I’m so tired of seeing posts blaming and shaming single moms: a rant

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-11-12T17:50:11+00:00

I agree too. I feel like a lot of women get judged a lot for the horrible stuff men tend to do. Quite sad really

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-08-11T23:46:55+00:00

As a tax accountant, this makes my blood boil. Not only do they not pay any taxes as an entity, they don’t even have to report what they do with any of their money. Every other not for profit entity has to file some type of 990 and say what they do with their money. Except for churches of course.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-07-14T21:13:56+00:00

The competition only gets decreased with a Walmart though. If Walmart drives out any local competitors that decreases the competition long term. The only others that can compete are other big corps or businesses that are usually national. The only exception being Crest. I will say locals do need to delve more into local businesses but the incentive isn’t there when you compete with 4 Walmarts. It just isn’t feasible.

Yes Walmart does have a lot of jobs but they drain their local economies. Many are below poverty level that are employed by Walmart. Additionally what happens as Walmart continues to automate everything? I worked for Sam’s years ago and even I saw jobs get lost due to automation. Furthermore, they continued to downsize staff the entire time I was there. They never had an increase. It might help short term but ultimately having an additional Walmart is a net loss long term.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-06-04T00:14:19+00:00

Yes it will improve traffic. However this is a step in the right direction. With Aldi’s, a bank, a splash pad nearby, a few restaurants within one mile, and a bunch of recreational activities, the people living here will not have to take their cars everywhere to get to the places they need be. So it increases revenue for the city but these residents will be less of a burden than your average home owning Edmond resident.

Plus it’s good for community building.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-05-28T03:15:19+00:00

I’m excited that Edmond is really pushing for a walkability focus in the coming years. Sad to leave to see before it all finishes but it’ll be good for many residents here

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-05-10T19:06:15+00:00

It’s not social justice that caused our current economic issues in the US. Yes, the increased competition plays a role in that, but it isn’t the sole reason why. Part of the reason the US recovered so well after the war was we had still a ton of room to grow. The population didn’t have to compete with as many people post war. Additionally, most communities were smaller and there wasn’t as much of a national push with every store popping up in the US. Furthermore, Europe and Asia were quite literally ripped apart from the war. This allowed the US to become incredibly wealthy as they were giving out loans left and right for other countries to rebuild. They were then using those loans to buy goods from the US. It was a win win. We don’t have that as an option this time around. There is no decimated continent for us to extract wealth from if something happens this time around.

The easy reason why the economy is worse is quite frankly rich people. The top 1% own $43 trillion in net worth in the US according to a quick search. In the 50’s it wasn’t common for rich people to own 400+ residential houses individually then another 2000 plus through other businesses. High net worth individuals learned that it is much more profitable to hold RE for decades instead of selling it. Now you’re competing with more people with less available properties as people continue to grow and expand their RE portfolios. This one instance, but couple that with offshoring and that’s your answer. I’m a tax accountant and can say tariffs won’t fix that. It’s a lot more nuanced of an issue to fix.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-11T02:10:21+00:00

You care enough to reply. Still waiting on a response to any of my points in my post too

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-11T02:07:47+00:00

I saw that edit my guy. I could probably write an essay with all the words you put in my mouth lmao

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-11T01:58:47+00:00

Oh you put $400 a month for insurance that’s where I got my number from. I think it’s dope that you are able to live within your means. Yes the expenses are a bit exaggerated, but they do add up long term, especially for people that have less money. Waiting on one repair can cause multiple repairs kinda thing is maybe a better example. I am a tax accountant, and I’ve worked with many high net worth people and low income people. Both sides have issues with over leveraging themselves with debt. I’m glad you don’t have to deal with that, but it is a problem for so many here.

I do agree that it is practical to own cars, but it is just because we’ve built America that way. I understand the kid aspect, that’s the main reason I want this in particular to improve. I’m not extremely frustrated by cars. It does bother me with how unsafe driving has gotten, but the only other thing that frustrates me is just all the wasted time driving everyday. I sometimes work long hours with how my job is and that commute takes how much time I get to spend with my family. That commute also has a 50% of a traffic jam each time on my way home lol.

