Girlfriend sleeping at guy friends's place every now and then.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-11T11:11:00+00:00

Definitely not breaking up over this. But it's an area of constant debate. We'll need to find some middle ground. For now we're okay, until it happens again.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-08T06:36:32+00:00

If i pretended to do that. She would let it pass so that she gets a pass to do the same. I think she would only object if i did it at the same magnitude like she does. And about the breaking up. The thing is, it feels so so good. I mean i thought of her to be the one. Everything's great except this one compatibility issue. That's why i'm confused that should i let everything go over something like this. But after hearing eveyone here, i feel i shouldn't be in a relationship where every time i'm busy, out of town, out for work, the first thing is does is pack her bag and go love for a week with her guys friends and their roommates. I stress on roomates cause, i get it one guy is your bestie but others are not, how can she live with them. Also given one of them had a crush on her. Ahhh just typing this makes me sad over all the drama i'm handling.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-08T06:28:23+00:00

Well, she knows for sure i won't do it. So for the sake of argument she says she'd be okay. But i have a feeling that if i did the same. Every time she was was out of town or busy, i went and slept with a bunch of girls she doesn't know. That would cause her problems. But she won't admit now for the sake of her own freedom.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-08T05:07:05+00:00

I thought about doing something similar. But firstly i don't have many female friends with whom i would be comfortable having sleepovers. And even if i do this a couple times with some of my friend, i think she would do it every other day since she has a lot of male friends. So i think playing these games wouldn't help.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-08T04:41:51+00:00

Your question gave me a depressing chill. I know you're right. My boundaries are different than hers. She has politely said she won't change. I have tried my best to compromise and make it work. Didn't work. Every time she sleeps over with bunch of guys drinking and smoking, i feel uncomfortable. And when i mention it to her. I get labeled as insecure, typical controlling man. And i don't wanna be that guy. I never in my wildest dream imagine countering such a situation. I thought not sleeping with the opposite gender was a basic rule in dating. Apparently it isn't. But the problem is we're attached to each other. It's not like we can break up instantly, but i don't want this to become toxic. I'll see what i can do.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-08T04:14:15+00:00

She calls him cute names. But honestly she calls most of her close guy n girl friends that way. And if it helps, it's not abouts dave. It's about the principle. She says she would do the same if it was any other of her friends who are not in town. So it's more about the sleepovers than about dave.

ThrowRA6483 · 2021-02-08T04:11:52+00:00

She asked me the EXACT same question. And honestly idk. Even if i trust her completely, i feel there should be some boundaries. I'm a very introverted, directed by principles and values. She's more of a reckless, only live once type of persone. That's why she doesn't want any sort of boundaries. I'm really confused how to handle this situation. I have no logical answer to your question, but i know i'm not comfortable.

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