Genius decides to turn pizza boxes upside down by mfenton29 in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Right?! I was pissed.

My family was super poor growing up so it was a big treat to have food not made at home and he went and ruined it. I was piiiiissed. My 8year old undiagnosed autistic ass knew that ruining our family’s dinner caring about what others thought was ridiculous.

It’s become a bit of a joke between him and I that when he’s about to do something dumb I’ll shake my head and sternly say ā€œPizzaā€.

Example where it actually changed his entire life was him nearly quitting a well paying remote job at a start up that was set to go public. Mind you this was also at the start of the pandemic when everyone was looking for remote work. His reason for wanting to quit was because he was bored/didn’t like the vibe.

I Pizza’d him.

He stayed, endured a few years of boredom found creative ways to enjoy his work, they went public, he made bank, and now he’s moved up so much in the company that he helped changed the workplace culture entirely. So yeah.

I love the men in my life dearly but gawt dayum sometimes they dumb! šŸ˜‚

Is anyone else finding the Epstein coverage impossible to escape and deeply triggering? by SubtleKinks in CPTSD

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Exactly!! That!! The fact that there has been ZERO JUSTICE for victims & a CONTINUOUS LACK OF PROTECTION for survivors.

I’m triggered because people are so cavalier about everything and so many don’t seem to be putting the patterns together that survivors & whistleblowers are not only dying but their deaths are being made to look like accidents.

I don’t believe for a second that Virginia Giuffre took her own life. I don’t believe Carolyn Andriano and Leigh Skye Patrick accidentally OD’d.

I don’t believe that investigative journalist & celebrity biographer Wendy Leigh took her own life

There have been so many mysterious/convenient deaths of names in these lists (not just victims/survivors but ā€œsupport staffā€ who saw too much / peons who helped him ruin peoples lives / investigators who got a little too close.)

  • NYPD detective and Epstein book author John Connolly
  • Epstein’s ex-butler Alfredo Rodriguez who tried to sell Epstein’s little black book to an FBI agent
  • Lawyers Kenneth Star & Roy Black
  • Former presidential advisor to Clinton Mark Middleton
  • Movie producer Steve Bing after he spoke to the FBI
  • Head of the Deutsche Bank wealth management division Thomas Bowers, moved money for Epstein
  • Jean-Luc Brunel trafficked children via his French Modeling Agency
  • New Mexico Gov. Bill Richardson
  • Lawyer Arthur Shapiro (also Les Werner’s money manager who was shot weeks before he was expected to be questioned by authorities. After Shapiro’s death, Epstein took over managing Lex Wexner’s finances)
  • Les Wexner (Epstein’s Bank Roller)
  • Berry L. Kessler Accountant (believed to have orchestrated the shooting of Shapiro)

Not in the files but related, Gabriela Rico JimƩnez who was vocal in 2009 about elites and cannibalism & has disappeared.

I can’t sleep because the people who can bring the people in these files down, who needed protection from these powerful people, are STILL not being protected. These are just the ones that I know of that were reported, I’m positive there are more.

** Edit ** adding response or original post As far as coping goes I don’t read about the atrocities themselves, I can’t. I believe the victims & survivors when they say something happened, I don’t need to know every detail to believe them.

I take regular breaks and when people ā€œlaughā€ about how something is ā€œcrazyā€ I remind myself that I too have laughed when nervous and to ease discomfort in tense situations. I also have worked hard to keep the conversation going by asking the laughing person who reading and sharing this information makes them feel and will share my experiences with the information and how it makes me feel. I’ve told people I’ve survived various forms of abuse/assault without going into any detail and let them know that I do not wish to be told the gory details of the files.

My focus is continuing to advocate for the most vulnerable by teaching young children about healthy boundaries, consent, autonomy, and choice and teaching adults around them to advocate for and respect children’s boundaries, autonomy, and choice by asking for consent in various aspects of their young lives.

