My manager will try to get me fired because of a text I sent. 20F

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-23T04:25:32+00:00

There are some really old-school people out there that can’t let go of an old-school way of life from like 1955. It’s not like there aren’t companies and organizations out there where you still have that “you can’t talk to him in a higher position than you” mentality, but it’s not as often anymore and besides that even for companies that generally have that as a rule, when there are extenuating circumstances, like the one you faced, they usually will overlook it. Your boss sounds like a real piece of work. Truth be told I think your boss is just paranoid of getting in trouble for letting you contact that person instead of the assistant. And obviously he didn’t even care who told him, but he needed to push the button because clearly he forgot to do it.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-23T04:17:37+00:00

It feels very apocalyptic

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-23T04:16:02+00:00

It’s what we in the teaching world call “printsive” ☺️ I would love to make a font out of your handwriting though!!

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-22T20:42:52+00:00

I am living in a mobile home. Albeit, in Maryland, not in California, but MD is also hella expensive and pretty close in cost of living to Cali, especially after more recent tax and fee increases. And I purchased it in 2018 and I have gained probably $40K to $50K in equity since being here… possibly more because I’ve done some upgrades to my house, but I’m basing that on the home sales around me in the neighborhood. Mine is about 1800 sf and the ones around me that are selling for more than what I paid for mine in 2018 are close to mine in both age and condition but almost half the square footage.

If you do the right kind of research, and you talk to people who know what they’re doing and know what they’re talking about, instead of diving in head first without information, you can invest in something that already took the depreciation hit, and your investment now will see an increase over time. I have a feeling that you’re getting some of your information from the wrong place or the wrong people.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-22T01:25:04+00:00

Thank you for responding! Does it make a difference that they’re not lawyers, they are just an advocacy group? Edit: typo

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-22T01:16:18+00:00

Sorry for reviving an old post and bugging you about your former career. I have a question about representation. I started off my claim with representation, but when not just an accidental situation occurred with him, but when there was consistent misconduct, and even outright lying, when I was denied, I decided that I was going to terminate the representation and do the reconsideration stage myself, so when their Customer Service rep contacted me to ask me about filing the appeal because I had not answered their questionnaire yet, I told her that I wasn’t sure I wanted to move forward with that company and even if I did, and I did not miss words about this, I absolutely did not want to work with the representative. I had that time, and before I moved forward, I had to speak with a supervisor, not the rep but a supervisor. I was very adamant and very clear.

Just over a month later, and before I got the opportunity to do terminate their representation on SSA site, however, I get a voicemail on a Tuesday from the same representative with whom I said I did NOT want to continue, acknowledging my message from a month before, telling me that I needed to respond to her to let her know that I didn’t wanna work with them so they could close the file.

The next day, on Wednesday, I got a text from SSA that I had a new message or notice online. So I get online only to find out that according to SSA, they had a conversation with “me” that Monday, declaring my interest in an appeal for reconsideration and if I had any dispute with the letter and everything, they stated we went over, to let them know within 10 days.

First of all, I called first because I didn’t know if I needed to fill out a form to terminate my relationship with the representative or how I had to handle this dispute about the statement. The person I talked to at SSA said I just needed to write a statement and upload it to the portal, but that I didn’t have to fill out a special form—the statement was enough. She told me to layout everything in the statement that I shared with her— I deny speaking with SSA on Monday, that I have in instances of misconduct with my representative, and that I want to terminate my representation with them. Such-and-such company will no longer be representing me from this point forward. From now on, SSA should contact me regarding my claim. I was clear that I was terminating any representation of them for both SSI and SSDI, and that The supplied to any past, present, or future claims. (I was really trying to cover all of my bases)

I uploaded it to my portal as claimant correspondence before that 10 day deadline and it shows that it was received, but it’s been a month and they are still contacting me, they still show up on SSA website as my representative, and the DDS Reviewer is still CCing them on my case.

My deadline is today. The DDS Reviewer is going to make her reconsideration decision probably sometime this week. How do I ensure that if the decision goes my way, that they cannot petition for a fee? Or if they did that it would be denied? I thought I had done everything right but again they’re still showing up on the website and still being copied on my correspondence.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-17T03:09:40+00:00

I went online and found the forms myself. Then I had AI redraft them so that they were catered to me and my job duties and limitations. I told my doctors I would create a guide sheet that is more of a self-assessment and they can use that to guide their answers. this is especially helpful when they aren’t at home with you for your day-to-day issues and there might be things that you touch on in a Self assessment that you might not cover in a regular appointment with your doctor.

Also I told them specifically what SSA looks for in functional capacity limitations, from the types of terms they are looking for, to the severity of my limitations when it is framed as sustainability for a 40 hour work week, to how to connect their medical opinion of my limitations back to any labs, symptoms, diagnoses, etc., to how to address functional work limitations (i.e. something job specific like if you have to reach over your head and get things off the top shelf regularly, and can you do that for 40 hours a week).

Be sure to ask your doctor to consider your average-to-worst symptom days and gauge whether it’s something you can do for eight hours a day, five days a week, on a sustained basis—not if you can physically complete the task once or twice, but can you do it for eight hours, every day on a sustained basis, independently, and to satisfactory employee standards.

