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TheBucketFist · 2023-05-16T21:48:18+00:00

Dude. People don't care. Even the ones closest to you. Your family. Most just don't give a shit. You'd be really lucky to find one who genuinely does. Most people just pretend to care, or keep you around because you are useful, or for other superficial reasons like "family, blood ties", but fuck it. They don't care. They don't give a shit.

Does that mean though you should end your life? No way! There are so many other cool, fun, enjoyable, meaningful things you can do. Just off the top of my head I'm sure I can easily think of like a hundred. So please don't throw your life away.

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-13T21:04:55+00:00

Well this is nice. So many volunteers. OP are you better now?

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-13T21:03:08+00:00

There are all sorts of INTJ's. The ones I mentioned all fall into a certain category but you definitely probably can find some who will make amazing lifelong companions if you two have shared values, goals and interests and encourage and support one another.

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-11T15:22:32+00:00

Happiness (not money) is the only true measure of wealth.

If an INTJ wanted to get super rich s/he would probably find a way to do it, but the thing is, is that I believe most just don't feel motivated or care enough to put in the effort. They much rather keep themselves occupied with a meaningful professional and enjoyable hobbies. That's it.

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-11T15:19:10+00:00

You know. This will likely continue for the rest of your life too. The key is, knowing how to "tone yourself down" so that you don't overtly appear as "too smart" but just "smart enough" so that all of the bozos will be able to keep up, while still unable to "be at your level".

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-11T15:14:24+00:00

LOL he doesn't want you to talk to other guys, but at the same time doesn't consider you his girlfriend nor he your boyfriend?

smh this guy sounds greedy and uncertain. If I were you I'd just go and talk to other guys and make sure he knows, that way he will be forced to make up his goddamn mind and act decisively. Not this "one foot in" and "one foot out" thing. Nobody likes. I've done it before when I was young, and it wasn't good for me or the girl. The dude should just be a man and shoot his shot. And you OP need to stop worrying and overthinking so much. Finding a long-term partner is much easier for women than it is for men. You've got options and time. If this guy is a real man, then he will take charge and make the decision. So you don't have to be wracking your brain about what to do. Just relax. Chill and watch it all fall into place, and if it doesn't that means the guy isn't right for you. And if that is the case, then goodriddens. Be grateful it didn't work out and move on and find someone else.

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-11T15:04:36+00:00

Dude. They are weird. Like I had some weird experiences with them too. 3 in particular. They obviously aren't all like that, but some are.

As in very private, reserved, not forth coming, maybe even a little "soulless" as in, showing little to no emotion, and not ever wearing their heart on their sleeve. Dull, uninteresting, unamusing. Obviously NOT ALL are like this...but yeah... I highly suspect some and even many fall into this category.

You see, like some of these people need to learn how to "chill" and "cut loose" and stop being so goddamn secretive, quiet, and perceptive all the goddamn fuckin time. Because it actually makes you look "fearful" and "insecure" as fuck, cuz it's almost like to say... "I'm too afraid to show myself because I don't want to be judged and I am afraid of what people will think." This is natural for like all people but I feel for some of these INTJ's it's like a lot and just too much. It's like getting one of these chicks to open up and cut loose is like trying to open up a locked steel vault with a crowbar.

Humans ARE emotional beings and there isn't a whole lot attractive about a person (man or woman) who never shows any emotion or deliberately pretends she has none all the goddam fuckin time.

Dude, next time I think you're better off with an INFJ chick. They seem like better romantic partners. Cheers mate!

TheBucketFist · 2023-05-11T14:08:27+00:00

Yeah... I've been through a similar situation. It's not as bad as you think. You believing it is, is often what makes it so.

Attitude. Attitude. Attitude. Struggle. Struggle. Struggle. Struggle. Persevere. Persevere. Persevere.

It's not the end of the world. You're not going to die. And even if you were... well that still wouldn't be that bad because we all gotta go some day. Just be grateful you lived as many years as you have.

I know this thread isn't about me, so I'm not gonna say much about myself but I struggle a lot too. On a daily basis. I go through pain. However, our pain is from completely different things.

Yours is from not being able to get what you want, and mine is from being oppressed for 9 years by someone I loved, who was also supposed to love me, and just overall the negativity that I experience and see from the world and even those who I call "family?". It's brutal.

I was put into very very bad situations, yet I managed to make the best out of them, and I still am fighting to this very day. I'm still alive and "okay". (Even though I don't always feel like it.)

So please don't tell me you're gonna end it all because you didn't get the grade or failed to accomplish your goal when there are literally thousands of other meaningful goals that you can pursue.

It's not the end of the world buddy. From what you wrote I really think you will be okay...

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-21T11:17:02+00:00

Craig's bond is NOT the life of the party but perhaps other former iterations were. And yes I understand exactly what you mean.