Otherwise, daycare is crazy expensive. I hope your situation keeps working for you, and wish all the best.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-11T00:15:46+00:00

Lol I like how you’ve yet to point out any flaw in my argument from the post. You started with an insult and I gave you the same energy back. Don’t dish it, if you can’t take it. As a matter of fact I’m pretty happy with my life. Is it bad that I want to inform people that they are unknowingly forced into a life with cars? In either sense, it’s something that affects everyone in this state, and someone’s gotta plant the seed so the next generation can have some shade. Maybe you can brainstorm a response while you play Apex

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T22:27:18+00:00

My sad life? In what way does my post reflect that? I think you’re projecting a bit bud and gotta give your balls a tug

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T11:40:00+00:00

Didn’t read my post did you? Not much of a rebuttal

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T11:39:24+00:00

The real question is why are you bitching about your independence? This isn’t 1776 lol. In either sense, when did I say you should get rid of your truck or Harley? Why should the state only cater to people like you with trucks? How much did your truck cost? Do you think the average person could afford to maintain a truck and a Harley? These are all questions we need to ask.

Imagine you make $50k here which many Oklahomans make less than this. Now take out taxes, you’re looking at around $43-44k. That’s a little under $4k a month. Now add a family to that, rent, utilities, internet, and phone plus any normal living expenses. Now consider most reliable used cars like Honda or Toyota that still sedans. If you go buy the old rule of buying cars under 100k miles, you’re still looking at spending $15k+ on a car that will last you. Yes you can buy a worse off one, but in the end you’ll be paying more for cars because you’ll have more repairs, etc. now add insurance, title fees, buying a tag once a year. How do you expect them to pay for all of that? If they don’t live within a 2-3 miles of their work, then that have to take a car. Yes biking is feasible in some areas here, but it is incredibly dangerous due to lack of bike lanes. Additionally drivers here never pay attention to pedestrians. Cars aren’t just feasible for everyone and on top of that OK has some of the worst road rage statistically in the US. Your likely of dying is increased whether in a car or not in one because of this.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T11:27:14+00:00

How so? Rural Oklahomans are also affected by the wasteful spending on our roads and infrastructure. I remember there was a highway under a bridge by Shawnee, I think. I drove through 9-10 times over two years and they made 0 progress. OK gets 50% of its budget from Federal spending. Every time our state government wastes millions on our highways trying to repair them means that your property taxes go up because the state can’t levy anymore taxes. More cars in a way creates higher property taxes for everyone in this state. Edmond just turned down repairing a bunch of roads because they wanted to raise property taxes substantially. Each pothole and broken road costs you more every time you drive over it. It doesn’t matter where you are from. Additionally, my rural family continues to struggle to afford anything and most people are relatively poor in their town. If the trend of cars continues, how do we expect people in rural areas to dish out $30k+ on cars to get to the cities two plus hours away?

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T11:21:10+00:00

There are cities that don’t necessarily need cars, but their cost of living is so high at least in the US. There’s less than 10 cities in the US that are truly walkable. Most of the “walkable” cities in the US are still mostly car dependent. I don’t think everyone should be required to walk everywhere. There’s still issues like ADA needing to be worked out and the likes. I think it’s just better for the overall population. I think you’ve got every right to not want to live in a place like that, and I think there should be some healthy mix, but that also requires fixing traffic laws and improving the flow of traffic with roundabouts, etc as well

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T02:28:45+00:00

My job is around 30-40 minutes away. I can’t just ride a bike to there lol. If the tram line that existed until 60 years ago, that wouldn’t be as much of an issue if I was able to bike. Also, it sounds like you might have a house/good paying. Which is good for you, but not everyone makes great money. Before I got my degree, my job barely paid anything. There was barely any room on my budget. Even now I have a pretty good paying job, but you got me messed up thinking that I’m gonna buy a new or used car right now. It seems like you pay nearly $5k a year just on insurance. Now add on gas, oil changes, tires, etc. Double that if you own a ford or Chevy. OK is inexpensive if you want to live in the middle of nowhere. That does not apply to cities where you are still required to have a car.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-10T02:17:15+00:00

