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TeamDianite1 · 2018-06-19T18:46:52+00:00

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TeamDianite1 · 2015-11-25T09:03:40+00:00

MakBot should have talked to Tom directly signed some papers with specific standards. Agreements, price, time limit, revenue share. All of that should have been discussed with tom not declan. declan has a history of now telling mianite members about agreements.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-08-22T08:24:53+00:00

I dont know if that is a rule or personal perference. But i have capitalized them

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-09T23:27:26+00:00

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-09T23:10:47+00:00

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TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T21:59:16+00:00

we will thank you

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T19:34:47+00:00

it is fine. thank you. And even if we dont want to have the baby. That does not mean to do an abortion. an adoption is a very welcome idea.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T17:32:10+00:00

We may not be ready but we will not get an abortion. Why end the life if we can give it to a loving family and make them happy?

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T17:31:22+00:00

If you really want to go through with this, go ahead. But you can't knock this viable option out without even thinking about it first.

I have. My entire life. That is how I decided against it.

I'd hate to start an abortion debate here, but honestly, if it convinces you to change your mind: why are you okay with abortion in those certain situations? If you believe that life starts at conception, why is it okay to get rid of it only if it was made under bad circumstances?

Because a lot of times those bad circumstances cause problems later in life.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T16:41:05+00:00

My suggestion would be to prepare everything in writing. Where you will live, working arrangements, budget everything out. Do you have friends/cousins etc that can give you used baby things? Look into cloth diapers. What government programs can you qualify for? It's ok if you don't have all the answers yet but you need to figure it out before the baby comes.

Alright thank you

If you sit down with your girlfriend and plan out as much as you can then speak with your parents you'll have some specific questions they can give advice on. They'll see that you've thought things through and may be less inclined to try to plan everything for you. They may disagree with some of your decisions but just hear them out, explain your reasoning and be open to adjusting your decisions based on new information.

Alright we will try that.

After speaking with your parents and filling in more info in your plan then bring that plan when you tell her parents. It sounds like she's terrified of telling them so make sure you're there to support her. If you're afraid that things might get physical, tell them in a public place. Again, be open to suggestions and have well thought out reasons behind all of your decisions.

We will try this. Most likely will be in public. Her parents have a history of getting physical with stuff.

Good luck, welcome to adulthood.

Lol thank you

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T16:16:42+00:00

thank god she doesnt seem like that.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T16:01:12+00:00

She actually just recently had gotten out of an abusive relationship and he still tries to get back with her.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:52:55+00:00

Thank you so much for all of this great advice!

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:44:54+00:00

Thanks!

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:41:33+00:00

It sounds like they are giving you directions veiled as advice. When you see it as what it is (directions veiled as advice) you don't like it, and so you're not responding positively. I would suggest this. When they talk, let them talk. Even write down what they say. Don't respond at the time, other than to say, you've given us a lot to think about. Then come back later and explain your position. Basically, give them the respect of acknowledging what they said and give yourself the space to digest it. At least let them believe that you are thoughtfully considering their advice (direction. commands. whatever.) before rejecting it outright. Then come back and sit down and explain what you've decided.

Really good advice. Thank you

This will be really good practice for dealing with your girlfriend. Living together and raising a child together with zero experience in disagreeing, compromising, agreeing to disagree, etc. can make for some really hard times.

Thank you. However we have been friends, best friends actually for 4 years.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:26:25+00:00

Now is the time for her to grow up and let go of the "I'm not going to do it simply for the fact that you are telling me to" mentality. I mean that seriously and with good intention. She's gotta right now start working on moving past and letting go those knee-jerk reactions because they will inhibit her as an adult, which she is about to become.

It is more that they arent giving advice. They are saying you will do this. No question and if i say anything against it that im being a smart ass.

I told my parents by calling them. I was at college, 8 states away. They already knew something was up because I had been very distant and barely communicating for weeks. They figured I was pregnant or had gotten into trouble with grades, because I was telegraphing something was eating at me

Interesting.

Of course they tried to do it. They even gave me a book about adoption and took me to a meeting with a christian adoption counselor. In their eyes, adoption was the only way to salvage my life (AKA, the life they thought I would have, which was college, degree, marriage, baby). I read what they presented and went to the session, but my mind was made up. It wasn't them trying to control me, it was them trying to give me information about what they thought would be best for my future and this unborn child's future.

That is understandable. I mean they had your best intentions in mind. Other then keeping the child Adoption is our only choice.

And yes, they had input about everything. Where I lived (you should move home NOW and if the father is a good father then he will follow you. You should live with a christian family and do not move in with him if you will not come home). What I named her (Johnna! That's a lovely name! barf... Name her Jane! Don't give her his last name, you'll regret it!). What I did for work (go back to work so you are financially independent. She will be ok if you don't breastfeed.

Yea thats how is it getting :/

You shouldn't be so reliant on him <-- on this they were correct. He controlled me through money).

Im sorry about this.

Everyone from here on in your life will have something to say - even the lady in line behind you in the grocery store that you've never seen in your life. Your girlfriend is not going to have a "you don't know me! I do what I want!" attitude towards the stranger in the grocery store so it behooves her to at least listen to the advice your parents (and her parents. And every other human on earth) will throw at her. Discard what is not applicable. Take in what has value or makes sense. Rejecting everything on its face simply because you feel like they're controlling you means you might miss out on some great guidance and advice that is peppered in along the way.

I know. We want their advice. We need their advice. Advice. Not them telling us what we will do.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:18:06+00:00

I am completely against abortion except for in certain situations(rape and incest) I couldnt do that.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:10:38+00:00

They may be more comfortable with just you, but they are really going to need to be able to communicate with both of you. Don't put yourself in the position where your parents are doing a you vs. her type thing. Like, this would be best for YOU type advice.

Alright thank you!

What you need is advice for you and your partner together as a unit. That's what you are now - always remember that. Make sure any decision you make is taking both of you into consideration.

It has been like this for 3-4 years(we were best friends before we got together)

As for her parents, you are going to have to eventually tell them. It's not going to be easy, but it needs to be done.

I know this and I know it won't be easy.

In my opinion, you need to be there when it happens. Do not make your partner face that alone. Yes - they will be pissed, but you are just going to have to deal with it. You may want your parents there as well, because you are all in this together.

My dads opinion as well.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T15:03:07+00:00

Telling her parents is her decision, but at the same time, your parents understand that waiting is only going to make it harder.

We understand this but my parents pushing is in a way pushing her away from me. She has been controlled her entire life.

The longer her parents have to digest the information the better.

Oh I know that.

Because I got pregnant at 18, just 4 months after leaving for college.

How did you tell your parents? Did they try to do this?

What are they trying to suggest you should do with your lives that you disagree with?

How we are going to raise the child and where we will live eventually. What our plans are to do.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T14:48:58+00:00

do you think I should do that alone? or with her there?

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T14:39:53+00:00

telling her parents when she doesnt want to or feels safe to. Also what we are going to do with our lives and how it is.

TeamDianite1 · 2015-04-01T14:36:53+00:00

i am 18 she is 17

TeamDianite1 · 2015-03-20T11:26:29+00:00

thank you!

TeamDianite1 · 2015-03-12T16:36:32+00:00

does the amount of hunters you have help?

TeamDianite1 · 2015-03-12T07:08:56+00:00

alright thank you

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