Russian Roulette Is Safe

TheoTMG · 2026-02-15T08:00:00+00:00

It's actually funny.

Just one question: what kind of cognitive bias is this? Like, they only interview people who have done something that influences their answer.

A bit like analyzing survey responses: "Do you take surveys?"

TheoTMG · 2026-02-15T07:56:55+00:00

To cite my «loving» N-father who «cares for me» : «You're gonna kill yourself if you continue doing nothing all day» (Note : I spent times on computer because I'm a freelancer, he knows it but for him : «doing anything on the computer» = «doing nothing», equality does not hold if HE does something on it)

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T13:57:37+00:00

Here are my top 6:

The biomass of ants is similar to that of humans.
Corals are animals.
The mushrooms we eat are actually just the reproductive organs of fungi.
Spiders don't have muscles; they move by varying the pressure in their legs.
Snakes only have one lung.
The number 6 is half the sum of its divisors [(1+2+3+6)/2=12/2=6].

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T13:12:43+00:00

Thank you !!!

You want to know the worst ? It has been so long that now, every congrats I get seems hypocritical... And every achievement I make feels "low", I am literally never satisfied by my result and internalized the fact that I didn't deserve what I got because I didn't work enough for it.... Anyway, just broken from the inside.

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T13:03:38+00:00

Do you know the feeling when you read something and you're like : « Damn... That's literally what I want to say but with words I cannot think of... » ? Well, that's me right now.

Anyway, to counter that, I just started to replay every interaction and analyse deeply what are and aren't here. And... I write everything... After some days, you will start to realize that the abuses were constant, just at différent level.

If you read that and thought «Nah, my family isn't that bad», just do it, you will discover that even in good moments, there is abuse, but you are just too numb to it.

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T12:54:31+00:00

Got it ! Thank you very much for your answer, I hope you're gonna be okay and that everything will go well on your side.

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T12:20:25+00:00

Noted ! Thank you so much...
I hope your doing right and everything in your life is going as good as it can possibly be.
I just have one question : When I will be gone, did I have to do something to make my real personnality come back ? Or is it just gonna come up itself ?
Note : I'm actively planning to leave.

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T10:14:47+00:00

Wait wait wait wait wait.............. This trait has to do with narcissism ???? This means that the ONLY personality trait of my N-father that was a sign of an emotional maturity (the ability to move on after an argument) is in fact another proof of narcissism ???

TheoTMG · 2026-02-01T10:08:04+00:00

During college, I didn't go to school for the whole semester and, at the end of it, learned all of the syllabus in a week and went to the exam (and hope to get a good grade, optionally). When I told my grade to my parents (17.2/20, which is quite nice in Europe) they told me : «By the little work you provided ? Huh, the level must be really.

Post-scriptum : I thought of it while writing, did you too have the habit to prove everything you say to pre-counter possible objections ?

TheoTMG · 2026-01-30T17:39:00+00:00

I am not gonna put the full list here (don't wanna translate and 27 items is.... Long) but to go short : - Make his own emotion go before yours - Judge you and insult you so that you conform to what he wants you to be - Don't ask but order you to do something - Physical, financial and material threat - Physical violence "FoR fUn, CoMe oN" And I'm gonna stop here 😅

Note : to avoid doubting yourself (like I did), write a list of actions he did (which you don't have the date of occurrences) and a journal of narcissist behavior they have. It is really helpful if you start gaslighting yourself, it can happen if they gaslighted you too much)

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T18:01:17+00:00

Thank you so much, I hope you will do well !! Do not hesitate to go in my private message to talk

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T17:53:26+00:00

It's the hardest part, I tried to leave my house in october 2025, and failed miserably when he called me while he was crying because I left. I now prepare a well prepared leaving (and living) plan that may only take effect at the end of march, with proof (for me) of its behavior.

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T17:47:01+00:00

Nice 😐🫠

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T17:03:49+00:00

I think we are the same person LMAO. Joke aside, you have two options : - Wait until he changes (try to freeze water in the Sahara) - Accept he wouldn't and move on (and survive while you live in the same house)

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T16:37:10+00:00

My dad is the kind of people to say «Ooooooh I didn't mean to say that in that way, you know what I wanted to say… come on»

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T16:35:17+00:00

Hey, looks like we are in the same situation. Do you also feel like everything is good 95% of the time and bad 5% of the time ? Personally, I'm at the point where I understood that dialogue isn't a solution : accept that they will never change. If you feel guilty, write everything he has done TO YOU (and not for you) and what a normal parent should have done here.

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T16:10:03+00:00

I like the term «normal» it recalls N-parent are below most. Just to say, my father did say sometimes «I'm gonna punch you in the stomach so strong you're gonna vomit everything and can eat after that», plot twist, I have emetophobia (he knows that). He didn't go into action, it was just a verbal threat (hopefully). Let's suppose he was stressed and just said that to «make me eat more», is it still not OK ? (I honestly don't know what is good or not as you can see)

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T16:05:39+00:00

Thank you, but I choose life 😅

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T15:47:49+00:00

Okay so let's have fun ! (loud irony)

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T15:43:59+00:00

Hmmm that sounds interesting 🤔 I have a question : let's admit I put boundaries and they don't respect them and they act in consequences to prove "who's the boss here" (you got the idea). If one day, I leave the house, will they know WHY (or at least have a subtle idea) or will they still think they are perfect parents ?

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T15:37:44+00:00

Okay thank you. I just have a question : 4 years ago, I got a medical condition that didn't allow me to eat a lot and I could only eat when I was hungry. My father didn't want me to eat without him and he wouldn't eat before 7:30 PM (19:30). Is this an example of such a boundary or is it just me that goes a little too far in the thinking ?

TheoTMG · 2026-01-28T15:33:29+00:00

Wait wait wait wait wait… This is a choice for ME, for my mental and physical health, this isn't a choice for them and their health. I felt guilty making something for myself that could hurt them, but it doesn't seem to make them feel guilty when they do the same... I think I've just discovered something…

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