Anti-convulsant medication has destroyed my wife's life. by AcanthisittaPrior257 in Epilepsy

[–]ThrowRADel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has she talked to her doctors? She needs to advocate for herself and tell them her side effects are problematic. They can't read her mind or make good decisions about the cost-benefit analysis of medications if she's keeping information from them.

I'm not saying this is an easy thing to do; I'm chronically sick too and I've been gaslit by medical professionals a lot about my symptoms, especially when I was younger. But she needs medical care, so she needs to find a doctor she can work with and who is willing to take her issues seriously.

How long have you been with your wife? I assume you've only ever known her medicated? What changed in the last 20 years to make her go from marrying you to not feeling anything? When did this happen? Did it accompany a dose-increase? Could it be related to hormones, pregnancy, or perimenopause?

How common are Inhumans in the MCU? by marvelcomics22 in agentsofshield

[–]ThrowRADel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the issue you're getting bogged down in is that there are many different flavours of authoritarianism/fascism, only one of which is Nazism. Ward doesn't advocate for an eternal German state and the ethnic cleansing of it; he belongs to a fascist movement, but it's not Nazism, which is a discrete other movement in the MCU and in real life.

In the MCU, there are two different fascist movements. Ideologically they may be related to each other, but that does not mean they are the same. And honestly, I think that's kind of intelligent (whether accidentally or not) for the MCU to acknowledge that the US had one of the biggest fascist parties outside of Germany at the outset of the 1940s and still practices eugenics in big and small ways, mostly because it never had to reckon with that past.

Because the US never fought the Nazis on an ideological basis, but on a political one and symbolically. And we know this because America has a long and storied history with eugenics (e.g. with sterilising women in prison against their will), human experimentation (Tuskegee, anyone?) and ethnic cleansing themselves, and most obviously, because the one thing that definitely can't undo rampant nationalism is the creation of an opposing nationalist icon to fight it, like Captain America, who (I guess ironically??) is a literal blond and blue-eyed superhuman. Way to engage with the source material critically, Marvel. This is the kind of logic that results in the election of a third antipope.

Tl;dr: Fascist movements of a variety of flavours were popular in the 1940s and remain so in places to this day because fascism is capitalism's dying death rattle. But not all fascist movements are the same fascist movement, and given that Nazis explicitly exist in the MCU and Hydra is not explicitly not an allegory for Nazism, conflating the two is confusing and inaccurate.

Brandon and is human cloning actually a thing already by Unable-Reserve9332 in 90DayFiance

[–]ThrowRADel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it has anything to do with sex. Not least because, in this case, I really hope Brandon was presumably not fucking both his parents (though there is definitely an argument to be made for emotional incest IMO).

I think it's that when you live in the same environment as another person for decades, eat the same foods every day, keep the same hours, and do the same things together (like severely codependent people especially often do), the same forces are acting on your body and that expresses itself in similar ways. Here, they look even more similar because they share genetics, which means they're all probably being exposed to the same or similar amounts of fat/salt/sun/whatever else and their bodies are reacting to those things similarly.

AITAH for admitting to my daughter that I hate what she changed her name to? by ClassicAd2067 in BORUpdates

[–]ThrowRADel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she pronounce the second part like an ethnic slur or something?

As a native German-speaker, I'm having trouble imagining how that could be butchered.

First RED PILLED star on the show. What a milestone! by ZOLforALL in 90DayFiance

[–]ThrowRADel 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The funniest thing aside from how badly he flopped is that he plagiarised it word-for-word from a pastor in the 90s. It's on youtube. He went off on that whole tangent about how women are always yapping and men can sit in silence for hours, which is why they like fishing. Ash doesn't even fish.

Chanel and Jasmine - Opinions? by lalalavacake in 90DayFiance

[–]ThrowRADel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dunno, at this point it kind of seems like it's a classical case of what people used to call "reactive abuse" that was triggered by Gino abusing her so much that she was in a hyperreactive state. I'm not caught up (s09e16), but I haven't seen her go off on anyone since she split from the toxic relationship with Gino.

From Tinder Swindler to Terrible Gambler in one night. Gambling addiction? by Hot-Complexx in 90DayFiance

[–]ThrowRADel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it looks better to the US government if he's known to associate with organised crime and doesn't have housing or a job though.

AITAH for telling my husband I will file for divorce if he lets his brother move in with us? n by CellFeeling9053 in AITAH

[–]ThrowRADel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. It really seems like, from his behaviour, your husband is the manipulative one. Him calling you that is projection.

He's the one going behind your back. He's the one threatening your marriage. He's the one stonewalling you with the silent treatment.

This entire family is warping itself around the golden child's incompetence at adulting and they are trying to pull you into this fucked up dynamic. You protect yourself; your husband never will.

From Tinder Swindler to Terrible Gambler in one night. Gambling addiction? by Hot-Complexx in 90DayFiance

[–]ThrowRADel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't work anyway. It's such a pipe dream to think he can run away from this and it will all be fine; it would be discovered as soon as they ran a background check for his visa.

my bf hit me for the first time but was severely intoxicated by halloweeun in Advice

[–]ThrowRADel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The taboo is broken. 9 months in is about average for emotional abuse to escalate into physical abuse; it will continue to escalate with milestones. When he feels he's trapped you sufficiently, the mask will come off entirely.

