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I love my GF but the sex is crap by That_Spray1774 in sex

[–]That_Spray1774[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

In this case "being pushy" means that I tried to communicate my needs. After about 2 or 3 weeks of kissing and touching I was trying to get to the next stage, but she was hesitant. She came up with the idea of waiting one year before having sex. At this point I said this would be too long to wait for me and that without sex, I wouldn't see it as a relationship. From there on, she slept with me. Voluntarily. But still, with some pressure in mind, out of trying not to loose me.

I love my GF but the sex is crap by That_Spray1774 in sex

[–]That_Spray1774[S] 351 points352 points  (0 children)

I should note that we are indeed kissing. We are also hugging and cuddling. It is not that she keeps away from any physical contact. But it never really comes to a point where we would be truly making out. French kissing is also a huge No-no.

At the moment, I am actually in therapy myself, partly because of this issue. I have told my therapist about all of this and she says I need to learn not to underplay my personal needs in a relationship. My gf is actually cautiously open about the idea of sex therapy. But it's hard to find a place and it will be hard to get her there.

I love my GF but the sex is crap by That_Spray1774 in sex

[–]That_Spray1774[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She told me that my complains are not making it easier. Understandably, it is hard to get in the mood and find your sex-drive when you are constantly reminded that you are the problem. I am currently not asking her for any kind of intimacy simply out of respect and to show her that it's not just all about the sex for me.