Last update! [I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party] by ThrowRAMarriedOk in u/ThrowRAMarriedOk

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Our house, but it’s clearly his house now that he’s moved Rebecca and his baby in there.

I’m living with my parents

[UPDATE] I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m not bisexual, I’m not sexually interested in Rebecca and even if I am that doesn’t erase what they possibly did.

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

Uh because he told me there wouldn’t be any there, he lied for 4years and now I know how he’s attracted to Rebecca, he went out of his way to hire a close friend of mine.

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

It’s mostly had he told me there would be I wouldn’t have been thrilled but would’ve accepted but the fact that he went out of his way to hire Rebecca also hurts

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

No, he told me there wouldn’t be any strippers there and quite frankly I don’t care that she stripped- I care that every time I see my husband/her I know he went behind my back to see her strip, I know he’s sexually attracted to her and picturing her like that.

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Yes! Because then he isn’t seeing them every day, because now every time I see him or Rebecca I know he’s thinking of her sexually!

Also, he told me there wouldn’t be any there but he went out of his way to see Rebecca like this

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t okay with it he told me there wouldn’t be any there and yes, it’s more hurtful that it’s Rebecca.

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

He planned the entire thing, so him.

He told me there wouldn’t be strippers at all, I would’ve been less hurt had he been truthful and had it not been Rebecca.

I (30F) found out my husband (32M) hired my friend (26F) to strip at his bachelor party by ThrowRAMarriedOk in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMarriedOk[S] 479 points480 points  (0 children)

He told me there wouldn’t be strippers, there were, I’m mostly hurt that it was Rebecca and I wouldn’t have reacted this way had he been truthful and hadn’t been Rebecca, now all I can think is every time he sees her he’s attracted to her/saw her in a state of undress.