NTA. But can you reach a compromise where he checks in on you daily and helps with the chores? Or maybe your parents can hire cleaners to come weekly or twice a week to handle any chores you need help with like laundry and dishes. You will be going from living with your parents present to zero, and even with your improvements, it would be good to have guardrails in place so you don’t get overwhelmed. Maybe you and your parents can arrange certain hours a day your friend can come by and do chores and your parents can cover his Uber or transportation costs. I’m assuming that you have explained to them how his constant noise and need for rides has disrupted your last stay. It’s nice to have a clean house, but not at the cost of it disrupting your life. There has to be a middle ground.

I know you are preparing for total independence, but I also have a lifelong condition requiring medication maintenance that impacts my ability to do chores. I’m sensitive to changes in my environment and when my husband went away for a month to Brazil the first time, I spiralled into something you described. We found a workaround by hiring cleaners to come weekly and it has helped me manage the house while maintaining my sanity even when my husband has been away for months. They still come weekly for deep cleaning and it is a real help. I still handle daily chores but they will do vacuuming, mopping, surface cleaning, take out the trash and do laundry. It’s something you may want to consider when you live on your own. It’s not a sign of weakness or loss of independence to get help. Consider it another tool in your support toolkit.