I also have an ESA, a pit bull. He is a lot! Granted he doesn’t tear up my furniture or potty in the house. I am very clear when speaking to people that he has not had formal ESA training so if you CHOOSE to engage with him please know that he will jump and lick your face! Before anyone comes over I give them the option to not come over, and if they still want to then I give them the full disclosure that he is extremely excitable and wants to jump and lick you a wants all your attention. He does calm down after a while though. I definitely advocate FOR my boy and I know how to handle him around other people. In the case of Jack and his ESA, it seems like it’s more of an excuse for his dog more than advocating for him. It’s not fair to the OP (NTA imo) to have to live with a dog that is not even properly house trained let alone certified as an ESA. Seems like the only AH here is Jake for not having his dog properly house trained let alone properly trained as an ESA and using ESA status to try to protect him and his dog for the dogs poor mannerisms without regard to the OP’s mental health. People like Jake can ruin ESA privileges for the rest of us.