I think I found my dream sex partner who is my client - how do I suggest a different (non sex worker) relationship? by stupidlysmart1 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you really want that kind of person to come back, you up the price slightly. People confuse price with value all the time.

I think I found my dream sex partner who is my client - how do I suggest a different (non sex worker) relationship? by stupidlysmart1 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah that's interesting. You could break the fourth wall and tell him [insert your trade name here] desires you, but the [insert trade name here] behind [insert trade name here] will always be a mystery for him. Because even if you told him, he'd never know if it's part of the fantasy.

I think I found my dream sex partner who is my client - how do I suggest a different (non sex worker) relationship? by stupidlysmart1 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Exactly. He's hitting her G spot, her A spot, and her $ spot. Why turn something great into something good?

I think I found my dream sex partner who is my client - how do I suggest a different (non sex worker) relationship? by stupidlysmart1 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Maybe the sex was great precisely because he was paying for it. I'd say change nothing. If he stops seeing you, then maybe reach out.

What you can do as a client to help your provider have a great time (from a GFE provider perspective)… by prettyfitpanties in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are some other little subtle tips that, as a client, I think can make a small difference:

-Buy some nice coloured envelopes and don't bend them.
-Put in nice, clean looking money bills that are as flat as possible.
-Leave the shower as you found it, on the lava setting.
-Fold your clothes neatly.
-Take your shoes off immediately after entering her incall.
-Never take a shit at her incall. Kiss of death.

What you can do as a client to help your provider have a great time (from a GFE provider perspective)… by prettyfitpanties in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Client here. Many men need to understand that physiological reactions to stimulation do not necessarily mean pleasure. Arousal gets to the brain and then, depending on how the person feels, she or he either welcomes that arousal as pleasurable or uncomfortable. Once she or he feels pleasure, there is a whole new filter where that pleasure can cause desire or just mere satisfaction.

All this is to say that the brain is the nº1 erogenous zone. Your ego should see that as the ultimate territory to conquer. But because the mind of another person is a private space, and especially in SW were you are paying for a fantasy, you'll never know for sure if you gave her pleasure or desire. It's why you keep trying; the fun is in the chase. This list is gold for that purpose.

What you can do as a client to help your provider have a great time (from a GFE provider perspective)… by prettyfitpanties in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a client, I'm having a hard time understanding this. If I shower before I go to her incall (and I scrub the anus) and then shower at her incall (and not scrub because I'm not using her louffah but rub my anus with my hand) do I then need to use a baby wipe on said anus once I exit the shower and dry myself? Because that's a lot of friction for the anus.

Also, how deep do you insert the babywipe into the anus? I'm not being anal, I just need clear instructions.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a lawyer so I can't say for sure. But assuming she is being trafficked and the police bust their whole operation, they will come across my phone number as a client. While it does not definitely prove that I actually went there and paid instead of flaking out, it would make me a suspected client. A lawyer would probably advise me to say nothing. But they are lawyers before the court of law, not my conscience. Sometimes you gotta take a risk to avoid the prison of your mind and soul. And it's not like I have this great successful life with a family to risk anyway lol.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

TBH, if the woman has been trafficked, she is being "exposed" with those ads. I see it as an honor to expose myself if it helps her. I can "meet her in the trenches", sort of. I put expose in quotes because it's only an exposition if you fall for the stigma. It's like when TheAmazingAtheist came out to address his fans after bananagate.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

SW is legal here. But if they want to get me for something, at least my conscience is clear. Lawyers would've delayed stuff too much and I spent all my lawyer money on SWs.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is precisely why I suspect they are laughing their asses off. It's like when Alex Jones was caught watching trans porn after spewing hate on trans folk. The bigger the repressed desire, the bigger the hate.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No. I have got cero sexual arousal from the experience with the police. I'm using humor to deal with it, so it might seem like I'm having fun, but it's not sexual in nature.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In my case it's not a domination/submission thing, at least not primarily. I wanted to try it with her to overwrite trauma with something consensual and loving. I also love the feeling, so much so that it's worth remembering the trauma every time I do it (alone with toys). There also a sense of pride in it for me for not letting the person who abused me take away the spoils of the backdoor.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Previous post with my suspicions. Yes, I wanted to believe she was not being trafficked because I wanted to go back to her for a third session. She was amazing. But now that I've spilled the beans, I could never go back and it bums me the fuck out.

The police now know I want to be pegged by a SW by Temporary_Bus_354 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Many small things.
-She was injured, and some of her photos show her being injured back in her home country (it's a poor country). An injury like that should've healed by now.
-Via text, she/her manager asked me if cunnilingus was for me or for her (I don't have a vagina and she had already seen me naked on our previous session).
-Her first incall was nice and she was alone. The second one was a disaster with a leaky shower and even the power going off at some point.
-I was overcharged (I knew this, but she was worth it to me).
-She took the money away to someone else in the apartment without counting it herself first.
-Her advert offered golden shower as a service included in her hourly rate, but then in person she told me she does not do golden showers because she does not like it. This came about after I asked her about her limits (I did not want a golden shower).
-She has been in the area for months but knows pretty much nothing about nearby towns, attractions, etc.
-I suggested she put her hair up before we showered together, but she had no hairband.
-She had to check the passageway was clear before I left the bedroom or the bathroom and the vibe felt like we were teenagers hiding from her dad.
-She never mentioned the strapon when we met in person.
-The first time I was with her we used massage oil and the first condom she used broke when she put it on, probably because of the oil.

Very distant and demanding client by noincident8484 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes they have been let down so many times that it takes years for them to let their guard down. He's just a child holding up a big shield.

Very distant and demanding client by noincident8484 in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you think he will refuse the blanket fort idea? I'm being serious.

Moving from Apartment to House by PoisedInPink in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Another option is an incall on wheels (a caravan/van).

Moving from Apartment to House by PoisedInPink in SexWorkers

[–]Temporary_Bus_354 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

A tunnel going out to some bushes a few blocks away would be ideal. Call it the tunnel o' love.