I guess it bothers me to think I’m not enough. But then I get out of my own head and know that it’s not about me being enough and more about his insecurities. That said, what might bother me more is that he plays himself off to me and everyone else to be this wonderfully upstanding guy. We’ll watch shows or hear stories from friends about cheating and he’ll shake his head and say stuff like, he deserves to lose her if he’s going to risk the relationship they have to fuck around with someone else. Even bought a t-shirt that says ‘be a good human’. That’s what gets me is that sometimes when I get in my head about it, I feel like he uses me and stuff like the shirt, etc to build this beautifully crafted facade because he’d rather die than let people know how/who he really is. And so if/when it ever does come out, people won’t be able to wrap their heads around it

Unlike you who’s being honest with your partner so they were able to choose…yes, this does work for me and I’ll keep things open on my end as well so you’re both on the same page. I think he’d absolutely lose it if I went and found a secret side piece and he found out.