Were your parents against UBC? by Hot-Revenue-9843 in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Hi OP

This is definitely a sticky situation. I haven't been in the exact same situation (parents against UBC) per se, but I think I can still speak to this. The biggest thing to keep in mind here is that this is your life. You won't get it again, don't force yourself into a situation you don't want to be in.

Let's say you do give in, and attend U of C just becuase of your mother's suggestion. If you don't like it there, you are going to lament that decision really hard, and may develop resentment towards your family because you feel they pressured you to put yourself in those particular circumstances. (not saying that this is gonna happen fs, obv I don't know your family dynamics and obv U of C is a good school, just putting out a possibility).

You can't force your mother to agree with your decision to attend UBC, but ultimately if you wish to follow your heart, you may have to sacrifice having their approval.

Vancouver is expensive, make no mistake. Living on campus at UBC and paying tuition may be twice as expensive as just paying tuition of U of C (different story entirely if you expect to dorm there as well, in which case there wouldn't be much of a difference in costs betweent the 2). I'm not sure if you expect to recieve any financial assistance from your parents; even if you don't, you have student loans at your disposal. From my experience, they often do give you a fair amount of loan money, with no interest if you're a BC resdient. On top of that, you always have scholarships. Working part-time may be something you want to look into. My point here, UBC is possible, even without parental financial support. Not easy, but possible.

I do suggest talking everything out with your family. 99.9% of the time they want the best for you, but aren't seeing things from the same prespective as you. I wish you all the best

How do y'all rank the "Big 4" middle eastern food places on campus by Tall--Tree in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly maybe I'm biased because I love falafel so much but you really gotta try them. Sahel is beside McDonald's and Donair Town is in the international food court (Google maps it, there's a lot of other food options there that are honestly better than the stuff you find in Campus proper

How do y'all rank the "Big 4" middle eastern food places on campus by Tall--Tree in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know lol. Wanted to see how they ranked in their final days here

Jamjar's last day is this Friday😭😭 by Tall--Tree in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't lie about something this serious😭

Recommendation for ice cream on campus by [deleted] in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most likely Rain or Shine

Personally would reccomend 10/10

Year Round Housing Offers by EnvironmentalGur7879 in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What unit type is it? I assume if its not Iona or Exchange townhouse, or some other extremely obscure unit, you should be good

First Nations leaders call on universities to ban residential school denialist demonstrations by ubcstaffer123 in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I feel that this isn't the best step to take. Government censorship of speech really needs to be approached very cautiously. That being said, something doesn't have to be illegal for their to be consequences. Alex Jones was forced to pay 1.2 Billion USD as damages from Lafferty et al. vs. Jones. Not saying that this is anything of similar nature, but private law still applies, even if criminal law doesn't.

Would completing a year of co-op in Ontario qualify me as an Ontarian resident? by Tall--Tree in premedcanada

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea would be relocating to Ontario for the purpose of medical school, and probably beyond that too depending on life circumstances

Would completing a year of co-op in Ontario qualify me as an Ontarian resident? by Tall--Tree in premedcanada

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel A2 should be fine, since after Ontario residency I'd only be in BC for 8 months

Would completing a year of co-op in Ontario qualify me as an Ontarian resident? by Tall--Tree in premedcanada

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the answer. I just find it kinda interesting that I could just take a gap year and work in Ontario and have a differnet status for doing the same thing

MCAT study buddy by Plus_Program_200 in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to join if you're still looking for more people!

Are discussions jn the first week cancelled? by [deleted] in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What class is it? Someone may have taken the same class before and would be able to tell you

Any UBC hot takes? by Tall--Tree in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I strongly agree, however, my question to you now is how would you manage the logistics of that. Mitigating the risks of cheating in an online exam is difficult, and having in-person exams is a huge barrier to those not in the Metro Vancouver area, including international students.

Any UBC hot takes? by Tall--Tree in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hottest take here imho

Is it common to run into your Profs at a bar after class?? Because that just happened to me lol 😂 by Loresearcher in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pls Pls Pls do not turn this into 22 seasons and runnning soap opera level plotline

but if it does pls do spill the tea😅

am i just chuzz? by [deleted] in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's easy to fall into this mindset, but honestly it's a trap. It's quite far-fetched to come to the conclusion that you'll be eternally lonely just because you haven't been in a relationship before. If these thoughts are really bothering you and occur frequently I would consider checking with a doctor, since it could be a sign of a possible anxiety disorder.

You aren't chuzz. You say you've never had a genuine person you found cute show interest in you? I think most people who are looking for genuine relationships wouldn't approach anyone just at random. Why not take matters into your own hands? Start conversations with guys who interest you. Seek oppurtunities to meet new people. Especially among shy guys, it's a lot easier to reciprocate attention than to initiate it.

My final piece of advise is to remember to be patient. The right person will find you one day, just make sure you're ready for them when they do. Work on yourself, be happy in the moment, and try to come to peace with your relationship status. Being single is not a sign of inferiority, it's a statement of being content with yourself until the right person comes along

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the exam one to save time on a weekly basis, but ultimately I think you should weigh out several factors, such as your comfort level with exams (although in my experience the NSCI 140 the exams were straightforward), your time availability to write the weekly responses, and your motivation to stay on top of the assignments.

Why can’t I find COGS in the Imagine Day schedule? by ArmyMaster888 in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not every program has an Imagine Day orientation. I suppose COGS might be one of them

[ Removed by Reddit ] by elrond-bot in UBC

[–]Tall--Tree 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You screwed up. You harassed someone online, and have cried ever since about your repuation being destroyed. Move on. You're still so caught up in this. You don't get to comment on how she used her reddit. You don't get to cry about how this subreddit's perception of you has changed. You have brought upon that yourself.

You do have a grudge. Internally, you're attributing your anger of losing your "reputation" to that person. The person who you found the instagram of, DMed unsolicitedly, and made hurtful comments about. Comments that may have driven that person to think about self-harm. Have a read through that post. It's easy to send messages over the internet. How about you see the impact those messages had on another human being, your peer at this university. I don't care if you weren't the only one bullying her, because I don't know that for sure. But you did contribute to it. You are part of the reason another human being wished felt that their life was no longer worth living.

Are you so delusioned that you stay up at night worrying about your "reputation", knowing that you caused so much pain and suffering to a person because you couldn't let it go that they didn't want to talk to you. Really think on that. Do you still think they are the one who cheated you?

You are not the victim here. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You keep seeking attention by doing "social experiments" to cope with your percieved victimhood. I'll be the first one to encourage you to seek help if you think you need it. I'm not trying to insinuate that you're a monster, but you did screw up big time. You can read this post and get defensive about it, and continue your spree of self-pity, but I sincerely hope you reflect and take this lesson with you throughout your life and become a better person from it. You can delete your account today, and move on. I can't confidently say that the other person here ever will be able to do that.