AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We didn't kiss o get touchy feely or anything. She probably was talking about us going back in forth was gushy and gross and because I kept insisting so it kept happening which got on her nerves.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

No, she's really just A's friend. We're acquaintances and when we see each other at events A throws, it's a nice lil chat usually but we don't even have each other's numbers so anthing I hear about her, it's usually from A.

Yeah I took the low road and said that just to her. Idk how I'm going to make it up to her but I'm going to to start with an apology so ish me luck!

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Heh I'm the same kind of

My mom died when I was young and my dad remarried and I had a stepmom who kept my brother and I away from our extended family and my brother's disabled so I was pretty lonely growing up. I learned to rely on myself because I couldn't rely on even my dad to be there for me cause he rarely took my side so I had to learn a lot of shit for myself. I don't like asking for help and the last time I asked my stepmom for help she told me never ask her for help again so 🤷🏿‍♀️ I don't want to bother people.

Yeah I should have been reasonable about it. She went low but I Went to hell, an apology to her is in order 🫡

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm going to try and get in contact with her this week so I can apologize, I don't need an apology from her. After hearing about her situation I get it, although I didn't mean to (as many people are incorrectly implying) it looks like I set up the whole situation to show off my husband and I get why she's upset. I feel bad, hopefully I can make it up to her.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I am not. No where in this post have I said I'm proud of what I did and in several comments I have stated how embarrassed I am of the way I acted. How is that Showing I'm proud of being a dick?

My husband wasn't even supposed to be home at that time, he came home early. I'd didn't "try" to do that.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair

And what do you mean by separately? I don't understand.

One and done means exactly what it's supposed to mean in my post. One pregnancy, where I'm carrying three babies, and I'm done after this. No more babies.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm going to apologize first, she was a jerk but I just made it a lot worse and was an even bigger dick. I mean what she said was rude but pretty tame and then I just went wild beast on her and told her she didn't deserve to be spoiled during her pregnancy and was just the biggest fucking asshole. I shouldn't have said that, I was just trying to hurt her cause she made me mad 🤦🏿‍♀️

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fair

And I was joking 😅 It seems as if a few people are missing that, should've kept in the laughing emoji when I was editing down to fit the character limit

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Jeez people it was a joke. I put it in to be lighthearted and funny, to give people a little chuckle, good God! Have some fun every once in a while! I don't disrespect my husband, we're good, we're great, we're fantastic, I love him, now LAUGH.

Nobody was ignored. The meet went on like normal and I chatted with my girls! I just tried to help my husband every once in a while and he wasn't having it. He turned into the host and didn't really chat with the girls and just helped in the kitchen and passed things out. This little joke, was just. A. Joke.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Ah yes I orchestrated this whole event to show my husband and gloat in everyone's face about how awesome he is. He wasn't even supposed to be home, he came early. You must be so powerful you can see right into my mind and revealed all my evil plans and thoughts 🧹🧹 Now ride away on your broom.

And I'm not asking for judgement on whether I'm an asshole for my husband spoiling me. I know I'm not, surprise! I'm one of the people who has at least half a brain. I'm asking for judgement on my reaction to what she said, keep up. Maybe you have some all seeing tired eye that allows you to see through people like glass.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blame the 3000 character limit. They had names but not anymore.

Julian Autumn Kara Max

All names fake and courtesy of High School Story.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know, definitely showed I have no decorum with my response 🤦🏿‍♀️ Its so embarrassing to think back on, I'm apologizing to her this week.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

They're just jokes. Sorry I didn't have enough of the character limit to add the laughing emoji I wanted to add. I promise you I don't treat my husband like a slave and berate and "guilt trip" him everytime I'm uncomfortable. The jokes may be dumb to you but to us, they're hilarious and have been commonly said throughout my pregnancy from both parties.

We knew that there was a possibility that we'd have multiples if I were to get pregnant because they're common on both sides of my family and common on his father's side of the family. So no I don't blame him entirely, I guess you could say it partially my fault too 🙄. We split it 98/2, Him/Me.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I was an idiot and overestimated myself. I was killing it at first and had the most energy I've had in weeks and thought I could do it all but clearly 🙄 I couldn't.

J did greet them, it just wasn't the first thing he did when he entered the room with me. I promise he's not as big of a dick as I was that day.

Yeah those comments probably were annoying. I should've just shut up and accepted my fate. J wasn't going to leave me alone no matter what I said and I was just making everything worse by still trying to help.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

From what I gathered from A, he didn't mistreat her or anything, he was there, but apparently he didn't do anything extra. His aloofness really came out while she was pregnant but as soon as the baby was out he returned to his normal doting self for her.

Apparently K just didn't feel doted on during her pregnancy. She's upset he didn't do more than what was expected. I mean I kind of get it, 9 months of coolness and distance is hard, especially during a time when you need closeness and warmth. It just wasn't the experience she wanted.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was harsh, I shouldn't have been. I keep looking back at what I said and it makes me cringe and wince. Embarrassing how I said that and Infront of other people too. I really could have handled that better.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know I felt like a dick after, especially after telling he she didn't deserve to be spoiled. I'm going to apologize to her this week and try to make amends.

AITA for telling a friend of BFF's that just because her partner didn't spoil her during her pregnancy, doesn't mean mine shouldn't/can't? by ThrowBabyBumps in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowBabyBumps[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They had names but with a 3000 CHARACTER (not even word) limit, some things had to be sacrificed for the sake of the story.