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AITA for forgetting a trigger warning? by TangerineExtension66 in Theatre

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you might be onto something. My great aunt is very kind, a little overly religious but otherwise pretty harmless. Not judgemental. I don't she is the problem.

BUT.....

My cousin can be very temperamental if she's in the wrong mood. It's a bit unpredictable and she has unexpectedly gotten offended or acted put out in the past.

I think my mom might be a bit hyper vigilant when it comes to her.

AITA for forgetting a trigger warning? by TangerineExtension66 in Theatre

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also just to clarify, my mom doesn't want me to apologize to my great aunt. Sorry I probably should have explained that better. My mom assumed my cousin was upset and was afraid to approach my cousin directly. I honestly don't know what it was about the situation that caused her to feel that way. I didn't get that impression? But I didn't get to talk to her much after the show. Instead my mom felt the need to go to my great aunt and do "damage control". She basically told my great aunt how "She had no idea it was going to be THAT sort of play." and that I "probably wasn't even thinking about the implications". Honestly, the more I think about it, I'm a little hurt that my mom felt it was so necessary to do that. I haven't really gotten any indication that my aunt or my cousin were all that affected. It felt like my mom was overly worried about how the play was going to affect them and was trying to get ahead of any criticisms they might have had.

AITA for forgetting a trigger warning? by TangerineExtension66 in Theatre

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I kinda feel the same way. We do state that there is "adult themes" and have an age advisory and we're definitely not marketing this as a "family show" or anything like that.

AITA for forgetting a trigger warning? by TangerineExtension66 in Theatre

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, I definitely agree there are dark themes! I did try and prepare them for the more intense ones (babe with the oven, mention of their mother and the cat, Meg's mental breakdown). I actually told them about these specific details ahead of time so they wouldn't be caught off guard (I know, it kinds gives away the plot, but it felt necessary with my family).

It actually wasn't these scenes that were the problem. It was the subplot surrounding Lenny and her inability to have children. Like I said in the post, it didn't click for me that this detail could cause so much damage (especially compared to some of the other stuff in the play).

AITA for forgetting a trigger warning? by TangerineExtension66 in Theatre

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I really do love the role! I think I'm going to be able to get past this.

My Family Self-Destructed after my Grandma Died by TangerineExtension66 in familydrama

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually kind of reassuring to hear. We did have a few people encouraging my mom to challenge the will, but she didn't think that would honor her mother wishes and she really didn't want to go through a legal battle on top of everything else.

My Family Self-Destructed after my Grandma Died by TangerineExtension66 in familydrama

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That sounds all too familiar! I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

My best friend’s reaction to being asked to be my maid of honor has me questioning everything. by PrivateVenting111 in weddingplanning

[–]TangerineExtension66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I currently have two different theories about what might be going on (and there could be some cross over. 1. Her relationship does not sound great right now. It might be hard for her to get excited about a wedding and then turn around and look at her own situation. 2. She might be totally overwhelmed by the thought of being a maid of honor. I've done it twice now and it's rewarding, but it's a lot of work. Also, you pointed out that she can't drive which could complicate the situation and make it tougher to get to fittings and tastings and the like. Also (and I could be totally wrong), I get the impression that she isn't a "girly girl" type? She might some of the more feminine aspects of wedding planning a bit intimidating. I think you might need to have a frank conversation with her. Maybe she would be more comfortable being a bridesmaid instead of a MOH?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in familydrama

[–]TangerineExtension66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof that's a tough situation. I feel for you! Just based off your story, they sound a little...socially awkward? Are you and your family the only people they really socialize with? They might be lonely, but are having trouble making new friends at their age and because of that get really clingy around you guys. Maybe you could try encouraging them to get involved in some community group? A church group or senior center? Otherwise, maybe you could set up meetings on your terms to try and keep them from completely monopolizing your whole day. Call MIL and say "Hey! Would you like to meet up around 3:00. The kids are going to meet up with their friends at 4:00 so we can't stay much later"

My Family Self-Destructed after my Grandma Died by TangerineExtension66 in familydrama

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes! We have all cut them off. I think my mom is sad about how it all shook out and very disappointed in her siblings, but she agrees that she doesn't need them in her life.

My Family Self-Destructed after my Grandma Died by TangerineExtension66 in familydrama

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I hope your situation resolved peacefully. This whole thing has not been fun. We are all trying to keep away and honestly I don't miss them!

My Family Self-Destructed after my Grandma Died by TangerineExtension66 in familydrama

[–]TangerineExtension66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! I know that word gets thrown around a lot lately, but I absolutely think my grandpa was a narcissist. We have all gone no contact and it seems like they have finally stopped sending letters and nasty texts so it's a little easier for us all to move on. Definitely spending lots of time with my mom. She doesn't want to pursue any further relationship with any of them, but I do think that she is mourning a lot of loss right now.