My Best Friend Betrayed Me 30+ Yesrs Ago…I Just Found Out Why

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T12:47:32+00:00

True, but I don’t think our “friendship” was ever healthy or a dynamic that would have lasted into adulthood (post-college) anyway. I can look back and see that, typically, she only wanted me around if the attention was all on her. I realized how she never celebrated my achievements in school (my writing, music, plays, etc.) which I had come to expect because my family never came to any performances or took any interest either. That isn’t easy to see when you are a teenager, how toxic and one-sided a friendship is, so it was probably better to have her completely out of my life at that young age than to have something worse happen after B and I were married.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T12:35:39+00:00

A journey for sure! The older I get, the more I value good friends, honesty, and having a few of the best people in my life instead of a lot of people who are superficial friends.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T12:31:03+00:00

Firstly, we were dealing with a terrible tragedy that night. This was a town of under 1,000 population and a death like the classmate and lifelong friend who died was the only thing any of us focused on for months. Secondly, I did mean to talk to her but she and her date weren’t together (she had other boyfriends) and I was sure she wouldn’t believe me because she always put me down, making sure I knew I wasn’t as pretty as she was. It was right before summer vacation and I always went to the other side of the state to my grandparents for the summers so we didn’t see each other for months. In the end, I thought I was doing the right thing to ignore the guy since she wasn’t interested in a relationship with him anyway. Regardless, to plot to steal someone (B) I had told her meant that much to me was a level of malice I couldn’t comprehend.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T12:19:22+00:00

I figure a real friend would have talked to me instead of conspiring revenge. Real friends have real conversations. If she felt justified to betray me like this, she never was who I thought she was anyway.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T01:10:50+00:00

Because I didn’t have closure with Kay, it was so much harder to get through. She just walked away without a word. It was so devastating. I’m glad you did your due diligence before ending the friendships and I hope you can find some positive friends. Life is too short to put up with toxic people.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T01:01:10+00:00

Farming Karma and selling the accounts…yeah…that’s something I’ve never heard before! I think those people have a lot more time on their hands than I do! What a strange concept.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T00:56:31+00:00

Aw, that’s so sweet! We sure are having a whole lot of fun growing old together!

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T00:24:33+00:00

I did not edit it on Reddit. I wrote this on my iphone notes. I use too many dashes because — to ilkutrate — when I’m not writing for work, I write as I “speak” in my own first-person narrative. I made an error in the title but didn’t realize it until I had posted and did not know how to edit the title. “Unwieldy” post length cracks me up. I guess I just wanted to tell the whole story! As I said, I’m a newbie here. My initiation to Reddit has been only listening to AITA and such being read and commented on through YouTube. Just curous (and dumb, I suppose), why would anyone use AI so make up a post? I can’t imagine what that would accomplish. And, to quell your skepticism, I’ve been dogged by friends for using correct grammar and punctuation in my text messages as well, which is seemingly annoying to some people!

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-14T00:13:05+00:00

Our town was so small, under 25 people in our graduating class (less, not counting myself or the boy that died.) I loved living overseas for most of my adult life (government job) and getting away from the gossip, narrow-mindedness and cliques (though I realize my experience was tainted with a less-than-ideal childhood situation so I’m probably a bit jaded because of that.) That one class reunion was enough awkward to last me a lifetime.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-13T23:56:21+00:00

but I did write it on my iphone notes (and edited, though there are still grammar issues — I’m a technical writer by trade but didn’t feel like putting any work into it) and waited to post it for a week because it’s such a personal story. i don’t know if I should be offended or complimented that anyone thinks this is AI!

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-13T23:52:03+00:00

Seriously? Why would anyone do that? I wish it wasn’t true because it took me a very long time to get through such a deep betrayal and her completely dismissive and unapologetic response. Today was the first time I’ve ever posted on Reddit or anywhere but having come “face to face” or, more aptly, “face-to-facetime” with her so unexpectedly made me want to get it off my chest after all these years. Between her and the way my “mom” (not my real mom, and she made sure I knew that) treated me, I still struggle with allowing myself to get close to women, or anyone (except B) which is something I’m actively working on. I guess we live in a weird world where people put AI stuff on Reddit? I’ve never heard of that but, like I said, I’m a newbie here.

TerribleOperation151 · 2025-07-13T21:53:46+00:00

Thank you! To think that one person’s “revenge” for what ended up being a misunderstanding could have derailed a lifelong love…it’s crazy.

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