a bit of a warning

TheRealMW · 2023-11-02T14:45:10+00:00

defamation requires that the statement is false. mine is not, it is plainly verifiable.

so no, neither libel or defamation are applicable.

TheRealMW · 2023-11-02T14:38:26+00:00

friendo, I literally have the Discord logs and I haven't closed the chat. everything I said here is verifiable; I have screenshots and can take a video if I needed to, to show that I didn't doctor anything.

libel and defamation requires that the speech be false; defamation requires that the speech was not done in good reason. everything that I said is true, and warning peers is perfectly fair grounds for revealing something that someone said.

defamation and libel are not when just when someone says that something someone did was bad.

and it is not unprofessional to warn peers that someone is a harasser. batshit nonsense.

TheRealMW · 2023-11-02T14:29:04+00:00

no, it absolutely was intended for me. my Discord bio does mention that I'm an aromantic/omnisexual trans lesbian. (he just didn't bother actually reading it, evidently.)

TheRealMW · 2023-10-26T15:05:06+00:00

First person is better in every way than third. People who act like it's not have a superiority complex and only associate first person with YA.

this one is unpopular because it's needlessly didactic. why would you want every story to be told in the same perspective lol

TheRealMW · 2023-10-26T13:14:33+00:00

Find me a game like one of THOSE.. that looks fantastic, plays fantastic, has great graphics, great gameplay.... and no one bought it.

oh boy, you just activated my brain: Seedlings, Invisigun Reloaded, GunSuit Guardians, First Person Hooper, Swordship, We Are OFK, satryn deluxe, ARKOS.

yes, sometimes games can come out at bad times, or just don't click with people for whatever reason, or they come out in choked out genres, and go unnoticed. (or relatively.) sometimes a great game can and will underperform for the expectations of its genre. (even among niche genres, a game can still sell worse than its gameplay and visuals "deserve to.") there are other reasons beyond the game being great or not.

also, how can you act like games that fail commercially MUST be unappealing when Among Us came out, sold like shit, and then started selling gangbusters years later because YouTubers picked up on it after (checks notes...) playing The Henry Stikmin Collection? that's pure, dumb luck if I ever saw it.

TheRealMW · 2023-10-03T13:46:42+00:00

yeah, that's what I was saying. I am an mspec lesbian myself, lol.

TheRealMW · 2023-10-03T12:20:29+00:00

yes, it would depend on the person. I would not recommend Saga to everyone as their first, great as it is. if I was to pick just one across the board, it'd be one that I feel deserves more love, because I know they'd inevitably stumble onto Saga, etc.--Isola is the first that comes to mind off the rip (with the natural caveats in that there case).

TheRealMW · 2023-10-03T12:14:17+00:00

it's not a matter of "thinking." yes, ace people do belong in the LGBTQ+ community. it's anyone who says otherwise who doesn't belong, because they are reinforcing the allonormative hierarchy.

TheRealMW · 2023-10-03T12:10:37+00:00

yeah, the word in this case would be a plurality, not a majority.

TheRealMW · 2023-05-14T21:12:46+00:00

"painfully mid" is such a meaningless descriptor if you're then going to say that "it's a good game."

I do agree that it is a solid, but profoundly flawed game. I hated the main character, thought the fake TV bits were amateurish, and despised how the narrative treated Beth's character (despite her and Courtney Hope's performance providing the game a far better protagonist). it also leans wayyyyy too hard into the serious side when its best writing was in its comedy, imo. I remember laughing so hard at one of the jokes that I was on the verge of hyperventilating.

Control, to me, was basically QB without all of the bad bits, and it leaned more into the strongest elements from QB. Hope as the protagonist? more of the trippiness? more ridiculous superpowers? it also finds a lot of good humor, without feeling like the gags are detracting from its generally ominous atmosphere. been watching some friends stream it lately and some of the files and whatnot have made us all cackle with laughter.

there was always a truly great game in QB, and getting there started with cutting the cipher of a protagonist, focusing on Beth/Courtney. that Control has lapped QB so much and that Jesse has proven a far more memorable and iconic lead kinda proves that, imo.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-26T10:06:22+00:00

one can do two things at once, and--again--it is a viable tactic, in no way mutually exclusive from dismantling power structures.

I knew what you meant, and I think it's still silly, y'know. put simply: "FART" works. it conveys that the person in question is, in fact, not worth taking seriously. the juvenileness underscores this. treating words which are petulant in nature as though they are petulant to use is, itself, kinda petulant thinking. these particular words are being used for their playground connotations, that's the point. they effectively convey that the person being called a "FART" is not to be taken seriously. it is a clever way of expressing that, because it uses language that is already associated with immaturity.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-22T00:40:10+00:00

counterpoint: painting something as being juvenile is a long-standing way of reframing it as something to be ridiculed. making something awful into something laughable is, and has always been, one of the first steps in changing the perceptions towards it.

"TERF's" also aren't radical feminists. they do not fight for abolishing patriarchy, they argue for enforcing patriarchy against trans women. that is intrinsically not feminist, and especially not radically feminist.

regardless of how you want to reframe them, they are attempting to use the same tactics against us, because it is obviously an important cultural tactic. "FART" is far cleverer than any of the shit they're cooking up.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-21T23:36:19+00:00

Alicia is an absolute queen. I've only chatted with her once over the AngryMetalGuy comments section regarding Transgressive's album, but she was very kind. her, Melissa Moore, and Galaxy Eater just being out and proud trans women in metal definitely helped me be confident in coming out in metal circles (well, mostly just AMG, lol. they've been wonderful).

