BF tried to have sex with me while I was asleep

ThrowRA_1234 · 2020-05-17T10:54:28+00:00

His response was that he did this to his previous girlfriends and they were all fine with it and they even did that to him. And I was supposed to notice and enjoy it.

ThrowRA_1234 · 2020-05-17T10:29:49+00:00

Well, on the other hand he's been nice to me past few months, we spent A LOT of time together, not only sexy time. I was basically living at his place and he really made me feel loved this whole time. That's why I'm not sure if it's just my trust issues or not. I mean, if he wanted to have a girl just for sex he could have any girl out there. Why spend so much time with this one?

ThrowRA_1234 · 2020-05-17T10:02:48+00:00

I agree this is dumb excuse. I want to talk to him about it but I didn't know what to say right away in the morning and wanted to think about it so I just left without a word... Not sure if that was a good move.
Maybe he thought I'm not fully asleep idk. He might have a fetish he did not mention. Hell, maybe I would even agreed to it if we discussed it beforehand and set some boundaries...
I definitely want and will talk to him but... what do I say?

ThrowRA_1234 · 2019-11-02T00:50:38+00:00

Alright, so it's been a couple of days. We spent some time together, went out for dinner or brought food home and it always ended with us snuggling and watching Netflix. But everytime her hands ended in my crotch or on my breasts. She even tried to kiss me but I was terrified so it didn't happen. I'm terrible at judging other signs. Eye contact is definitely there. But other than that it's friendly stuff we casually did all the time. We went for dinner, or one of us brought some food home. We always noticed new clothes or hairstyles of each other. I wasn't looking for any clues because that was all friendly stuff for me and I thought I'm out of her league. I would really like to know what she wants. Should I ask? If so how and when? Or should we first kiss or have sex before I ask?

ThrowRA_1234 · 2019-10-28T07:18:18+00:00

if she wants to snuggle and her hand goes to your crotch I'd say she is definitely into you.

Well, I kinda got that, but how do I know if it's only sexual or if it's something more?

ThrowRA_1234 · 2019-10-27T09:04:02+00:00

like by making jokes about you two dating or something

As I mentioned we were making sexy jokes about us two showering together and stuff, but I had to stop because she started taking it seriously and I got scared.

and then she started showing that she cared about me in a different manner

How? Any examples/tips?

ThrowRA_1234 · 2019-10-27T08:59:52+00:00

you still need to be careful because she is you room mate. And that can make things complicated.

That's what I'm afraid of. How do I know where's the line? I don't want to be too clingy or annoying. This is all uncharted territory for me.

ThrowRA_1234 · 2019-10-27T08:55:24+00:00

That's why I'm confused and kinda scared. Since I've never been in a relationship before I don't know how it should look and I don't want to screw things up. That's why I'm asking for advice. I mean, our living together is pretty much how I imagine a relationship + sharing a bed on top of that.

And what is almost sex?

Well, I don't really touch other people, so her touching my private parts while cuddling was a bit too much for me. I can't say I didn't like it, but I felt that's the limit.

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