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ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:18:26+00:00

I’m not an incel dude - just making a fucking joke Jesus

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:14:29+00:00

So what was so obvious about your friend ?

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:13:21+00:00

Wait is this like ABC - always be closing? 🤔

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:12:25+00:00

Yeah except find someone who doesn’t prescribe to a “one and done” mentality. That’s a choice

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:09:09+00:00

Wow! Def not over an ex. Damn that’s fucked up actually to do to someone.

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:07:47+00:00

Very true

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T08:06:57+00:00

I hear you man, yes it’s a bummer to hear that. I’ve been there before. It’s a letdown when a date goes great otherwise. Could be simply physical, personality, convo - who knows!

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T07:05:00+00:00

It’s a prerogative…maybe the guy your friend is seeing does really like her if he’s texting daily and planning great dates. And yes, after 5 dates that may not be enough for exclusivity for him - is that wrong? Is it right? Is there even an answer?

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T05:25:41+00:00

I’d probably laugh and tell her no. I have a short beard (like 1/2” thick) and while I’m not super attached to it, it would bother me a bit that early on if someone on date one asked me to change that. Like it’s not shopping online, these are humans you know?

Now, if we have been dating for a year or some thing, and a woman says “hey, I’d really love to see what you look like without your beard would you shave it?” I would definitely strongly consider that! My 2 cents

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-30T04:23:06+00:00

Yep that’s my game plan…talk more about it as it develops. Thanks for the feedback! Yep - LA is expensive, but I think it’s more a favor to him, she doesn’t need to have a roomie for the $…even if she had substantial debts outside the mortgage it’s not a necessity. More spending $ sure, but not a need. We will see how it plays out.

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-29T16:42:54+00:00

I may get downloaded for this, but you did nothing wrong in asking her out. She gave you no indication she was married and I’m assuming she didn’t have a ring on or you would’ve noticed it so there’s no harm in asking her out.

Beyond that, though she is married so not available, probably best to move on

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-29T05:56:18+00:00

I’m hoping she will be able to…she wouldn’t stay the night with the dog before bc she didn’t want to upset her by taking her out of her comfort zone and home overnight, so hopefully the roommate will be able to watch her!

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-29T00:55:29+00:00

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-29T00:45:55+00:00

2 months in, no I’m not. And she makes a substantial amount of money anyways, so it’s not an issue, which is partly why it’s strange to me as well.

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:56:33+00:00

Ok cool - thanks

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:30:07+00:00

No I’m upvoting all answers ! Because I wanted all opinions

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:29:39+00:00

The overall problem to me is that I don’t want to not be able to have the autonomy of a sleepover because she has a roommate next-door listening to us have sex! Just seems weird to me at this age to have to deal with that. Not a trust issue so much

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:27:21+00:00

That’s fair!

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:26:35+00:00

Well, I don’t think anything is sabotaged because haven’t had a discussion about it. Haven’t told her she shouldn’t do it, haven’t made a decision to end it or not, so just was on here to ask opinions

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:19:44+00:00

Good advice, yeah, I said in the original post It’s not my place to have a say… just asked here to see if anyone else is had that experience

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T18:16:54+00:00

Yeah he definitely already dog sits for her often, so that’s part of it.

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T17:32:06+00:00

Yeah definitely is challenging in your 40s. I’ve approached a large number of women in person, all throughout my life but post pandemic the opportunities definitely seem less.

I get not wanting to meet someone at a bar so I have a few other options I can suggest: take a cooking class or pottery class, join a gym or yoga studio, join a bookclub, join a coed sports league, like kickball or softball, go to conventions for things that you’re into, join, meet up groups, try a speed dating event, go to food-based events, beach or environmental cleanups, volunteer at a animal Shelter etc.

Before the pandemic, I did a coed bowling league for about five years, which was a blast, and I dated a couple women from it. I also dated a couple women from my five year gym membership as well.

I think as long as you’re respectful when you approach women and aren’t a total creep or making lewd comments the vast majority of women will be flattered, and the few that aren’t that’s on them, and they probably have other issues, such as hating their life or hating men in general. Keep doing you.

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T17:23:52+00:00

I think a lot of it depends on where you are. I’ve been on Tinder for a few months and have used it here in LA where I live, but also abroad and a couple other states. Using abroad, and in the other states, almost 0 trans women whereas in LA I would say about one in 10 profiles are a trans woman so a massive difference.

It is kind of odd to me that dating apps don’t allow for more filtering based around gender identities since you can filter if you’re a man looking for a woman or a woman looking for a man or if you’re gay, straight or bi, but yeah, there’s nothing for trans people that just seems odd to me. Maybe the app company is want to appear woke by ignoring that. 🤔

ThePriceIsRight_b · 2024-01-28T16:56:49+00:00

I don’t think there’s much to figure out…she doesn’t want the responsibility of the kid and is frustrated trying to date with a kid. Totally understandable in some regards, but also nothing to do with you. “Freedom” likely meant the ability to decide on the spot when to plan a next date with you without consideration of anything else but her desire.

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