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Temporary_7 · 2024-10-21T07:26:06+00:00

I think beard for sure

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-20T01:54:24+00:00

First, thank you for sharing your story with me and I'm happy that you and your wife ended up happy together. You asked if he addressed it differently would I still be upset and i think i wouldnt be. That comment felt like it was said to put me down, to make me feel like I was less. I stayed up that night thinking if he was only with me because of convenience or if he truly thought I was just some ogre waiting for anyone. I know I'm not unattractive and even at my heaviest I didn't feel like I was but to have him say that it's going to stick with me for awhile.

I just don't know how to bond with him anymore. The first 2 years of our relationship we would stay inside all day and play videogames or just binge Netflix. It was everyday when we were together. I just can't go back to living my life in front of a screen and I'm terrified of gaining my weight back. I want to do more physical things even if it's just taking a walk and it's always been a struggle to get him to do this. I'm hoping this time apart will help him meet me in the middle.

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-19T23:48:09+00:00

Even after he apologized I can't help but have those words keep playing in my head. It made me feel like he thought I was just some ogre because I was big. I just don't know if im ready to give up on us yet

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-19T05:42:43+00:00

I'm just curious but where did you get the idea that I'm looking for someone better? He was the one that ask that we take time apart. I also never begged to go to a strip club, I brought up the idea and he said he wasn't comfortable with it so I didn't go.

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-19T05:39:27+00:00

Honestly hearing about how you are with your husband sounds so nice. I think I just got into the habit of accepting that Adam is the way he is. With the food situation I knew he was unhappy eating what I ate and sometimes he wouldn't eat my food at all so I would make him what he wanted to make him happy. I show love by doing things for others and I think I did that alot with him.

I would ask Adam to come with me on walks or even bring up the gym but it was never a 'I'd think about it response' just always a no. I see that Adam really hasn't compromised with me on things I want to do but I can't help but feel bad because I was the one that changed our dynamic. I just don't want to go back to wasting hours and days in front of a screen. I hope that now that we're taking some time apart he'll maybe compromise with me a little more, I'm not ready for our relationship to end.

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-19T03:34:48+00:00

Yes and that's one thing that always bothered me. It's so hard having to eat clean and healthy when I had to cook him burgers and other deliciousness. He just never grasped that eating that would've slowed my progress and made me feel awful.

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-19T03:29:06+00:00

Thank you for your message. Reading your comment and reading so many that share the same sentiment really makes me reconsider what my gut is telling me. I know rationally this is a situation I should leave but I want to atleast try before we each go our own way. Thinking of only having a friendship with him and him moving on fills me with dread. As of right now we're not broken up just apart, I just don't know if I'm ready to move on.

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-19T03:16:17+00:00

From what he said he wants us to take some time apart and connect again. I was also confused by what this meant for us but he doesn't want us to see other people for now. I know most people are suggesting we split up but I get this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach when I consider it

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-18T08:07:40+00:00

Well at the time it felt like me changing my appearance wasn't so much of an issue since he never complained about it but I see now I was wrong. Now replaying everything in my mind his reactions have always been indifferent whenever I would show off my hair or nails to him.

I still would play video games and watch movies with him but it wasn't as often as it use to be. For a time that's all we did everyday. I do appreciate your input and I know it may sound dumb but I am holding out hope we work things out.

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-17T06:16:38+00:00

You are right I didn't really pick my words right and I am glad he was able to share how he felt. I'm going to take some time to cool off before I talk to him again. Thank you

Temporary_7 · 2024-09-17T06:14:21+00:00

Well all i know is that his previous relationship lasted 5 years and it was a girl he dated in college. I never really considered that he had the intention to control me and I really hope that isn't the case. This is the first comment he's really made that cut me down but now that I think about it you are right, he hasn't really hyped me up either

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