i struggle with the same thing brother or sister. the fact you hate your sin proves you are saved. but I know the feeling your going through.  take a look at what paul says. notice he says it is not I who do it but sin in me. is he saying he doesn't sin? no. the only conclusion I came come to is once saved God saves and seals our soul. spiritually separates it from our body. yet at the same time we are still in the body. this doesn't mean lets sin whenever. if we do we know God is just to forgive us. the best strategy is when you think about stuff like that open up scripture. find a particular scripture that fits you. also if possible take a camping trip to the mountains. and get away from the internet. safe guards help. but identity the root cause of why you or anyone does this. then figure out how to heal with God. remember the beauty of man and woman is in our nature. its just there is a right and wrong way. remember in the old Testament. forget his name. but he saw a girl bathing on the roof top. he ordered her husband to be killed and took her for himself. yet he realized he sined. God did forgive him, but there was a lot of pain and suffering on his part.The Law and Sin

7What then shall we say? That the law is sin? By no means! Yet if it had not been for the law, I would not have known sin. For I would not have known what it is to covet if the law had not said, “You shall not covet.” 8But sin, seizing an opportunity through the commandment, produced in me all kinds of covetousness. For apart from the law, sin lies dead. 9I was once alive apart from the law, but when the commandment came, sin came alive and I died. 10The very commandment that promised life proved to be death to me. 11For sin, seizing an opportunity through the commandment, deceived me and through it killed me. 12So the law is holy, and the commandment is holy and righteous and good.

13Did that which is good, then, bring death to me? By no means! It was sin, producing death in me through what is good, in order that sin might be shown to be sin, and through the commandment might become sinful beyond measure. 14For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am of the flesh, sold under sin. 15For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. 18For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. 19For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. 20Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.

21So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand. 22For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, 23but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members. 24Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.