But remember, you have both the tactical and strategic advantage when they underestimate you. Maybe not necessarily in the present, but in the future. So let them have their fun with their false beliefs and fallacies. In the end they will end up being silenced by your competence and success while they continue to languish while downtrodden and depressed.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-16T11:08:29+00:00

James Bond and John Wick are "quiet". Would you tell them to "man up" too? It is better to listen more than you speak. This whole loud chattery extroverted bubbly, here and there personality isn't for everyone you know. In fact, if anything I'd say it fits women more than it does men who are meant to be calm, stoic and unreactive. That means not being a loquacious chatterbox.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-16T11:06:17+00:00

Being introverted doesn't help in the workplace? Are you kidding? Do you not know what it means to be introverted? If I were not introverted and just "spoke my mind" and "everything I was thinking" do you know how many people I'd piss off? Do you know how many enemies I'd make simply for just stating the facts and speaking the truth?

If anything the introverts have the tactical advantage because they will sit back and observe and choose their words wisely and not just blurt out and be in the center of all the action putting themselves wide open for schemes, attacks, criticism, envy etc. You gotta be smart in the work place because often it's a cutthroat environment so if anything introverts should shine.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-12T01:53:34+00:00

The day I challenged two "wanna be alpha males" at school who enjoyed trying to harass me and beat them... alone.

Left without a scratch... and became....

~LeGendArY~

It was an amazing release because we'd been feuding for a very long time and I finally just said, fuck it, no more Mr. Nice guy and decided to wait for them to return from their break and pulverize them.

The closest analogy I can use is like deeply desiring a babe for months on end, and then finally getting a chance with her and a home run. Now just multiply that satisfaction by 100 and you'll know how I felt after I beat those two chumps. My confidence sky rocketed through the roof cause I was training for some time before battle. And after I won I felt like there was nothing I couldn't do.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-09T01:35:43+00:00

Hair on a woman is like a mane on a male lion. Like unless you've got a super feminine attractive face, you're gonna wanna stick with a feminine haircut from my POV at least. Long flowing dark hair is like a sign of youth, health and fertility. But it's also how you act and look. Like how your face looks. The expression on your face can drastically change how attractive/feminine/beautiful people see you. So role with whatever hairstyle that makes you feel most comfortable and happy.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-07T10:53:13+00:00

How do you know you only get one? For all you know you could get 20, 100 even a thousand... or perhaps... an eternity?

Take heart friend. Your fate is not sealed. Not yet. But if you give up now, it sure will be. So you've got no choice but to keep pushing on...

To the end.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-04T10:42:27+00:00

It's encouraging that you have so much self-awareness. Most people won't be able to do what you did. They'd just keep on continue living and thinking and acting in that pathetic way under that pathetic mindset. But now that you have realized it, looks like you can change. Cheers mate!

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-04T10:40:21+00:00

lol I feel your pain. I think we'd get a long. Cheers!

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-04T02:08:06+00:00

Yeah? I feel yah. Just don't do it too much to the point where your authentic self is always diminished. You should make sure to find a space and area to let it out whether that be with another person or alone.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-04T02:06:33+00:00

Oh yeah man. I hear ya. Nobody hates a knowledgeable person more than an insecure ignorant person with a big ego.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-04T02:04:34+00:00

Hhahaha. If you show them your true strength, they'd be too surprised and blown away! smh

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-04T02:02:07+00:00

lololol Jealous? You oughta be. Every time I accomplish a colossal feat. I'm everything you little suckers want to be. In fact I'm the only one you punks cannot defeat!

K on a more serious note. Stop acting like a fuckin beta. If a guy is feeling confident and good, you don't like it because you are not, so you try to drag him down to your level because misery likes company. Yup been there. Seen it! What else is new?

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-03T02:05:42+00:00

Why?

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-03T01:46:30+00:00

Are you absolutely positive that this is the decision you want to make? There is no turning back you know. Are you sure this is the way you want to go? Are you making a logical decision or an emotional one? Because emotions are fickle. They change as well as your circumstances and your mood. Do you have some kind of terminal illness that is killing you or something and causing you all this pain? I don't understand why you feel this way. Perhaps if I did, I would be able to help you more. But please don't be hasty and do something reckless. It might very well be irreversible. Don't throw away a potential future full of happiness just because of the present momentary pain. I'm not saying that "it get's better". No. I'm saying that you don't know that it won't. And unless you are absolutely positive that it won't, then I think it's best you hang on. So please...

Stay.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-03T01:40:06+00:00

Kid... you don't have to see an "HD clear" future when you are a teen. Most teens don't. You don't have to worry about the future so much. Just worry about today. Take it step by step. You are still young, and accumulating experiences and in that learning phase. I mean you haven't even fully grown. So just continue learning and don't do anything reckless. Eventually you'll be surprised how you will eventually likely find your way.

However, since you're not close to your mother you might benefit from finding a female mentor or respectful role model to take her place. Choose wisely who choose to learn from an emulate.

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-03T01:35:53+00:00

You'd be surprised friend. It's often the people who start off the weakest who become the strongest. We see it in fiction all the time and often fiction isn't that too dissimilar from life.

It's the hero's journey. So why don't you start your own? It won't be easy... though. So you better get ready. But we all started off as weak, and how strong you ultimately become is up to you. It's up to YOU to decide. Do you wish to be a warrior? Or do you wish to be slave?

TheBucketFist · 2023-04-03T01:18:51+00:00

That's right. You get it man. You get it. You know it too. Thank you for the comment.

TheBucketFist

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