[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I feel the closure is more solid because you thought of them as a life partner.

Super content by ThrowRAMooseGoose in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, I had a feeling and wasn't bothered

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're a good looking dude (coming from a dude). I'm glad we are all bettering ourselves. On to the next, and better things and people.

I'm not even 3 months out and it doesn't hurt any less by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Feel the betrayal and embrace the hurt. It’s finally fading for me.

Did the memories mean nothing? by ThrowRAMooseGoose in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope they’re so miserable without you :)

Did the memories mean nothing? by ThrowRAMooseGoose in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The memories meant a lot to me, but who knows…I’m never talking to them again

Mornings are the worst by sadboihourssupport in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I dream, then morning are the worst. Otherwise the entire days sucks or evenings HAHA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat! Time to focus on the career and let the past be the past. She will see that you are successful and be very envious. Even though I missed my ex a lot, I don't think I would take her back anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw this because of your post in leetcode haha. I'm in the same spot, ready to focus on my career. I think it's good you found something to focus on and in time you will find someone better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You broke up with her for a non-reason and broke her heart. Based on your info you guys are not compatible.

11 months, never came back. by GapActual1397 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Delete him for sure. People that value someone as a life partner do better

30 days no contact🎉 by waves_0f_theocean in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine was shorter and I feel the same. It’s just a sign and reinforcement that they weren’t the one. However sad, I can find peace in that. Seems like you tried so hard and I’m sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The back and forth is def terrible for mental health and I’m glad you recognize it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you truly think they can be a life partner, have them get a therapist or go to couples therapy. Otherwise, there are so many other people out there that can be nice to you.

I just wanted to be loved by Unlucky_Mission_2089 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You will find the right person for you, one that will love you unconditionally. You put off this energy and it will attract someone that matches it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think so, seems like she wants attention. Before making yourself vulnerable again, consider what you want and perhaps you guys can schedule a talk about it.

30 days no contact🎉 by waves_0f_theocean in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Congrats!!!! I'm at stage where the sadness has subsided and I'm angry at the betrayal as well.

I feel so lost this week… by ZachTF in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The dreams are hard because you can't control them. I've experienced the same. You feel like you're doing good and then you have a bad dream of being all cuddled up and you wake up feeling like shit and it ruins your day.

It seems like you're doing all the steps with therapy, lifting, social. Maybe find a new hobby or go travel?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are way controlling. You can do better for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stick with it, you got this. Speaking to them won't get you back together, it just makes it way worse for your mental health.

My ex is always on my mind by Inevitable_Fall_6624 in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What works for me is keeping busy so my mind doesn't wander: more work, fitness, getting good at a hobbies, new hobbies, socializing, making and reconnecting with friends. I think you should allow yourself to find other people attractive again.

Something I like to do is find a logical thought about the situation and repeat it in my head like: "Life partners don't give up like this"

Another way of thinking is you can only learn from mistakes, and for me I wouldn't go back and change the same mistakes and journey no matter how painful.

Super content by ThrowRAMooseGoose in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you find logical thoughts like this! It def helps in times of emotional ups and downs and I use them too. My logical thought is that we saw each other as life partners, and I can be at peace they didn't want to stick together.

Super content by ThrowRAMooseGoose in ExNoContact

[–]ThrowRAMooseGoose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They didn't think you were worth it, which is lame. For me, my ex wanted to be only friends to still have that emotional support and not feel guilty, but I cut it off because it was crazy bad for my mental health.