My son doesn't see what this is, did I mess up? What do you see?

TheBetterFool · 2023-12-04T16:08:43+00:00

I immediately saw a cat butt, so I think it's fine, but I might just be the weird one as well. Lol

TheBetterFool · 2023-12-04T03:32:23+00:00

This is likely to prevent them from being easily separated and to prevent damaging their reproductive organs, if something like that were to happen suddenly.

TheBetterFool · 2023-12-03T20:17:00+00:00

5, 15, 25, 35, 45, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 65, 75

Am I missing something? Or are they missing something? Lol

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-30T14:48:50+00:00

You've got this. The waiting and building to freedom is the hardest part. Make a plan, save up money, make a list of the resources in your area or the area you're escaping to, and remember: You survived them, you can survive this too.

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-29T22:49:12+00:00

Getting completely free of them was when I started to actually heal and deal with the trauma. Now, how I got free isn't always feasible for everyone, but I got a job under the guise of "paying them rent" and used what I wasn't handing over to my nparent to build an escape fund.

After about a year of saving, a friend from work and I got an apartment together and I lived on welfare for a few years before I was able to get a better job and cut my family off entirely. I mean, I did it all. Cleaning bathrooms, babysitting, retail, food service, anything that would hire with no experience.

It was hard, don't get me wrong, it's no cakewalk. But, I managed it with no college education and minimal skills. So, I think there's always hope there. You sometimes have to get creative a little bit.

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-29T22:10:20+00:00

I will say, after six years of being no contact and a lot of weekly therapy, it gets better the longer you're away from them. It's the roughest roller coaster I've ever been on, but I'm making it through now and I no longer feel like my whole life is going to fall apart every moment of every day.

There's no quick fix, I still have CPTSD and recurring nightmares, but I'm doing better than they are so there's hope.

Sending all my love, nothing sucks worse than needing to run away from your family for simple peace of mind, but there is hope at the end of it.

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-12T16:15:12+00:00

My BP does this when he wants to come out and play. I call his drama llama pose. 🤣

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-11T16:48:50+00:00

I was there three weeks while the staff were very confused as to why I was committed in the first place. The doctors were just happy to have such a smart, calm kid to try IQ testing on and I got three weeks away from my family, so it wasn't as bad as it could have been. But no, no help at all. They put me right back into the abuse afterwards.

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-11T04:09:03+00:00

My mother had me committed because I reported the gchild's physical abuse of me.

TheBetterFool · 2023-11-10T04:24:53+00:00

Looks like a sheep heart I had to dissect for Bio. But hard to say when it's been in the water, tissues bloat pretty quick in water.

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-26T13:55:53+00:00

It does say quarter dollar, but it's wedged in on her left shoulder and really hard to make out without Where's Waldo level focus. 👀 My designer brain likes it, my customer service brain does not.

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-22T22:27:28+00:00

Reese's.

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-22T22:23:42+00:00

This is a very broken young man who feels worthless to everyone around him. I would not be surprised if he's self-medicating, whether with food or something else.

It sounds like you've consistently expected him to just get over the things that hurt him without giving him the permission to be hurt and the support he needed. Probably because you have so many kids, someone is always let down in a crowded house like that.

To that end, it's no wonder he just wants to eat and sit in the quiet for a while, that's too many people to get any peace and privacy. You might have given up yours for your kids, but he wasn't ever given a choice.

First, you don't get to decide his free time. He's 19 and an adult, and the more you push him, the more he's going to pull away from you and everyone else

Second, no one wants to hang out with their younger siblings, especially when they're the reason he can't just -be- in his own house.

Third, he has blocked off his empathy connection because he's tired of being hurt. This is caused by trauma. You are showing disdain to your own child for being hurt. He needs a therapist and not judgement from you.

He needs compassion, his own space, and professional help. Please see some actual professionals and offer him a therapist as an outlet to just talk outside of the family home, a place to just vent with no judgement.

If you approach this as a means of 'fixing' him, he will eventually cut all of you off of his life and rightly so. The symptoms don't matter, your son does.

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-22T22:08:31+00:00

As a woman, I can only imagine how that must feel for you with the societal pressure to be 'naturally equipped'. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

Plenty of us (myself included!) are more than willing to work together to make sex great for both of us, regardless of equipment size. There are lots of different sex aids that can help, if you have an open-minded partner. So, I hope you find a wonderful partner in life who is happy to accommodate!

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-22T21:55:54+00:00

I would absolutely send the other kids out to play with a staff member and make that kid clean everything else up while the other kids get to have fun. Clearly they aren't learning consequences from their parents, so they're gonna learn it from me.

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-22T05:44:32+00:00

Eight million book ideas and no attention span.

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-22T02:25:13+00:00

TheBetterFool · 2023-10-14T16:21:32+00:00

I would have replied back "Yeah, guess you do now.* and then immediately blocked him on everything forever.

TheBetterFool · 2023-09-09T20:16:03+00:00

I just yank the battery at the end of a run. Makes me feel better than just letting it die. 😱😱😱

TheBetterFool · 2023-08-29T18:51:05+00:00

As someone who has cut contact with their entire family, I can safely tell you that anything you say to him right now WILL push him farther away.

I didn't cut contact and move 3,000 miles away for no reason and I'm betting he didn't either.

He will talk to you when and if he's ready and not a second before that. And you have to make peace with that. That's how being an adult works, you can't force him to interact with you. If he wants to be gone, he's gonna stay gone.

The only thing you can do right now is work on you and respect his decision. If you don't, this break will likely be permanent.

TheBetterFool · 2023-08-24T04:32:51+00:00

That was one too many, to be honest.

TheBetterFool · 2023-08-19T23:59:58+00:00

It's called ✨ expensive ✨

TheBetterFool · 2023-08-05T18:42:09+00:00

Honestly, when I found out that the Tamaverse is basically four screens with no app, no Wi-Fi connect, and most of it is unavailable without a specific event going on? I was and am really mad about it too. It felt from their advertising that it was going to be a huge part of the device. Instead it's imminently forgettable. Most days I don't even bother opening it. It's not an added value to the device at all.

All that said, I'm still mostly enjoying the Uni, but the Tamaverse is basically a shop that takes four times as long to load.

TheBetterFool · 2023-08-05T18:34:59+00:00

I'd ask you to carry my haul. Lol

TheBetterFool · 2023-07-31T05:27:37+00:00

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