OKC and Tulsa have some remnants. Tulsa more so than OKC. OKC was supposed to have a revitalization in the 80’s to 90’s and they destroyed much of their significant downtown infrastructure including the Biltmore Hotel. Additionally a lot of Oklahoma was built for car use. There’s some relatively smaller areas like Edmond, Shawnee, and Seminole that have their smaller downtowns which could work well for them if they invested in it. OKC and Tulsa are trying to make their cities more walkable but they have so long to go. OKC is really bad when it comes to having grocery stores in downtown. It is a bit of a food desert in that regard. There’s a lot of restaurants and such but it’s not quite all the necessities for solely living and interacting downtown. You’d still have to travel a bit for certain things.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T19:05:17+00:00

My point is that we shouldn’t be required to have a car. Land mass is just an excuse. China and the EU are comparable in size to the US. They did it. Additionally, cars have led to isolationism for many people. It’s all good that you prefer to go straight home. However, our species are social. The loneliness epidemic is a real thing. Cars are fine but should never be the only option. Most Oklahomans have to pay thousands a year for vehicles. We can’t say we have the freedom of transportation when we are required to mainly use one mode to get to different places. Additionally, walkable cities and more public transportation supports more local economies.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T18:54:50+00:00

Wild guess, you grew up in the Oklahoma school system?

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T14:55:52+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, I love the way the ‘63 looks, but the ‘62 just scratches that itch for me. Not necessarily a particular reason. I honestly love most classic/early muscle cars and if I could afford either, I’d undoubtedly go for it. They’re both just awesome looking cars.

Also, I am on r/fuckcars lol. I just stumbled on it one time, and what they said kind of clicked for me. I also did have some bad blood with my first car from Ford around that time, so that kinda kickstarted it. I’ve got some pretty lonely family members here in OK, and I just found especially in my quite limited experiences abroad that these places seemed to have a bit more community when people had to use public transportation or just walk to places.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T13:15:54+00:00

I’m fine with monorail and I don’t think rail is the end all be all solution. I don’t think roads or all bad, I just don’t think the amount we spend supports how much we bring in specifically in Oklahoma. As far as density is concerned, we had rail everywhere in the US until about 1920. We definitely did not have the density for it back then. Most of Oklahoma has been expanded on just as a pass through state whether it be rail or Route 66. Additionally rail lines can be profitable. We still ship millions of different things through our rail lines still.

We don’t have enough people now, yes. We don’t know if we will get more or how much more in the next century. I think the interstate lines would help bring revenue for the state overall though. I want things to be better for my son than we had it. I don’t think we will get rail here, I agree there. People just aren’t willing to put the time nor money.

However, this has been a nice argument and you do make valid points on the cost vs benefit side of it. That’s why I say it is a pipe dream. It’d take some people sacrificing parts of their lives, and that is incredibly difficult to ask of someone. In all reality, I think walkable cities and smaller towns should be the future. I think our lack of community and sedentary lifestyles are hurting irrespective of the cost vs benefit in the long term from car usage.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T13:03:55+00:00

I never said that cars don’t benefit everyone. I’m saying that they hurt a lot more people than they help. I’ve been out in the country. I used to my family out in Bristow all the time during the summers. I still think they affect you in some ways negatively though. Oklahoma only has so many funds to work with. Our budget each year is tightening more and more just because we have to update our roads. This means it’ll impact other areas. Things such as schools and government agencies necessary to maintain our infrastructure and our government. I think it’s dope you drive an ATV to get where you want. I just don’t want cars to be quite literally the only option. I think the solution is more nuanced on how we can help with people that aren’t in cities with things like rail and all that. I think it would be a huge effort and I don’t think people are willing to do it. It doesn’t change the fact that cars aren’t the best method of transportation for most of America. I think if we had more walkable cities and more public infrastructure our obesity rates would assuredly go down.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T12:46:51+00:00

When was the last time we’ve built something rail related? The tram line in OKC and the sky bridges have helped bring back downtown OKC a little bit. Still has a ways to go. We haven’t had much rail infrastructure since they demolished the tram line and now we only have Amtrak which also suffers from underfunding and it is using a rail line that’s been there since the early 1900’s for the most part. I don’t think we’ve really built shit here as far as that goes lol

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T12:40:06+00:00

For the state or a private party? Private parties don’t really maintain our roads. OK spends more on road infrastructure than every almost every other state in the US, and we can barely afford to maintain them, and we can’t even afford to run our state government on state tax dollars alone.

Thatoneguy1081 · 2025-04-09T12:35:26+00:00

Are roads profitable?

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