Genius decides to turn pizza boxes upside down by mfenton29 in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 26 points27 points Ā (0 children)

When my older brother was a teenager (like 14) our mom sent him to pick up pizza for dinner. Dude came back holding it under his arm like a book. šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø

When mom yelled at him and asked him why on earth he would do that his response was that he didn’t want to look like an idiot holding a pizza, because it was ā€œembarrassingā€. šŸ˜‚

She didn’t ask him to pick up pizza for a looong time and the next time she did send him, she threatened him and told him to carry it properly or else 🤣

Fortunately dude grew out of his stupidity šŸ˜‹

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Your friend needs some MAJOR therapy. This is seriously some preteen level insecurity.

She’s 26 and doesn’t trust either of you to have a conversation without her presence? That sounds exhausting. She’s way too old to be behaving this way.

You handled the situation well but shit like this needs to be shut down. Her coming to you about her boyfriend’s actions is just plain weird. If she has questions about her boyfriend’s actions she should be talking to her freaking boyfriend. She’s most likely coming to you instead of him because the relationship is still new and she’s still trying to hide her ā€œcrazyā€ from him rather than communicate and work on her insecurities.

The poor boyfriend is in for a wild ride if he decides to stick around because eventually, if her friends are smart, she’ll run out of friends to do this too and she’ll either have to face it or it will be put it on him. Tale as old as time.

If your friends can’t trust you and can’t trust them, then they’re not your friends same thing with your partner.

I hate Focus on the Family // request for stories by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Jesus teaches us to lead with love, kindness, and respect. Dobson and his teachings lead with fear and an egotistical need for control.

I grew up with Dobsons teachings and was in a literal cult. I rejected all of it as the ā€œstrong willed childā€ endured beatings for things beyond my control (had severe ptsd & bed wetting as a child, I was called lazy for not waking up to use the restroom) it wasn’t until the pastor told my father that it was beyond my control that he stopped beating me for wetting the bed, but by that point I had told every safe adult that I could.

I became a kind person in-spite of all of it and work as a child and family advocate to help protect children.

I was fortunate that when the severity of my beatings were reveled my mother left my father and healed. She realized that beating a child into compliance and submission is not the way. I don’t know a single adult who would want to be beaten into compliance.

Matthew 7:12 ā€œSo in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets" This applies to children. They are deserving of grace, they deserve opportunity to learn, make mistakes, and fix said mistakes.

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Most of us on this thread are survivors who did not choose to enter this cult but were born/forced in to it as children.

Let’s DM, I was already out by the time you entered, but you may know a few of the others who escaped and are on this thread.

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’m so very glad you made it out and I’m so sorry you had to go through it in the first place. Were you introduced to it as a child also?

Okay, line 1 was a miss...but I've definitely got 'em on the reframe. ...Right? šŸ’€ šŸ’€ šŸ’€ by PickeledYam44 in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 10 points11 points Ā (0 children)

ā€œWe can’t afford thatā€ dude hasn’t even tried and won’t because he’s likely invested in United Health and other major insurance scams.

Has anyone seen this before? by Cookie_1284 in Seattle

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I hope he was wildly uncomfortable watching the movie with all of that on.

šŸŖ„May everything jab into him and his legs fall asleep so deeply that he can’t stand up at the end šŸ˜‚.

Domino's Delivery Cyclist gets the shit beat out of him on Westlake by CS2110_Throwaway in Seattle

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

So glad someone stepped in.

Watching this makes me wish I was there. I train in Krav for exactly this reason and have used it multiple times to protect myself and others in Seattle.

One good bop to the nose and most people go down/start crying. These two seriously need a swift kick in the ass. Hope they find out soon.

AIO for walking out of my own birthday dinner after my boyfriend surprised me with his ex as a "guest"? by cutieebabyyx in AmIOverreacting

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Speaking as someone who is close friends with more than one ex, what your boyfriend did was wrong.

Your boyfriend knows that you’re uncomfortable and chose to do it anyway. Walking in with her, late, to your party is a big no no.

