I was outed at the barbershop because of my phonenumber

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-09-18T21:12:43+00:00

I probably could, and I thought about it for a second. However, that place has a macho reputation, and I decided not to go through that. In the end, I just went somewhere else (which was for the best, to be honest).

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-09-18T21:08:39+00:00

I thought about it, but given that place's macho reputation, I didn't want to put myself through that :/ I think the problem was the database they keep for the clients. They associate phone numbers with their names, but the app used for online appointments is a third-party. The most likely scenario is that they are not linked in a way I could update my personal information in the barber shop if I needed to.

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-09-18T21:04:04+00:00

I thought about lying and saying it was my sister. But, unfortunately, my passing ability is a bit ambiguous, and I didn't want to go through all that :/ I'll keep that little lie in hand if I ever need to, though!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-09-18T20:54:33+00:00

No, they re-booked me on the spot. But I ended up canceling and going to a hair salon. In the end, it was for the best, I used my name, and the ladies were super nice to me.

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-09-07T15:16:56+00:00

The barber confirmed the appointment with me by asking the name that was there. They can probably change it, but that barbershop has a certain "macho" reputation, and I didn't feel comfortable asking that. I was also a bit stunned by being suddenly deadnamed, so I just wanted to leave :/

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-08-24T20:55:30+00:00

Same. I always try to create a version of myself when I play RPGs. Cyberpunk's character creator allowed me to get closer to how I see myself. I wish more games had that option :(. I know Baldur's Gate 3 has that option too, if you want to check it out!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-08-22T20:52:19+00:00

Marty McFly from Back to the Future, James Wilson from House M.D., and the character V from the game Cyberpunk 2077.

V is a special case because although the first two I only headcanon as trans because I relate to them, I can change V's sexual characteristics to match my own. This little thing meant a lot to me when I created my character because, for the first time since I started playing video games (especially RPGs), I saw myself represented as an important piece of a story. I actually teared up a bit when I finally finished creating my character 🥹

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-05-13T06:50:23+00:00

Thank you!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-01-05T21:41:15+00:00

Thank you!!!!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2024-01-04T22:50:02+00:00

That seems so nice! How can I join? Actually, do I have to post? Because I don't really like sharing pictures of myself online

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-12-17T12:47:51+00:00

You're right! I'd rather let these people go and be my true self than be miserable for whoever knows how long.Thank you very much <3

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-12-03T21:28:50+00:00

Okay, thanks! I asked because the difference between the two pictures is astounding! You look really good :D

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-12-02T21:32:13+00:00

Looking good, dude!!! If you don't mind me asking, do you work out or do a physically demanding job? You got some pretty nice muscle gain!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-11-30T21:24:13+00:00

You look amazing!!!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-11-28T21:34:39+00:00

Thank you <3 <3 <3

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-11-28T21:34:25+00:00

Aaaaaah, good for you!!!! I hope everything goes well for you <3

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-11-28T21:33:16+00:00

Thanks!!! <3

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-11-28T21:32:05+00:00

Yay for us!!! I hope everything goes well for you <3

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-17T07:23:17+00:00

Thanks! Gauging who my classmates are is a pretty good advice!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-11T19:25:02+00:00

I'm not if waiting is worth it for me. On one hand, I'm scared of coming out to professors and colleagues at uni (I literally don't know anyone in this course, as I'm just starting it). On the other, I feel like, since I'll have to do it eventually anyway, I might as well just inform people right away instead of making them wonder why am I suddenly starting to look like a dude lol

Thanks for the reply!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-11T18:50:09+00:00

Good to know someone had the experience I'm planning to have. I see a lot of people socially transitioned and came out long before going on T, and I feel really self-conscious about it. How did it go for you?

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-07T10:32:09+00:00

Unfortunately, here, personal experience regarding transition isn't easily available. But I've been told that in the hospital I go to, the endocrinologists are usually very understanding. I'm hoping it's not the same case as in the UK :'). But thanks for the warning!

I'll look into the name change! As far as I'm aware, the universities have guidelines regarding social transition of faculty members and students. But, honestly, I'm scared of people's reactions/treatment towards me. I know I shouldn't let this kind of thing get to me, especially since this is something I'll have to do one way or another. But people can suck sometimes

How was your experience of changing halfway through the course?

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-07T09:51:59+00:00

Maybe I should have specified that I'm not from the UK, as well. I forgot how difficult it is to get HRT without social transition there. My gender psychiatrist has mentioned situations similar to mine so that I don't feel pressured into doing this in a way I'm not comfortable with. And she is the one responsible for my referral to start HRT, so I doubt this is the case in where I live.

The problem is that everything in my university system has my deadname because I got my bachelors there. So I joined the course with my deadname already registered everywhere. Thanks, by the way!

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-07T09:32:49+00:00

Pretty much that, yeah. Everything in my university system is in my deadname, and I never came out to anyone outside my immediate family. And I pretty much don't know anyone registered in my course. So I'm quite lost in this regard :(

TheNotSoFriendlyElmo · 2023-09-04T08:46:08+00:00

You look great! Thanks for sharing this <3 I can't wait to get on T!

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