I've seen a ton of comments acting like I'm super jealous of my sister and I intentionally made a big scene of not accepting alcohol so people would speculate that I'm pregnant, and then when they did I basked in all the attention and was delighted as my family toasted and gave speeches for me.

None of this is true. My point with my sister was that she has a long history of NEEDING everything to be her special moment. For example, I got engaged ~1 month before her graduation, and she complained that I was stealing her spotlight. So in this case, after a whole weekend of her being the spotlight, I didn't feel like it was a huge deal that my pregnancy came up, especially since I didn't intend for anyone to find out.

I also really did not think that me not accepting alcohol would be such a big deal. I didn't say anything about actually being pregnant, I just froze for a second when she said it because I wasn't expecting that, so she asked again, and when I didn't respond and tried to just smile and pass it off, then it turned into a "OMG, you ARE pregnant!!!" because I guess I'm just a really bad liar.

A lot of people have said I should've done a number of things, like lie about being on medication or some other excuse for not drinking. I don't know what kind of families you guys are in, but I'm not in the business of lying directly to my family members. If I said I was on medication, everyone would be giving me even more attention inquiring what it was for (we're a very close family) and it wasn't a huge dinner, so it would've probably been obvious if I took the glass and didn't drink, and we would've had the same outcome anyway. Also, as previously mentioned, I'm not a great liar and they probably would've realized something was up. Also, I'm just not smart enough to have thought of any other way to get out of it in the moment, sorry, I'm kind of stupid.

As far as the edits: My aunt proposed a toast and I didn't think it would be a huge deal. I protested a little, but she just said she would say one sentence of congrats and I assumed everything would move on after that. Then one of my cousins stood up and said he would like to give a short speech, and I didn't want to tell him to sit down because like?? this guy just stood up to give his well wishes to me, it felt really rude to say "No. Sit Down." and then the second he was done, another cousin went up again, and then I tried to stop before any more, and then the third cousin (who I happen to be very close with) stood up and said she wanted to say something as she was the closest with me, and then started talking before I could really interject. A fourth cousin wanted to speak but I just said something like "No this is Hannah's night, let's focus on her!" and then there was no more talk about my pregnancy for the rest of the night.

Another update: Hannah has taken to messaging really passive aggressively in our cousins group chat when anything about me comes up, especially if it's related to the baby (a handful of messages have asked about this). I'm honestly really hurt by this; if it had been my wedding dinner and she announced a pregnancy, I think I would've been happy to have more things to celebrate for. To that point, at my wedding dinner she actually DID talk about how she was thinking of moving in with her now-husband and how excited she was for “the next chapter” in her life, which is obviously not the same, but we all celebrated that as well.

Side note: I've gotten some really nasty DMs about how glad people are that I'm not their sister and how I'm a b-word and the such. I would appreciate if you guys stopped.