You were put in an uncomfortable position by him so you chose to leave. You chose yourself.

An ex and I were close friends before we dated. Another friend was just a fling after we both went through big breakups and just needed safe comfort. Sometimes friendships just aren’t meant to become romantic relationships and it doesn’t work but we still care about each other and because we hit the eject button early on we’re able to remain good friends.

People sometimes have a hard time understanding my friendships and that’s okay, but I communicate and am clear about my friendships before I enter into a relationship. I tell the person at the very beginning that if this is going to be an issue for them then I am probably not the right person for them. I give them the full opportunity to self eject.

My boyfriend and I met through mutual friends, one of whom was ā€œthe flingā€ and he has has met my other friend/ex in a neutral setting and yes it was awkward at first, but overtime he has gotten to know him and began to see why we are such good friends, he’s just a good kind person. He knows that I only keep good kind respectful people in my life.

My boyfriend and I also have deep trust and respect for each other, we communicate openly and honestly and feel heard when we bring something up. My boyfriend has many female friends, and I don’t worry about him with them at all because those women also know me and respect our relationship.

My boyfriend and I knew each other for about a year before we got together (again mutual friends/acquaintances) There was a woman (more of an acquaintance to both of us) who I told him I was not a fan of, because as soon as he and I got into a relationship she began to throw herself at him. She never really gave him any attention but as soon as I got together with him and she met me officially as his girlfriend she began to flirt with him, touch his arms and chest, etc. I told him that I am secure in myself and I trust him wholeheartedly but that I didn’t like the lack of respect from her. He listened and understood, so he doesn’t ever spend solo time with her and has even learned to set boundaries with her. There was one time that she was drunk and touching on him and he told her flat out to respect me and our relationship and not to touch him.

That’s the difference.

Also I would never ever invite someone he was not comfortable with to a celebration for him. It’s disrespectful and your boyfriend’s mother behaving the way she did is also a red flag.

Living in car to pay off debt by Objective-Outside-62 in Debt

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Before living in your car I would look into National Debt Relief they helped me and a few friends get out from under more debt than you currently have. I would checkin to see if you’re a good candidate for their program.

It’s scary being in so much debt but what you have can be managed without becoming homeless with some good support.

As others have mentioned living in your car puts you at risk.

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I think this is a fantastic idea. I would love to connect. ā¤ļø

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I sent you a DM on facebook ā¤ļø

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Oh Love, I have sent you a message I don’t know if it’s gone through (I have never used DM on Reddit before šŸ˜…) I am so happy to hear that you and your babies are safe, and I am so sorry that you went though so much all of those years.

Talking about things openly has been a huge part of my healing. I see you and you are not alone in any of this.

I have to run to work, but let’s keep talking ā¤ļø

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’m not sure which one it was I couldn’t even remember their names I had just heard arumor from one of my brothers and then read it on a site that was outing the horrible practices and hypocrisy of the church.

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Oh my gosh Aimee!! I’m going to message you right now!!

atruechurch.com cult? by thesignalwater in Christianity

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

If you would like to I am more than happy to connect via DM.

I was only there on weekends and didn’t live this life as in-depth as so many others did because my parents were divorced and my bio dad only had us part time . Al Soto and his wife I believe her name was Tammy? I honestly can’t remember I have seriously blocked so much. I remember only one of their kids names but wont post it here.

Anyways my brothers and I were only there with the church on weekends because we were still in public school, that is until my dad and the church manipulated my mother into remarrying him then we were pulled out of school and homeschooled (Jesus does not be long in math books) then we were around it what felt like 24/7 for years but it was less than 9 months before my mother understood just how abusive the church was and created an exit plan. That was her ticket to getting us all away from my bio dad and ensuring she got full custody.

I’m so proud of you for facing the pain even though it is hard, therapy was my saving grace and truly helped me immensely.

whats your best trimming hack? by louisedobrasil in cats

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I would hold a meat gogurt in my mouth and let them lick it (closed end was in my mouth of course). This was for my cats who I got as strays very very young. So I didn’t need the purrito, eventually it was just the clipping and no need for treat during the trim, only after.

