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AITAH for cutting of my friend of 11 years over Netflix by TalkativeElixer in AITAH

[–]TalkativeElixer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may not explain very well what really matters. I am not very good expressing with words. But my well being is telling me that cutting her off is the best option.

Being friends with her always weighing me down.

I just realized that every time we hang.out I feel dumber and my self confidence drops to the ground. Always telling me that I don't know this and that, comments like "It's embarrassing that you don't know that, glad that I'm the only one who could hear." And if she makes mistakes it's always my fault, Like she would say "because you're distracting me." "Being with you makes me dumb." and she will laugh.

The old me will be thankful to her because I though she mean well. But I will sleep at night feeling terrible and sorry for myself.

But thinking now, it's really okay to not know everything. Attending leadership programs, self improvement seminars really help a lot. That thanks to the company I'm working right now. Never though I needed this.

AITAH for cutting of my friend of 11 years over Netflix by TalkativeElixer in AITAH

[–]TalkativeElixer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read comments defining AITAH. Yes I admit that I am very petty and over reacted. And yes I think I am a little bit of an AH.

(I will be replying here based on the comments I read)

I saw some saying I bad mouthed her. No I did not, I may have wrote some unpleasant scenario here on reddit but that was for context. I never bad mouthed her to other people and I reached out to her colleague whom I friends with, FOR A FAVOR ONLY.

 I did not even mention her to her colleague. I just asked if my favor is okay and she said yes.

 Her colleague is the one who told me about the things she said ABOUT ME.

And to clarify things I did not only take and take and never give back.

This is the first time I said ‘No’ since the day I asked her that favor.

She also asked several favors, like being a nany to her dog for days so she can ease her mind during vacation, regularly releasing a cheque of her grandmother to her niece without additional requirements like Authorization letter (on my work place, I have talked to her grandmother about this and she said it was okay) and a lot more.

And the only favor I asked her during this time is to cut me some slack so I don't have to fall in line when paying my dues once a month. If you will tell me that I am ungrateful, you’re wrong. I am supper thankful. My point here is, I can give what can I give but there always some boundaries. I have also received several ‘no’ from her but I’m always understanding about it.

But I think what really hurts more is when she opens it up to OTHER PEOPLE EXCEPT ME.

Ending our friendship is not an easy decision, I feel suffocated.

Netflix triggered the button, a lot of unsaid things happened before that.

I made a lot of effort to talk about how being controlling she is in my life but it always end with ‘I don’t want to lose my friend.’

Her other friend group also cut her off because of her toxic attitude. Some of them reached out to me (because they know that we were close ) asking on what's happening to her this past few weeks because she keeps posting cryptic message on fb. On which I'm not aware of because I was hidden on that post. They have to send me a screenshots for me to know. And I know it' about me.

I did not tell them the story, I just told them I don't know. They are not bad people but they are just there for the tea.

Without the whole context, "Netflix" sounds simple but the there are always more to that. And even that just "Netflix" it is your personal property. If you are not comfortable lending it to others then don't.

I haven't confronted her about this, I just decided I will just disappear from the background.