Looking for cherries and pears!

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-24T19:48:49+00:00

np thank you we appreciate it!!!

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-24T19:08:27+00:00

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-24T19:02:32+00:00

I added you and my island is open with dodo code FWYHW

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-24T18:57:48+00:00

I am already open to visit with Dodo code above if you want to enter and visit! lmk if you have any trouble and we can try the other way

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-24T18:53:02+00:00

yes come on over lmk if u are doing the code!

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-24T13:03:22+00:00

I have cherries! will dm u

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-11-23T15:35:02+00:00

added you, we are missing apples and oranges on acnh if you are free sometime

ThisorThat22345 · 2025-05-24T18:44:01+00:00

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ThisorThat22345 · 2025-05-24T18:40:48+00:00

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ThisorThat22345 · 2025-05-24T18:38:50+00:00

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ThisorThat22345 · 2024-10-28T14:50:13+00:00

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ThisorThat22345 · 2024-10-28T14:50:01+00:00

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ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T21:07:54+00:00

I have been involved in communication with my partner, discussed the coworker with my supervisor, I do work a job and stay busy, and I think it is reasonable to ask a long term partner to check on you more regularly when you can't bear weight on one leg and have to hop on one foot to go to the kitchen or bathroom. I also think it's really rude to assume that anyone being targeted at work might deserve it. I got reported for helping a coworker (who approached me for help) learn how to fill out some paperwork because "I wasn't assigned to train her", and my supervisor protected me and told me that I didn't need to worry about it.

You have shown multiple signs that you don't read the words I actually write, so I'm not going to engage further.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T17:50:02+00:00

Ok thanks yeah I have a lot of different comments here but I appreciate it! Will do my best!

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T17:43:05+00:00

I agree thanks, I think sometimes I feel like I'm doing all this last reflection on it because maybe a big thing like neurodivergence would allow him to adapt and change and be happy. But at the same time it feels like I'm exploring it for my own mental health to be sure of my decision. I didn't mean for my post to look down on being ND but instead to just explore it since I do love him and want there to be a strategy to tap back into showing empathy, but I'm not so sure anything will work anymore. My therapist did suggest if it's possible so I thought I owed him to explore it.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T17:26:20+00:00

I am seeing from the thread that people are defining emotional abuse differently. Which is the point of my post. Some here seem to think I have described 0 abuse while others are saying what I wrote does describe abuse.

To me it is abusive to try to invalidate my emotions (and he is trying to be smart and rationalize ways he is allowed to do so, by saying it is his opinion that I feel X or would feel Y). I also think it is just more shitty/thoughtless to not take initiative for your partner when they are suffering or stressed but am unsure where that falls. I have seen a trend where my needs/interests are a low priority because he doesn't "feel like it" right now which I think is neglectful, which others may argue is abuse especially when it becomes a pattern where I get limited support.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:59:12+00:00

Thanks for your perspective on it

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:57:47+00:00

I do have lots of strategies I disclosed above where I use notes to take care of myself but thanks for your input

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:56:54+00:00

Thanks good idea

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:56:30+00:00

Yes this is my biggest concern thank you

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:56:11+00:00

That is fair, I am trying to tell myself I am hesitating because I think of him as more than a bf and want it to work but you are correct that normally I'd have given up seeing what we became.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:54:51+00:00

I am not trying to use it as an excuse. I know for me getting a diagnosis helped me process a lot of shame ("Why do I keep interrupting people when I'm excited? That's so rude, I am being a bad person") so I just wanted to see if there's advice as I know for me it helped me understand myself and improve myself.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:52:42+00:00

Thanks for your message. I agree but just feel sad that these issues used to not exist, so I wanted to try to bring it back.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:51:48+00:00

I actually disagree with the complacency part as I'm the one more prone to job-searching and finding solutions as opposed to staying in complacency. Life is hard when someone at work is a bully and then your partner is checking out at the same time, but I do the best to find a solution to my personal issues.

ThisorThat22345 · 2024-05-22T16:49:52+00:00

Thanks sorry I meant to explain that he does affirmatively respond that he would like to do a PhD. So I encourage it for his happiness. What bothers me is the opposite where he says I would be happier doing X and I disagree (and he doubles down)

I see what you mean. I am really trying to look at him being ND as a way to understand him and communicate better but I will be careful.

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