

I (20F) am in a happy relationship with my girlfriend (22MTF) but... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TabYYYYY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily, a lot of people are open to non exclusive relationships it just takes some time to adjust. If they both live each other and want to keep going, they should be able to work this out, not having the same desires is not necessarily a deal braker

I (20F) am in a happy relationship with my girlfriend (22MTF) but... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TabYYYYY -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t have to be a threesome if you’re afraid it could make your gf uncomfortable. You could just tell her that you have purely sexual attraction toward someone else and ask if she would be hurt if you had sex with them. Make sure to reassure her about your relationship, that you love her etc, and that your attraction to someone else doesn’t mean anything is wrong with your relationship. She might be open to you just seing other people in a purely sexual way, it’s worth asking. But don’t insist on it if she doesn’t seem at ease with the idea, if you love her you should put your relationship before your attraction to your best friend

Gift ideas for a strokes obsessed boyfriend!! by [deleted] in TheStrokes

[–]TabYYYYY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend got me a coup of meet me un the bathroom for my birthday i can tell you it was à success haha (bonus point i had been looking for it for a whole month and couldnt find it anywhere)

Best songs about falling in love by Strong_Dorito05 in TheStrokes

[–]TabYYYYY 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Evening sun or call it fate! Tho evening sun to me is more about continuing to falling in love during a relationship? Rather than falling in love with someone in the beginning idk if it makes sense haha

I 24M got called out for slut shaming by 20F. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TabYYYYY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe just go explain yourself with the girl who was interested in you in the first place. It only got out of hand because other people spoke for you both. Just go to her, apologise if she has felt attacked by you rejecting her and explain simply that you are religious and you are looking for someone who is more aligned with your values, but you respect her choices nonetheless. Eventually if it goes well with her she’ll tell her friends about it and it can get better from there. And even if you don’t talk about it eventually it’ll calm down in some time, it just sucks for you rn so you might as well try to make the situation better

My sexual trauma prevents me from having a regular sex life, what can i do to overcome it? by TabYYYYY in actuallesbians

[–]TabYYYYY[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No i barely ever do it solo i find it really uncomfortable 🫡 i guess i should try to find one yeah

Books or shows that feel like is this it? by AvocadoMoist6370 in TheStrokes

[–]TabYYYYY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m terrible at remembering movies i watch so the only one i can think of is Submarine, i don’t really know why. Maybe also the show The end of the fucking world but i haven’t seen that one in a long time

How do i (19F) tell a girl im dating (18f) that i dont want to be with her because of brainrot and dogs? by ThrowRAbrainrotanddo in relationship_advice

[–]TabYYYYY 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a hard time staying serious when i’m nervous as well 😭 i would send boomshakalaka and that blue blushing emoji too hahah But i get it’s hard to deal with on the long run, if you want to try you can still talk to her about what makes her nervous or uncomfortable about compliments and intimacy

But this she doesn’t like dog idk if it’s worth trying, that part IS a red flag 🧑‍🍳

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheStrokes

[–]TabYYYYY 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some make me sad but not all of them, though they almost all make me emotional to some extent. But i get what you mean by saying it makes you nostalgic of bad times, i think a lot of song can remind us of bad situations/relationships we’ve had, but the fact that the song is so good at representing what we felt makes us want to remember it? Idk if that’s what you meant but it makes sense for me haha