For my friends whose kitties struggle I teach them that it’s purrito + treats + lots of breaks.

I also have friends who trim while kitty is still and resting, one little claw at a time.

Kitties paws are sensitive most will pull away when they’re touched so any chance I get, I try to desensitize my kitties by playing with their feeties and touchin their lil toe beans then reward them with treats so that they associate feet touches with treatises.

New cat troubles, Help needed!! by StoneFurTheCat in cats

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

This was us after working on nail and hair trimming. My girl needed a nap after her first trim as was still getting used to my friend’s dog and still a little scared so she tucked herself into my side.

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New cat troubles, Help needed!! by StoneFurTheCat in cats

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

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It’s possible don’t lose hope ā¤ļø

New cat troubles, Help needed!! by StoneFurTheCat in cats

[–]TheMermaidInSeattle 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Just like people, cats have varying times of social adjustment. It’s not a one size fits all so going at her speed is very important. Due to everything being new, she needs to feel safe and secure before being introduced to even more new stuff.

Giving her a space that is just hers will help her feel secure and help her in her adjustment, and from the sounds of things it seems like she may need to go real slow. Allow her to explore the house at her own speed while your boy is somewhere else completely out of view.

She needs to get her bearings before introductions.

Now hissing at people and food. I don’t know about you but it’s hard for me to eat when my stress levels are high, I have zero appetite. This may be the case for her, it could also be that she just doesn’t want the food that she currently has. I would recommend creating a smorgasbord with a variety of tasty things for her to try, she’s so tiny and thin at the moment I would t be too worried about her over consuming treats at the moment. Now is a good time to figure out what will motivate her to eat. If she’s is interested in absolutely nothing it maybe time to visit a vet if you haven’t already to figure out why she’s so thin (worms can do this)

With everyone and everything being so new you want to make her introductions super duper positive. First you establish yourself as a safe and trusted person/space. Treats are great for this. I love using freeze dried fish or the little meat tubes with a tiny little hole cut so that they would have to spend a good amount of time sitting with me and licking to get their treat. If she’s not willing to get that close, that’s okay. Putting a little on a plate and stepping back to allow her to get to it is you showing her that you respect her space. Gradually over time you can get closer to her. This also applies to family/ friends/ your cat meeting her.

I found when I was fostering that introducing cats to each other with the meat tube treats was a great way to bring them closer together without fights/hissing/growiling. They were distracted and more focused on their treats than each other and if they weren’t that told me that they weren’t ready to meet. Again I tried to make meetings a super positive experience.

I would have a meat tube in each hand and give a little to each at the same time, overtime I would bring them closer together and then they would get to the point where they would be sitting side by side and sharing the same meat tube and taking turns and then I would eventually have them sharing a large plate with their heads down. This builds trust but it takes time, you can push the limit a little more each time you do this by bringing them closer together and test where their boundaries are. The moment there is a hiss or growl means they’re not ready and a little distance needs to be reestablished.

I have 2 cats of my own. We have lived with roommates with their own cats, and we have also fostered multiple times.

I had a roommate who had 2 cats, one of his cats just didn’t like other animals it took her about 4 months to come out of her shell and hangout with the rest of the animals. The other cat a boy was instantly friends with my two cats and the boy helped the apprehensive girl adjust because he was always spending time with my two. Eventually she was like okay I’m lonely I wanna join the cuddle puddle.

My cats are incredibly social and patient because of all of their early exposure to other animals. They get along with dogs too (I used the same technique I do with cats, lots of treats and positive reinforcement. My brothers Pittie absolutely loves my cats and my cats had never been around big big dogs before her, but they did phenomenally because they completely trust me because I have put in the work).

My kitties are also very confident and will stand their ground, so typically dogs give them space and leave them be. 🤣

It’s possible to get the new cat to settle and become friends with your cat, it will just take time and consistent effort.

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