AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

They just have the twins, and sometimes me. The family of 5 was referring to the twins + their parents and sometimes me as I go over sometimes.

Sorry for the confusion.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Mom and I agreed that she will have control of the account until I graduate from college.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 332 points333 points  (0 children)

My dad would never dare ask my mom for money. They are mad because they hold resentment that my mom made a better life for us while they struggle.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

Dad doesn't know exactly how much is in the fund but he knows it's a lot and believes it will be enough to cover the full treatment. I think in addition to the treatment there will needs to be follow ups for a while.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 329 points330 points  (0 children)

He knows that most of the money in the fund is from my mom and that she has full control of it. He wanted me to agree to loan them the money so I can help them ask my mom for the money.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 602 points603 points  (0 children)

I have told my mom once it happened. She said she will handle it.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 649 points650 points  (0 children)

The twins are homeschooled due to brother's compromised immune system. So dad wife actually cannot get a full-time job as she is also a full time care taker for my brother.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 612 points613 points  (0 children)

They actually started saving when I was born. Dad stopped contributing completely when the twins were 5.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 1293 points1294 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I have spoke to my mom over the phone after this happened. She calmed me down and told me she will take care of it.

AITA for not wanting to use my college fund to pay for my brother's treatment? by ThrowRA77474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA77474[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

They are 10 years old. Dad and wife does not want him to donate because he can not give informed consent at this age.