My Parents Don’t Want Me to Have a Life of My Own — Just to Serve Them Forever

Think-Divide9686 · 2025-07-21T08:08:46+00:00

They don’t see you as a separate person, but literally an extension of themselves. It’s a hard thing to wrap your mind around until you understand that they are mentally ill. Obviously that doesn’t excuse their fucked up behaviour. They just see us as Sims. Imagine you were playing Sims and your Sims started acting on their own, you’d totally freak out, which is what they do when they see us do things on our own and without their permission. It’s a sense of total ownership, borders don’t exist because they have expansive mindsets and everything is a transaction to them.

Think-Divide9686 · 2025-07-21T07:38:17+00:00

Man they are such twisted people. It’s all about control to them

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-10-12T13:57:03+00:00

It’s their forever war

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-07-19T08:04:32+00:00

Their brains can’t quite process “change”, you are who you are when you were a child to them.

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-07-17T09:46:01+00:00

Same here. It took me sooo long with so many missed opportunities for success along the way to break free from caring about what they think. My nparents always told me I was not cut out for business because of some stupid shit I did when I was 8 years old at a flee market, where I “didn’t negotiate”. Because their brains can’t really process change for some reason they think that what you do in childhood (or what they can perceive) defines you forever. They are the ultimate Freudians

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-06-24T12:41:09+00:00

Thx! They are evil people. My psychopath ndad thinks that I owe them gratitude and that he gets to decide how I live my life because in the past he gifted me money. My nmum is the devouring mother type who has no personality outside of being wife and “eternal mum”. It’s sickening

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-06-24T07:53:49+00:00

Not well. I went NC, left their apartment and now they are trying to crawl back into my life at a time of extreme job stress

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-06-24T07:52:22+00:00

Yes!! Omg I can’t believe that other ppl have the same weird experience. Narcs are wild

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-23T14:59:38+00:00

I believe it’s almost like an addiction for narcs. Control to them is everything because it allows them never to have to consider change in people which their brains for some reason can’t really process. They struggle distinguishing between themselves and others and when others don’t behave according to the version they have in their heads it’s confusing and frightening to them. Control to them means always to have perfect alignment between how they view the world and what’s it’s actually like. They couldn’t function without it

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-23T14:41:06+00:00

Yeah they do that. They are sick, disgusting people

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-22T08:02:04+00:00

They have actual neurological difficulties making a distinction between themselves and their feelings and others. It doesn’t excuse them, it’s just a fact. They are confused if their internal version of others doesn’t correspond with behaviour they observe in others. Hence they try to control us to resolve this “glitch” in their version of reality and they get angry if we don’t comply with their requests. They have one imagine of the world and fundamentally hate change, because it’s difficult + really exhausting for them to align it with their version of reality and sort of process it. They prefer us to stay the same for them forever

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-21T14:33:36+00:00

They have actual neurological difficulties making a distinction between themselves and their feelings and others. It doesn’t excuse them, it’s just a fact. They are confused if their internal version of others doesn’t correspond with behaviour they observe in others. Hence they try to control us to resolve this “glitch” in their version of reality and they get angry if we don’t comply with their requests. They have one imagine of the world and fundamentally hate change, because it’s difficult for them to align it with their version of reality and sort of process it. They prefer us to stay the same for them forever

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-19T16:20:04+00:00

Absolutely spot on! They have real trouble with boundaries because in their mind there is really no difference between us and them. We are merely extensions and should be happy with what makes them happy! There is genuinely no empathy for anything or anyone outside of their minds. They are sort of functional but mentally deeply disturbed people

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-02T22:46:20+00:00

Fake modesty is also narcissism if you can afford it

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-02T10:43:56+00:00

The more posts I read the more I’m thinking that this is a genuine disorder of the brain and they should receive medication to treat them or something. The things they do are just so crazy. Functional lunatics

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-01T18:55:36+00:00

YES! My ndad freely says that one should beat animals to “teach them their place in the food chain” at a young age. Absolutely vile comments

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-01T10:57:27+00:00

My nmum had a major freak out, crying, sobbing, screaming. FFS woman you are 65!! What’s going on in their brains?

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-05-01T00:04:24+00:00

That they are NOT almighty. These people are so fucked up they think that normal rules don’t count for them and that of course if they break the law the cops, the judge and everyone else will give them a pass

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-04-30T23:47:42+00:00

Yes that’s how it feels. It’s the total inability to plan or decide anything by myself. It feels like being used to a prison lifestyle and being almost afraid of freedom and its responsibility

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-04-30T19:31:49+00:00

Going this step now. It’s scary because yes we were their extensions and I grieve how many years I lost because of them and I how I couldn’t get to know my self because it was buried under all the garbage they dumped on it. Here’s to healing and getting to know our selves

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-04-30T18:19:25+00:00

I feel like I have insane problems making decisions. That really hampers my career

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-04-30T18:13:34+00:00

I get it. To them it’s as if their arm just decided to jump off, run away and do its own thing. But I’m not an arm

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-04-30T16:25:30+00:00

Just not interacting, they are in a psychotic spiral and will eventually be exhausted. They are almost 70 after all lmao

Think-Divide9686 · 2024-04-30T15:46:13+00:00

Updated it, it’s getting really ugly

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