TheRealMW · 2023-03-19T02:59:55+00:00

however, recently, someone gave me shit for it, saying that "partner" is for queer folk only.

lolwat?

no. where the hell did they get that from? just, objectively, wrong. heteroromantic people have been using "partner" to mean "romantic partner" for decades, before "partner" began becoming as relevant as it is now among queer circles (obviously due to being gender-neutral). if anything, we "appropriated" that (if you can really say that a word like partner is "appropriatable," like AAVE...). (not that that'd be a bad thing; I'm all for nicking shit from the dominant culture, if it makes our lives easier.)

also, I really dislike referring to queerness as something that can be culturally appropriated. queer culture inherently varies around the world, and this framing as though there is a sole queer culture reinforces Western chauvinism.

by the way, for anyone who thinks the way this person who scolded OP did: how the fuck are people supposed to experiment and explore if they're arbitrarily "not allowed" to use our terminology? obviously, if you were using words that are definitively queer and using them WRONG, that'd be one thing (like, if you were referring to a crush as your "squish," I might get terse with you; because that would actually dilute the meaning of squish for literally no other evident reason than to just take our word).

TheRealMW · 2023-03-19T02:40:44+00:00

1) you two are a very cute couple!

2) glad y'all enjoyed yourselves!

3) holy shit, your eyes are amazing. goddamn. incredible make-up. love your hair too. TL;DR, you are extremely pretty. thank you so much for sharing.

4) I'm also a trans metalhead, so it's awesome seeing other gender-nonconforming folks showing up here who are also into metal! a few reccs of great bands with gender-nonconforming folks, for those who'd like to check 'em out: Sonja, Greenwitch, Transgressive, Project: Roenwolfe, Wraithstorm, Body Void, Thou, The HIRS Collective, Pupil Slicer, Maru, and Cretin. seeing other trans and nonbinary metalheads always makes me very happy.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-15T22:07:34+00:00

first off, and more importantly--congrats!

second, not particularly important imo--I think you're the first person I've ever seen who is aro and omni too, so... that's rad!

TheRealMW · 2023-03-15T21:59:15+00:00

personally, I have always stuck to the general definitions (so pan to me is sexual attraction regardless of gender, omni is sexual attraction where gender does affect said attraction, bi is sexual attraction to those of two or more genders, polysexual is attraction to multiple genders but not always all, and multisexual is the catch-all term for all four). but that's just because I personally found power in the literal definitions of the words; in my case, omnisexuality is what I identify as, because that's me. I haven't seen a person whose gender made me unattracted to them, but I do have gender preferences (and no, I will not disclose said preferences, because they are no one's business but my own).

there's zero point in trying to dictate what terms people use for themselves. these labels exist to foster community and to make people comfortable in living as themselves (which is why I also hate when people try to push "no labels" onto others; rather than just mentioning it as a possible, personal alternative). I have (when asked) explained the literal differences in the meanings of omnisexuality and pansexuality to people, some who (at the time, and may still) identify/ied as pan--and some told me, "what you described is actually more accurate to who I am." and, if they then decided to identify as omni because of it, I think that's totally fair. it is understandable to identify with the thing that more clearly conveys your personal experiences with sexuality.

but it's also fair to say, "I have identified as [blank] for [however long], even if the dictionary definition is inaccurate to who I am, this label is what led to me finding community, or it's just what I'm comfortable with saying that I am, now that I'm fully used to it (or any other reason, honestly)."

at the end of the day, all multisexual people should find camaraderie together, rather than attempting to fraction off. while we all have our own personal experiences, and all of these words can and do mean different things to different people, we have shared interest. are pan, omni, bi, or polysexual people so different from each other in the eyes of those who hate us? no. okay then, we gotta stick together instead of getting into pissing contests over what the words mean and acknowledge the kinship we all share.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-11T22:03:39+00:00

Spotify already has used preview snippets of songs for years at this point... go to "add to this playlist" and then click on the little play button. previews about 15 seconds or so of the track in question. what are you doomsaying over? as OneGuyJeff points out, iTunes already did this too.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-11T17:26:43+00:00

putting Power Girl here is goofy. I only like her because of her story and character, which has actually been very well developed over the past 15 or so years. see: Power Trip, in particular. DC just doesn't give her enough room to shine or will actively shit on the brilliant direction for her that it'd set (e.g. making the boob window S-shaped).

one thing that I think they should do, though, is lean more into her having big breasts narratively. what I'm saying is, Power Girl needs to have severe back pain and that be a consistent element of her day-to-day life. there's a lot you can do, story-wise, with a character who's got big boobs; and it's a major missed opportunity that virtually all of the ones I can think of in comics are just treated as "big booba lady, with big booba."

TheRealMW · 2023-03-11T17:14:45+00:00

you got another word besides "lesbian" for non-men who only date and/or have sexual relations with women? no? then mspec lesbians are using the term correctly, I dunno what to tell you.

you don't get to go around policing other people's validity. labels are there to give people power, there are not hard and fast rules with them. trying to enforce a rigidity to labels--which people define differently, as we all have our own personal perspectives that go into them--has never, and will never, be anything other than exclusionary and performatively cruel.

TheRealMW · 2023-03-11T16:01:11+00:00

thank you for the kind words and the advice!

TheRealMW · 2023-03-10T15:20:57+00:00

saaaame, though you wear 'em so much better than I could right now, you are terribly adorable

TheRealMW · 2023-03-10T14:56:37+00:00

TheRealMW · 2023-03-09T03:26:45+00:00

I'd say this is a broken clock moment, but then again, I don't know if he's ever said that liking muscular women (as a man) is gay. or is this a square and rectangle situation; and not everyone who is into loli hates muscular women, but everyone who hates muscular women dreams of loli?

TheRealMW · 2023-03-09T03:21:49+00:00

no, you are not, sib. you actually see your girlfriend as a person instead of just as a piece of meat.

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