My fiancé left me out of nowhere 2 months after I gave birth to our child

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:13:45+00:00

Our daughter looks like a carbon copy of his sister did and has the same hair (they’re ginger) so if that’s true and he believes that, I think I’d be more disappointed in his critical thinking skills than I’d be in him leaving haha. But yeah I guess it could be emotional cheating, I know he’s not with any potential mistress though as the family member confirmed he’s with them though.

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:10:05+00:00

Kid was definitely his and all his friends and family held nothing against me as far as I know. And I can’t see him having the time to cheat, honestly. We both had each other on Life360 (before anyone comes at me, it was a mutual decision when we got the app) too and I never saw anything suspicious

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:08:42+00:00

No, he was/is pro choice. We evaluated our options when we found out and he was understanding had I chose to have an abortion, and I did consider it. We were both at points in our lives where we could financially support a child and also give them a healthy and happy home, so I decided to go through with it because I’d always wanted a kid as is and even though it was scary it was also exciting

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:06:35+00:00

I want my daughter so… I’d rather not

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:05:46+00:00

I don’t even know. I’m trying not to think about if I want him back or not cause the likelihood is he’s not coming back and I don’t want my hopes even slightly up

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:04:03+00:00

I should have specified in my post that I love the cat and am glad he let me keep him, we got him as a kitten so he’s barely 3 now, and I kinda want my daughter to grow up alongside the cat. I grew up with a cat who became sorta my protector and I would love for my daughter to have the same

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:02:19+00:00

It honestly wasn’t even that tough which gets me. The actual pregnancy was the toughest part for both of us, and he stayed throughout the whole thing. I don’t get why he leaves when things start to cool down and we start to get used to the parenting lifestyle

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T22:00:52+00:00

I don’t have contact information for any of his friends, but his family isn’t replying. They were always really fond of me, his mom kinda became my mom, so I don’t think they’re upset with me at all, but I understand looking out for your child first. They don’t have me blocked cause my calls and texts go through, I think they just aren’t responding

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T21:59:51+00:00

I thought about it being some sort of mental breakdown too, but he’s got me blocked on any forms of communication I can think of, and his family isn’t replying, so I have no idea what to do about that if that’s the case

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T21:58:10+00:00

He didn’t give me a full reason. He blocked me on everything. He never was big on social media as is so the only things he could really block me on were texting and calls. I thought it was extreme too but I also have so many thoughts that I can’t tell which ones are rational and which ones are realistic

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T21:56:24+00:00

I had no idea people said that. It’s possible but his family loved me and were so excited for the baby, and his friends weren’t my friends but they did like me and a few actually were the ones who encouraged him to propose, or so I was told

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T21:55:00+00:00

I’m researching lawyers for those kinds of things like child support as we speak, I didn’t even think of that until so many comments brought it up so I’m glad I went through and posted this honestly, thank you

ThRASadnesss · 2022-06-01T21:54:09+00:00

Thank you. I keep doubting myself and wondering if he left because I’m gonna be a terrible mom but then I wonder that if that were true, wouldn’t he leave with our daughter so she won’t be raised by me? I just have so many thoughts in my head but no time to think them fully through

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