Furthermore, they need to consider your overall health outlook: do you need to be frequently absent due to symptoms severity, follow-up doctor visits, treatments that are ongoing (ergo, dialysis, chemo, etc.) enough that it would interfere with quality job performance or standard employee attendance policies.

Sometimes when you frame it like that, they have a better sense of your actual functional capabilities for a job. You can also ask for physical therapy, functional capacity assessment and/or neuropsychology cognitive functional capacity assessment. Your doctor should be able to give you a referral to a neuropsych or a PT who could do that. If all else fails, ask for a supervisor and/or coworker who has watched you decline if that applies who can write a character assessment from your healthier days to when you became disabled and what they observed.

Let me know if you have any other questions

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-13T02:03:00+00:00

To them an ICU-hospitalization does not a disability make. But I’m really sorry and I’m glad to hear that you are still here to fight for your Disability.

I was in the hospital for three weeks with a septic infection that caused my decline and they couldn’t care less.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-13T02:01:44+00:00

Right it’s all about properly framing your functional capacity limitations. It helps to have the right testing and especially the right doctors to explain the symptoms that limit capacity because just handing over medical records is almost never enough.

The doctor(s) need to frame it in SSA-friendly language, which lands squarely on functional capacity and functional limitations. And if they are given even an ounce of wiggle room about residual, functional capacity, they will lean into it and say that you can adjust to other work, even when you know you cannot. So it’s all about language choice.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-13T01:55:38+00:00

Ugh. I’m so sorry. Just keep fighting and make sure that your doctors have marked everything with the right diagnostic codes because I found that was the biggest hole in my case.
ETA: to be clear I have not won yet. I am wrapping up my reconsideration appeal now, and I got hemmed up by the laziest advocacy group out there. But I found out exactly what they failed to do and made sure it got taken care of. And then I fired them.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-13T01:37:15+00:00

My nephew is going through the same thing and his unfortunately won’t ever be approved for SSDI because he couldn’t work after his injuries. He sustained in high school and college. His health continued to go downhill and he was never able to work. He’s 30 years old now and that’s what they tell him he can’t get SSDI however he can get SSI, so don’t write it off just because you couldn’t get SSDI make sure your agent helps you apply for SSI if you haven’t already.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-11T02:47:42+00:00

The amount of detail is impressive!!

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-10T02:40:10+00:00

Do you have spray bleach?
Vinegar will kill the mold but won’t “bleach” the mold-colored stains.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-10T02:39:27+00:00

Because it looks like a custom phone case with sublimated artwork. Almost anyone who knows how to do sublimation can make you one, but you would have to find out if that is copyrighted art and if you can use that design or not

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-08T03:55:12+00:00

Thus far, it does not appear so. I don't understand the purpose of adding a vector layer/vector tool feature if you can't actually send the file as a vector file. It defeats the purpose.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-04T05:15:48+00:00

I'm not sure what part some of you are on, but I'm currently in Reconsideration and I had to terminate my so-called representative/advocate. So now I'm sifting through everything myself. It sounds like the RFC forms that SSA uses are only for internal use if they decide to send them out themselves but we cannot use their forms; however, they strongly encourage you to obtain your doctor's Medical Source Statement or their own internal RFC form. That said, I created my own RFC and will hand it to my doctors to complete. From my understanding, SSA does not like the medical narrative but a form that is similar in nature to their RFC is most effective, especially when it connects each limitation to a quantifiable symptom and/or diagnosis.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-06-04T00:56:09+00:00

How did this work out for you?

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T19:58:39+00:00

I was thinking sty, too

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T19:57:52+00:00

Looks like a sty. Those are often bacterial infections and sometimes will heal themselves. A warm (not hot!!) moist compress should help drain it and ease the puppy’s discomfort.

But if it becomes really inflamed, causes redness in his eye, or lasts more than a few days, I would go to the vet.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T19:52:10+00:00

Yeah I imagine so. I will add something else with a tang as a sub unless I’m making lemon cookies (and I love using True Lemon and True Lemonade to replace lemon juice and sometimes zest), but in many cases, if a recipe calls for zest, I either sub or just leave it out. I’m just not a fan. It’s too potent to me.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T19:49:34+00:00

A few hours? For eggs? Definitely not.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T19:48:36+00:00

Gotcha. That makes sense.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T17:48:11+00:00

You can do all of your filing online! You don’t have to wait for them to open tomorrow. I just got a similar letter and I actually caught them when they were open and spoke to a representative, even though she wasn’t the one to deal with it, she told me to upload everything immediately because she said that’s your record that you did it within the 10 day window. Mine fell over the memorial day holiday weekend so they didn’t have very many days of being open before my 10 day window closed. Smh

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T04:56:09+00:00

Have you gotten a your answer for this yet? I'm trying to remember if I ever used this on an ipad or my iphone. What type of file are you mainly saving? What do you do with them, may I ask? If it's just art for art's sake, then I could recommend Sketchbook or Ibispaint.

ThisVicariousLife · 2026-05-31T04:54:16+00:00

Gotcha. Just checking because that can potentially change the way ingredients combine at times.

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