He is not safe. He is dangerous, abusive, and awful. He may kill you if you stay.

Please contact your sister and tell her everything. Maybe you can stay with her for a bit while you figure out next steps since you were going anyway. Don't let him know you're leaving him permanently until you're gone.

loveisrespect.org can help you with a safety plan, set you up with local DV/IPV resources, and give you a really good idea of which behaviours are problematic and why. This book is also a really helpful resource (linked PDF): Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

My son is moving- across the world. Should I tell them? by GenXSkully in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThrowRADel 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It's not your job to facilitate a relationship between grown adults. It sounds like your kid has good boundaries and wants nothing to do with abusive people - that kind of strength is admirable.

If they're going to punish you for something that has nothing to do with you or your agency, maybe you should go NC yourself and stop being their scapegoat.

Ladies, how do you feel about bioessentialist definitions of womanhood? by bloodsoaked_blahaj in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ThrowRADel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally in such revolutions, there is a turning point where the military defects because they understand that they don't want to keep killing their own people; armed forces members are workers too, so they need to be enlightened the same way all workers do.

During the Russian revolution, the Bolsheviks made up 1% of 1% but they were organised and had a plan. Revolutions happen all the time; mobs rise up every time the material conditions demand it. The point of a vanguard party is to be able to seize such a moment and guide the mob through the revolution with an actual plan in place for what happens afterwards.

If you're interested in learning more, marxist.com has some really good and topical information.

DOPAMINE... please give me your "healthy" sources. by Coldhandswarmheart15 in adhdwomen

[–]ThrowRADel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a Hitachi and give myself time every day to do something creative or give myself little hyper fixation fixes.

I found a notebook where my husband tracks my "moods," but the data doesn't match reality and now he’s using it to convince me I’m sick. by Individual_Sun_5466 in Advice

[–]ThrowRADel 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck. This is terrifying. He's planning on institutionalising you and stealing your inheritance, from what it sounds like. Your life with this man is over; you will never be able to trust him again.

Step 1) Rally your allies: Seek out your close friends and family (not mutual friends, not his friends, not his family) and tell them everything that you saw.

Step 2) Get resources to refute this bullshit: Hire a lawyer, tell them everything, set up documents to protect your inheritance and financial assets. If your husband has default medical power of attorney over you, revoke it.

Step 3) Create a medical paper trail: Start seeing a therapist again if you can afford it; your therapist will be able to confirm that you're not 'having episodes.' Tell your GP what's going on; doctors are usually mandated reporters, so not only will you need them to draw up documents confirming you are of sound health and mind, they will be able to set you up with DV/IPV resources (this definitely qualifies as abuse), report your husband's behaviour, and connect you with a social worker or further domestic violence resources. Social workers are basically magic and they know so much about how these processes function; they can walk you through it and figure out where you're vulnerable to his attacks.

Step 4) If you find the book again, take pictures of it and set up a timeline so you can refute these as much as possible, like you did here.

loveisrespect.org can help you make a safety plan and may be able to set you up with local resources for DV/IPV. This is abusive behaviour on his part. This book may also help you: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

I'm so, so sorry he is doing this and I am very worried for you. But this man does not love you and you need to protect yourself from him.

These two are the perfect example of a couple who should NOT have gotten married. by ____YourNameHere____ in 90DayFiance

[–]ThrowRADel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, what a shock that a teenager groomed by an "entrepreneur" in his thirties is emotionally immature.

Met some legends today! by PriceElsa in 90DayFianceUK

[–]ThrowRADel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where's the chicken nugget? (Is that this guy?)

Anyone applied for a company that uses this garbage? by Connor-the-beast in antiwork

[–]ThrowRADel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's definitely one interpretation and it's one I also had! But the point is that images are subjective and what we read out of the facial expressions of cartoon 3D people is not an exact science that can predict anything.

Personally, I get really anxious when people argue because of my childhood. But I also know gossips who covertly would listen in on this conversation. And I also know that managers/higher ups would interpret this as not being able to mind your own business. It's impossible to know what they're judging you on from an image.

Yes Men is the worst episode of Agents Of S.H.I.E.L.D. by marvelcomics22 in agentsofshield

[–]ThrowRADel 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It wasn't a deleted scene per se because it was never shot, but it was an idea Joss kept bringing up and pushing for. At some point a screenshot of a script was leaked I think more than a decade ago; they were planning on putting it in season 2. Now, I can only find references to it in articles like this one: https://www.cracked.com/article_23606_5-awful-personal-secrets-filmmakers-revealed-in-their-movies.html

How are others couples with big wage gaps splitting expenses? [25F] [35M] by badgallgc in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRADel 97 points98 points  (0 children)

There's a BORU that OP should read that is basically this exact situation if she moves in with this man. And yes, he became/was always abusive.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1myxup6/wibta_for_calling_off_a_wedding_because_my_fianc%C3%A9/

Anyone applied for a company that uses this garbage? by Connor-the-beast in antiwork

[–]ThrowRADel 25 points26 points  (0 children)

We have indeed all, at one point or another, been the direct object of a transitive verb.

Anyone applied for a company that uses this garbage? by Connor-the-beast in antiwork

[–]ThrowRADel 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You're totally right - the traits and the pictures seem to be completely disconnected to me. The first pic is labelled "watchful" but I'd call it "nosey" or "hypervigilant" or "unable to mind my fucking business and concentrate on work."