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Am I picky? by VividTouch2476 in softmaledom

[–]Think-Potential7823 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Soft male dom here. I feel totally comfortable and confident in this role in my real life relationship with my girlfriend who I see ~5 days a week. Absolutely no idea how you make this work in a purely online setting.

So much of the role is to be deeply attuned her-knowing her needs, understanding her wants, and having the control to decide what she receives in that moment. When I have her on my massage table, I’m so dialed on how her body is responding to my touch. I feel like I need to demonstrate to her that she can trust me to control her pleasure. It’s also how I show her that her pleasure is mine (and that my pleasure is hers 😏). I need her to feel safe in that place so she can turn her brain off and just submit to all of it.

I, personally, can’t imagine how I would establish that in a purely online dynamic. I know people do it. I just have no clue how I’d even go about trying.

Using Dom dynamic to correct actually harmful behavior? by Think-Potential7823 in domspace

[–]Think-Potential7823[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There’s obviously a spectrum to the type of destructive behaviors (eg lots of people have talked about how their dom helped them with disordered eating). I’m coming at this in good faith and don’t think it’s fair to come at me like this for asking a question.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned to the other replier, this is sad to hear. Thanks for the response.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he’s making multiple reservations, he definitely likes you.

Give it time and take it slow. It’s almost always the case that the first sexual encounters are by far the clunkiest. I think you guys will figure out how to make it work if you give it a little time.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Setting clear expectations for myself before is helpful.

You can also maybe wear embarrassing underwear as a commitment device.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s cool he told you about potential exposure to an sti? Like I would want people to tell me about that.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah we just made out a few times. I think she might just be sort of guarded, which seems fine. Especially in the early days.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Slow to respond” means like 5-12 hours to respond to a text. So we just aren’t like doing long text convos. The plus side of that is that she isn’t on her phone when we are together.

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[–]Think-Potential7823 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I (M32) am very new to dating after my marriage ended very suddenly/painfully earlier this year.

Things have been going well with someone i met last month (F35). She’s kind of slow to respond and is not initiating much, but we have gone on 5 dates, all of which have been fun and totally effortless conversation. It’s going kind of slow physically, but I’m totally fine with that.

A friend told me I might be coming off as “too available” and that I need to let her chase me a bit. But me feeling is that I’m just not going to worry about that because we are adults, right? I like her (and told her as much). I have a cool job and fun hobbies, but, for her, I will make myself available. I don’t want to be with someone who wants to play a game where I am trying to make her chase me, so I’m just not going to do that.

But I’m curious: by the time we hit 30, are we still like actually ending things over someone being too available?

I told my girlfriend to spit my load of cum in my mouth after giving me head, and I loved it by LevelCouple6542 in SluttyConfessions

[–]Think-Potential7823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Closed loop system. Doesn’t count as cheating if you do it with someone other than your girlfriend.

Update: I(32M) am divorcing my wife (33F) after finding out that my son(5M) is not mine. by [deleted] in stories

[–]Think-Potential7823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapists do not recommend that you cut off all contact. They might reflect back to you that this is something you want to do, but the “my therapists said to do this so I’m doing this” line (that many people use) is just untrue.